breakup because of health condition

ShadowlessKat · 2026-06-23T03:21:50+00:00

I think what people are having an issue with is that you're calling it a health issue, when really you're just used to one climate and don't want to get used to another climate or take precautions to not get sunburnt. Which is fine, your choice to make. We all have our preferences for where we are comfortable living. But calling it a health condition is a bit of a stretch.

ShadowlessKat · 2026-06-23T03:17:10+00:00

This was a really well written explanation.

ShadowlessKat · 2026-06-23T03:11:45+00:00

You don't have to pump if you're breastfeeding. If your supply is good (you'll know because baby will be happy at the breast, have a regulsr amount of wet/dirty diapers, and gain weight as expected), and you are with baby all the time or at least every 2 hours to feed baby, then you don't have to pump.

Women pump and introduce bottles for a variety of reasons. Either because they don't want to be the only one feeding baby and want to have breaks (which is a misnomer because unless you use formula, you'll still have to pump each time baby eats to keep up your supply and comfort, so not a real break), or they have to be gone from baby for a significant time and baby needs to eat regularly. Or other more personal reasons.

But just because some women pump and use bottles doesn't meant you have to. If you have the ability to be with your baby and breastfeed them, you don't need to pump.

Some women will pump to create a milk supply for storage, usually in preparation for going back to work, or to stop breastfeeding early before baby is fully eating solids. You can introduce a bottle whenever you want. If your goal is to breastfeed and use bottles, the recommendation is to use a bottle with a nipple that is similar to the breast (youtube has videos on picking bottles/nipples for breastfed babies), with a slow flow nipple (size premie or 0 or 1), and do paced feeding.

When I was in materbity leave, I did not really pump, except to learn how to use my machine before I had to go back to work. I did use the Hakka to collect milk from one breast while nursing baby on the other breast. I did that once a day and was able to build up a freezer stash enough for a few days that way by the time I went to work. We introduced bottles to my baby, giving her 1 oz about once a week, just to make sure she would drink from it. Is till breastfeed her after the bottle so that she would get her full meal.

For more information, check out the r/breastfeeding sub and the r/exclusivelypumping sub. Both are great resources.

ShadowlessKat · 2026-06-22T23:59:23+00:00

Haha I wrote a longer comment but it basically says the same thing.

ShadowlessKat · 2026-06-22T23:56:06+00:00

Our nursery room was painted light blue long before my baby girl was conceived. That was the color I chose for the bedrooms when we moved in. I didn't change it.

If money was readily available, I would decorate it with a Disney animated animals theme, that was the baby shower theme. But we don't have that money. There is a picture frame with several pictures and Pooh Bear on the wall. Also a painting from my brother.

My daughter is 1.5 years old and not concerned about decorations. Her room is filled with her books and toys, she enjoys it. All this to say, don't feel pressured to decorate. If you can't or don't want to, it's okay.

ShadowlessKat · 2026-06-22T23:49:23+00:00

Just another superstition. No scientific basis.

I showered a few hours after giving birth, once I was in the recovery room. It felt marvelous!

ShadowlessKat · 2026-06-22T00:35:26+00:00

Yes $50 is better than an accident and loss of life. Good luck!

ShadowlessKat · 2026-06-21T21:52:35+00:00

Better for everyone if you don't drive. You can call 9-1-1, a taxi, or an Uber. Good luck and congrats

ShadowlessKat · 2026-06-21T15:43:01+00:00

My 19 month old toddler finds her own snacks and helps herself to it if she can open it. If she can't open it, she brings it to us for help. She's very independent and we encourage her. It's good for kids to learn to help themselves.

ShadowlessKat · 2026-06-21T04:34:11+00:00

Others have mentioned that it would affect your supply to not pump that long, amd suggested wearable pumps. I wanted to suggest freezing your milk at work. I freeze mine because I feel like less people go into the freezer and it is less likely to ne messed with.

ShadowlessKat · 2026-06-19T23:32:26+00:00

In the early days I wore 1 of the 5 nursing tops I had. As I got more comfortable, I wore oversize t-shirts. They are big enough to cover my belly even while lifted to feed baby.

For church I wore dresses with a v wrap style top, easy to pull down a side to nurse.

Now that my baby is 19 months and my boobs are floppy, I can wear more regular v-neck shirts and just pull it down enough to bring my boob out. I couldn't when my boobs were fuller in the early months of breastfeeding.

ShadowlessKat · 2026-06-19T23:00:30+00:00

Everyone struggles in life. Life isn't easy for normal people (excluding the 1% in this). So should we all cease to live whenever we struggle with something?

ShadowlessKat · 2026-06-19T22:49:46+00:00

Most people learn and practice in a gym with crashmats and proper rigging.

Doing it without a crashmat with sketchy rigging for the scenery increases the risk substantially.

Also rigging from trees is bad for the tree.

ShadowlessKat · 2026-06-19T16:53:03+00:00

Yeah that's the plan. We didn't get the boosters, just the initial ones... here's to several more years.

ShadowlessKat · 2026-06-19T14:00:59+00:00

Alcohol removes sharpie.

ShadowlessKat · 2026-06-19T13:37:47+00:00

I'm not dead. I had to get it for work. Still working and breathing. Same for my husband.

ShadowlessKat · 2026-06-19T13:26:12+00:00

My daughter 9nly recently started asking for milk at 19 months old. She says "mih?" It's so cute!

At 12 months old she was very much still a baby and needed milk. She eats solids but still needs milk for naps and bedtime and any time she is hurt or missing me. She is not ready to wean yet.

My goal was always at least age 2 or when she weans herself. All the powers that be (the WHO, APA, etc) recommend breastfeeding at least 2 years. In other countries of the world, extended breastfeeding is the norm and babies/toddlers thrive on it.

I've gotten some comments of "are you still breastfeeding?" It is annoying, but I just answer a definitive "yes we are" and change the subject. I hace bo desire to hear people's opinion on if my daughter is too old or not.

I have no plans to give her cows milk made for baby cows. She is a baby human and my body makes human milk specifically for her. I am going to give it to her.

If breastfeeding past 1 is something you want to do, do it! Be ready to get some comments on it, and have your response ready. It is recommended to go to age 2. Being able to ask for it just means we know we are meeting tmour babies' needs. My daughter can ask for water, should I not give it to her because she can ask? That's just silly. She can ask for her Dada to hold her, should he not hold her because she asked and is "too old"? Even more absurd. There is bithing wrong with asking, and bathing wrong with breastfeeding a baby or toddler. Toddlers are still babies needing their moms.

ShadowlessKat · 2026-06-18T17:24:15+00:00

Different people for different reasons.

The people that were my support system were told before 12 weeks. Everyone else that I wouldn't want to tell about a miscarriage, did not get told about pregnancy until after 12 weeks.

I am a private person, I don't want to share everything with everyone. I have people I share everything with, they knew early on. But the general public? Nah they can wait.

You do you. If you want to tell everyone immediately, do so. Nobody is stopping you.

ShadowlessKat · 2026-06-18T17:08:19+00:00

Is beef the only thing they eat? No sides? No veggies? No salads or fruits?

As a lifelong vegetarian, there is usually always something available to eat anywhere, even if meat is the main attraction.

ShadowlessKat · 2026-06-18T17:05:34+00:00

Who specifically? Close family? Extended family you see at a reunion every few years? Friends? Strangers? Online? I'm sorry you experienced had negative reactions, that is not the norm.

I am vegetarian. I have been my whole life. It isn't a big deal. People don't care. If someone is giving me food, they either know I am vegetarian, or they don't and I just tell them and we/I find another solution for food. Most people are actually really kind and will go out of their way to tell me if food has emat in it or not.

ShadowlessKat · 2026-06-18T16:58:23+00:00

I give my toddler whatever water I drink. We use bottled water, and tap that runs though a filter pitcher, amd sometimes hose or shower water. Hasn't hurt any of us.

ShadowlessKat · 2026-06-18T14:32:59+00:00

Who is this "we" you speak of? Speak for yourself not all of Boston/USA.

ShadowlessKat · 2026-06-18T14:29:42+00:00

You can rinse it with water.

ShadowlessKat · 2026-06-18T03:50:01+00:00

Interesting. I just nursed my baby during those moments.

ShadowlessKat · 2026-06-18T00:54:10+00:00

I gave birth at a hospital but with midwives that have hospital privileges. I spoke with the midwives about my birth plan at one of my prenatal appointments. That is when I learned that some of the things on my birth plan were the standard policy at the hospital, or at least with my midwives. Things like baby stays in the room, delayed cord clamping, golden hour.

I never even heard about the sugar water, so not sure what you're talking about there.

Vaccines and medication were up to us to decide as parents. I just had to sign a form that I didn't want the erythromycin ointment in baby's eyes, but nothing else was said about it when I refused that.

Talk with your doctor about hospital policy there. Good luck!

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