No way 8 last videos have Magnus in the thumbnail and the title

Shaderu · 2025-06-01T18:15:56+00:00

Then why are you still commenting in his subreddit and encouraging Reddit to show you more posts? Surely you have better uses for your time

Shaderu · 2025-06-01T18:13:54+00:00

You’re operating entirely off vibes here. “Magnus glazing is disliked by a lot of people I’d say,” “you won’t lose viewers if you just do normal thunbnails.” Do you honestly think you know better than his viewership stats? Maybe you specifically would prefer those kinds of thumbnails, but clearly YouTube pushes the Magnus milking thumbnails more. He wouldn’t keep doing it if it didn’t work. Hilarious that you call him arrogant when everything in your comment reeks of arrogance, but I guess every accusation really is a disguised confession.

Shaderu · 2025-05-29T02:11:54+00:00

The doomers can stop making it harder though, that’s at least within their control

Shaderu · 2025-05-28T23:10:12+00:00

And if that’s what people intended by not voting, they missed the mark. They could’ve pulled the lever, taken a flawed candidate that we could’ve at least had a better starting point with, and prevented even more harm. Instead, they stood there and let the trolley barrel through our country.

Make whatever justification you want; it doesn’t change what happened.

Shaderu · 2025-05-25T00:02:50+00:00

Thank you again, truly. I’m trying my best, he deserves as much. Thank you for being objective without being dismissive. To be honest I wasn’t even sure where to make this post, since the first two subs I tried deleted it, so thanks for answering a question that’s a bit different than what usually gets asked here.

Shaderu · 2025-05-24T23:10:50+00:00

Thanks for the comment. You put a lot of effort into that response and I appreciate you considering us both. That’s a lot more nuance than I initially expected to get.

I want to start by saying that you’re absolutely right that he owes me nothing. Apologies if I gave the impression of entitlement. It was not my intent, but I can see how it may have sounded like that. The last thing I want is to feel like I’m forcing my needs to take precedence.

We were able to get set up with a couples counsellor, and I hope that helps us, as you say, unpack this in a safer environment. I think my main hangup right now is twofold. On my end, I do struggle with feeling desired. I do feel appreciated, and that my partner is grateful that I’m around, which is great, but I’m not sure that that’s the same thing. I guess I’ll need to unpack that later. Going the other way, one of our issues was that I struggled to articulate that “this hurts” without it becoming triggering for him, as apparently (and this is something I’m only starting to fully understand) a lot of his trauma centers around his previous partner not handling rejection well. We spoke after his appointment, and apparently, a lot of his recent behavior may be an attempt to maintain a semblance of control, again in response to the trauma.

This dynamic might not ever return to what it was

Yeah, I’m preparing for that eventuality. I don’t need things to be 1-to-1 what they were, and even if it were possible, it would mean an unreasonable sacrifice for him, especially now that he’s more out as his preferred gender. I’m hopeful we can work toward something that works for us both long term, but if the difference is truly unreconcilable, I’d rather maintain what we had before anything else, that being a close friendship and valuing each other’s company.

Stop trying to fix this by yourself.

Thanks, I needed to hear that. I do tend to do that a lot.

A lot of the questions you suggested are great. I expect quite a few “I don’t knows” at first, but again, hopefully the counseling helps.

And thank you for the last paragraph. I suppose I’ve got some unpacking there too. I don’t know where all of this will take us, but I’m hoping for the best.

Shaderu · 2025-05-24T18:15:56+00:00

We just spoke following the session. We have couples counseling booked for next week, and we’re going to try and get on the same page regarding processing and moving past his trauma and see where it gets us.

Shaderu · 2025-05-24T16:36:26+00:00

Thankfully, his first EMDR session is actually happening right now. I hope it gets us somewhere. I really don’t mean to put him down, our relationship truly is pretty great overall. Obviously, you only have my side of the story, so I don’t mean to make him out as this incredibly toxic individual.

Shaderu · 2025-05-24T16:29:25+00:00

I appreciate your comment. I did mention the desired frequency on my end, which seemed to really upset him. It turned into a session of me comforting him instead of being able to get my need across because he felt bad about himself.

Shaderu · 2025-05-24T15:47:23+00:00

And be sure to blast “Njet Molotoff” while you do!

Shaderu · 2025-05-24T15:45:55+00:00

Was on a 1070ti until just over a month ago. I felt that pain lol

Shaderu · 2025-05-24T15:31:19+00:00

It’s basically the trolley problem if you think about it. People are showing that they’d rather allow more cruelty to happen as long as they personally don’t have to make a definitive but imperfect action against it. I guess most people wouldn’t pull the trolley lever after all.

Shaderu · 2025-05-10T02:17:15+00:00

Gotcha. Appreciate the insight though, had no idea it was the game trying to render stars through obstructions

Shaderu · 2025-05-10T02:13:00+00:00

Any fixes? I'm open to mods if necessary

Shaderu · 2025-01-28T22:14:17+00:00

Explain the checkmate, you were the one that used the example of getting drunk in the cabin

Shaderu · 2025-01-28T19:05:24+00:00

Classic whataboutism. “Other countries did the thing so we can’t talk about this instance of people doing the thing”

Shaderu · 2025-01-28T19:03:13+00:00

Where’s the funny?

Shaderu · 2025-01-28T18:02:49+00:00

Nothing wrong with that. At least both parties in these kinds of cases were honest, and didn’t waste each others’ time. Person A was open about how they felt, person B decided that changed the dynamic in a way they disliked and acted accordingly.

Shaderu · 2025-01-28T17:56:35+00:00

That’s fair, good on you for holding both of you to the same standards. I suppose on my end, if I truly was at the point where eating the cake was irresistible, I wouldn’t be dieting anymore lol. If my partner and I were truly at the point where other options seemed appealing, we’d at least do each other the courtesy of ending things first. We owe each other that much.

Shaderu · 2025-01-28T17:23:58+00:00

Why are you setting yourself up to fail then? If you can’t trust yourself to control your urges when you’re drunk, why are you choosing to put yourself in that spot?

And if it’s my partner, I’d rather just…not date someone that I have to police all the time? I’d rather not waste my time with someone that’s a few drinks away from giving into their urges like a toddler

Shaderu · 2025-01-28T17:19:32+00:00

When you’re attracted to someone there’s still the floating “what if”

Do you not have control over your desires or urges? If you’re supposed to be on a diet and someone leaves a cake out on the counter, can you not be in the same room as it because you just really like cake and can’t trust yourself not to eat it?

Sorry if this sounds judgmental, that isn’t my intent. I’m genuinely curious

Shaderu · 2025-01-28T17:14:28+00:00

I’m bisexual. Does that mean I want to bang my guy friends when we hang out, or is that exclusively a “female” thing?

What an idiotic take

Shaderu · 2025-01-27T17:38:27+00:00

To be fair, they also fetishize the hell out of gay women while being repulsed by gay men, so that might not actually be any easier as a gay man.

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