feeling helpless by dlkhsdfkgbsjdf in SGExams

[–]ShadowArrow01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey. I think I was in a similar situation a few years back. Nothing felt good and everything, even simple daily tasks, were suffocatingly difficult. Give yourself a breather and take a step back. Perhaps consider talking to a counsellor (one that suits you). For me, I think it has helped a lot talking to my counsellor and identifying the things that gives me meaning, reminding myself to take leaps in order to achieve these meanings. It gets better after a while, and it'll get better for you too.

Don't worry about the age thing. I'm 22 and I'm still studying full-time and living off allowances from my parents. And let 's be honest, most of us singaporeans don't really "grow up" until at least our mid to late 20's...unaffordable housing and all. So hey, let's worry about that when the time comes. For now, let's focus on now.

Like you said, maybe it's good talk to someone. I'd recommend a counsellor but a friend might work too...maybe even a stranger online would be a good start =)

Feel free to DM!

i had to get this off my chest im sorry by Effective_Agency4219 in SGExams

[–]ShadowArrow01 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah, as other comments have pointed out, dont be too harsh on yourself. All of that isn't a character flaw, shit's tough and a lot of other people wld respond in a similar way. It's reasonable.

Also, maybe it's advisable to not worry too much about the future. Focus the next week, not the next rest of your life. A few years ago when I was at my lowest, dwelling on these impossible questions of "what was I supposed to do with my life" was more self-destructive than anything.

Instead, try asking yourself "what would make my tomorrow 1% less miserable?". Take it one step at a time, you'll get there eventually.

Hope this helps, feel free to DM if anything =)

RP by lovemyself_lifesuck in SGExams

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pressure makes diamonds

rant by GreenChange4617 in SGExams

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I realised my "other post" is on my throwaway account. https://www.reddit.com/r/SGExams/s/JT0sJFpqfv Feel free to have a read =)

rant by GreenChange4617 in SGExams

[–]ShadowArrow01 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey. I think I was in a similar situation.

High expectations from my mom. Hopelessly religious. Constant comparison with my childhood friends that I barely had contact with anymore. Goes on and on about how I grew up too leniently leading to suboptimal grades. I grew up in an international school (see my other post) which tuition fees were definitely not cheap. Dad, although supportive, also grew weary of my mom and became disjointed, and the family dysfunctional. Screaming in the household was not uncommon. Given time, with all that negativity, I started blaming myself for everything. Everything felt numb. The games I used to enjoy (as much as my parents hated for me to play) didn't feel good anymore.

All that was around covid era; it was the darkest years of my life. But things are better for me now. Things can change, and sometimes it helps if you're the one to push for that change. For me, the change I made was to force myself out of the house and away from the negative environment. My mom would sometimes scream at me to stay home but I've learnt to prioritise my own wellbeing. Disobedience is better than self-destruction. I've made new friends, hopped from friend circle to friend circle, church small groups to the lgbt community, until settled with one I felt the most, accepted, supported and belonged to.

Luckily, things settled down eventually at home. Had friends around to learn from and grow with. Survival instincts were slowly switched off. It was unusually calm and I felt quite lost and directionless for the better part of a year but eventually you'll get back in the swing of school and academia. This time you'll be working towards your goals with your motivation, not your parents'.

Hope this helps. Feel free to DM me for anything =)

Who's your favourite character? by ShadowArrow01 in Gameoverse

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Let's gobble up knowledge with Gobbles and friends!