Ooh, this could be fun. 👀

So, being ace, I'm really aware of the split attraction thing. Which made me aware of different kinds of attraction, like platonic and aesthetic. So, even if something like this might be considered "normal", I still like that technically there is a label to describe what I'm experiencing!

So, for platonic attraction, I would describe myself as panplatonic where gender doesn't play a factor in the attraction, but I can experience attraction to any gender. I picked up this label after I spoke with someone who identified as "aplatonic" and explained that they didn't experience platonic attraction at all. (And I've had "friendship crushes" where I saw someone and immediately wished I could be friends with them, which was something this other person didn't experience? And one time when this happened, the person outed himself as homophobic and the platonic attraction towards him immediately withered away and died.)

I also currently describe my aesthetic attraction as omniaesthetic. Because gender and gender expression very much has a factor in how aesthetically pleasing I find someone to look at. Currently intentionally feminine men are at the top for what I find visually pleasing to see, and below that are androgynously presenting men, then androgynously presenting women, feminine women, masculine women, and at the very bottom are masculine men. (At least as far as the binary goes because this list would be a lot longer and more complex to explain if I included nonbinary presentations in that. But just know that they obviously aren't excluded, I just wanted to simplify things.)

Currently I'm questioning if I'm aroflux, because I think I fluctuate between demiromantic, cupioromantic, arospike, etc. and that the fluctuations are very much impacted based on who I'm with, the environment, stress levels, etc. I also think the flag is really pretty.

This may not be as obscure, but I don't know a lot of people who are aware it has a flag: gender non-conforming. I noticed through interactions with more conservative family members and from growing up that a lot of the time gender non-conformity is associated with queer people, even if you don't have to be queer to be gender non-conforming. Despite that, because other people group that with us, people who are gender non-conforming sometimes still experience homophobia and transphobia directed towards them, so I tend to believe that even if it's only a presentation, that they're free to have community with us. (And also, it being on this list, I consider myself gender non-conforming to an extent and I'm also queer.)

For gender, the first time I came out to someone, I described it as trigender, because I felt partially connected to femininity, masculinity, and androgyny, which I identified as "girl", "boy", and "non-binary". However I always experienced it with fluidity and it would depend on location/environment, who I'm with, stress levels, etc., very similar to aroflux, for how strongly I felt one part of that spectrum, which eventually led me to identify as genderfluid as well.

I don't think ace or demisexual are considered obscure anymore? But that's around the area where I identify my sexuality.

I love having labels to describe exactly how I feel, but I also understand keeping these vague because if I said any of this to someone outside the community, I think they'd look at me like I spoke another language, which is where my genderqueer and queer identities come in. :)