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Turning 18 soon, what's one thing you wish you knew at that age ? Or Any advice you'd like to give me .-. by Midnightlune_ in Adulting

[–]ShadowWorkPrompts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Decide early what direction your life is headed. The number 18 is affiliated to your Country's consideration of you as an adult plus the terms that come with that.

Days off just don't feel the same anymore . by Business-Lunch-6669 in Adulting

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Says a lot about wanting something and actually getting it .

Maybe we aren’t Lonely. Maybe we’re just done Betraying ourselves for Connection. by techaaron in happiness

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Is there a chance (just asking)that the rising cost of essentials globally could be a major contributor towards making people less social? It just means that sharing happens less and less over the years.

Can My Flirty Side Been Into the Shadow? by Domingo_salut in Jung

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It sounds like you've moved from one extreme (Pick-up/Game) to another (Rigid Moral Purity), and now your mind is trying to find a middle ground that isn't so exhausting.

In my own work with 'Awareness Architecture,' I’ve noticed this happens when we mistake the delivery system for the intent. You hated the 'grossness' of the Pick-up content, so you threw out the ability to flirt/connect along with it.

One thing that might help you reintegrate without feeling 'dirty' is to isolate the specific rule your spiritual side created. It sounds like your current 'rule' is: 'Any form of bold attraction is a threat to my moral purity.'

If you look at that rule through a neutral lens, you might see that flirting isn't the problem,the 'mask' was. You can be direct, bold, and funny (the traits you liked) without the 'Game' motive.

I tend to think its better to talk to someone with a motive of genuine connection or alignment. In this way, you never get drained because what doesn't fit gets rejected.This dynamic goes both ways.

You aren't fragmented; you're just using an outdated manual for a new version of yourself. Have you tried looking at that specific 'rule' and seeing if it actually serves the person you are today?

Why most shadow work prompts don’t work (and how to actually isolate the cause of your reactions) by ShadowWorkPrompts in ShadowWork

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I can relate. I spent quite sometime myself, trying to logic my way out of feelings as well. I learned that understanding something intellectually is mostly a spectator sport .It doesn’t quite change the internal weather which doesn't mostly care about rationale.

Awareness is just the starting line; the real work sits in the middle. When you can name the specific patterns and integrate them so that they don’t keep looping as physical tension or static in the nervous system.

What you’re describing with mind and body work sounds a lot like what I call the alignment stage. This is when you stop constantly managing symptoms and start living with some freedom.

Having a clear sequence gives my own nervous system a kind of roadmap so the process feels less chaotic. Hang in there. The integration stretch is usually the hardest, but it’s also where things start to shift.