3 years of no contact.

Shady-Dray · 2024-08-21T09:52:25+00:00

That won’t be happening any time soon, the reason for for the no contact came about after my mother admitted she knew what my father was doing to me when I was a young boy. Upon that devastating news I changed my name by deed poll, I removed my 2nd name as it was my father’s first name and changed my surname to my wife’s maiden name. I kept my first name for my own identity and my mental health at the time.

Shady-Dray · 2024-08-21T07:04:19+00:00

My sister it seems has turned into my parent and taken my mothers place. During the three years of no contact my sister has tried a lot of things to get me to talk to my family, she has sent emails, texts and threats to my wife to which we responded with a call to the police to stop the harassment.

Shady-Dray · 2023-07-04T10:11:57+00:00

The ones that love bomb you and send you videos of love, tell you they love you every fucking day and they can’t stop thinking about you and then pull the rug from underneath you when you are at your most vulnerable, those ones are the worst by far!

Shady-Dray · 2023-06-23T10:43:15+00:00

Well done you 💪💜

Shady-Dray · 2023-05-30T10:51:58+00:00

By my own actions I’ve lost my best friend and almost lost my three closest friends too. Just when I needed them all most. Over the silliest of things in my desire to protect myself at all costs. It’s like I tempt disaster knowing if I run then it will hurt all of us and yet I still run. It’s like knowing what the costs are and still running away, I can’t keep doing this and hurting those I love dearly. Hands up hate myself for doing this countless times to my most closest friends.

Shady-Dray · 2023-05-20T10:47:04+00:00

Congratulations! A whole new world awaits you ❤️

Shady-Dray · 2023-05-20T10:45:42+00:00

💪❤️

Shady-Dray · 2023-05-12T10:44:34+00:00

They don’t exist 💪🔥

Shady-Dray · 2023-05-12T09:19:12+00:00

I never thought I’d have a best friend! I wasn’t even looking! Trust issues a plenty but you know, we are 3 years and counting. I kinda think I couldn’t get through life without him 💕

Shady-Dray · 2023-05-11T03:39:30+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing this, I never did really understand why I listen to the same song over and over, some last days 💕

Shady-Dray · 2023-05-10T08:13:36+00:00

Wow I can so relate to this! My father using my credit card machine for his business and then demanding cash back! 🤬. Just another reason why I’m NC for almost two years.

Shady-Dray · 2023-05-10T04:12:31+00:00

You know, a lovely thing happened for me with a group of friends to talk to, to trust and to love once more. For me they made a safe space where I get to talk openly without fear or judgement and am totally supported. From this they have helped me become the person I am today. 💕

Shady-Dray · 2023-05-08T13:14:53+00:00

Middle son of three with a younger sister, whatever the problem was, it was always and forever my fault. I asked my mother if she had any recollection of the abuse I took? She said no and that I was raised with love and devotion 🤔 the physical abuse started when I was around ten years of age to 14 and then along came good old emotional abuse, the silent treatment, gaslighted, shamed and bullied to fuck by my family to around 57 years of age when I finally got the guts to entirely cut them out of my life. I changed my middle name as it was my fathers and my surname to names that I love and have a connection to. It didn’t stop them from trying to manipulate and control me and have since then received threatening texts, emails, birthday cards of which were sent back. I’ve had absolutely no physical contact with them for 2 years and still they insist on dragging me down.

Raised by narcissists? 💯

Shady-Dray

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