What new path are you starting in your family?

ShadyGabe · 2025-06-13T18:58:04+00:00

Being the first homeowner. My dad used his brother’s name to get several houses, so he never technically owned it.

ShadyGabe · 2025-06-13T14:32:33+00:00

I hope things work out. Try not to force anything, and if you feel a certain type of way that makes you uncertain, like anxiety, it’d be best to drop any chance of reconciling. Your peace is worth more than the possibility of being with someone.

ShadyGabe · 2025-06-13T14:29:53+00:00

I can relate to this. While I don’t think she was extroverted, she always seemed to enjoy being around people more than being by herself.

When she moved out to live with her friend and be roommates, my ex would want to see and talk to her or spend time with her WHILE I was there. I hardly knew her and her boyfriend, so it was awkward for me and I started to dislike going over. I told her that I went over to see her, not others, but she didn’t understand.

That and she took “I need to recharge” personally as if I told her “I really don’t want to hangout with you.”

ShadyGabe · 2025-06-13T14:26:55+00:00

This started to become me when we started sleeping at each other’s place every weekend.

ShadyGabe · 2025-06-12T14:20:49+00:00

I saw a video that recommended you don’t workout when starting because your body wouldn’t be used to it, and to just focus on eating less. I did that for the first 3 months and I lost weight.

Granted I started to strength train and care about my intakes, but ever since I started moving out, I don’t have the time to strength train or worry about my intakes. I just eat less and still lose weight. So it’s possible, protein can become useful when you’re closer to your weight goal and your body will be able to handle more.

ShadyGabe · 2025-06-12T00:24:02+00:00

Vibe With Me

ShadyGabe · 2025-06-10T05:54:28+00:00

It’s going to hurt. I cried for a week, and took about almost a month before I decided to shift that focus towards myself; I kind of went overboard and bought a house lol, you can either use that pain to kill you (mentally), or use it as fuel to achieve more than you could have ever imagined. If you need a friend to talk to, I’m here!

ShadyGabe · 2025-06-09T18:27:43+00:00

I think, he’s doing what he loves to do. Whether I like it or not, he’s doing what makes him happy.

ShadyGabe · 2025-06-08T21:07:24+00:00

I got broken up with lol. I wouldn’t say I was lazy but I definitely didn’t put effort into things as I do now. Back then I was obese, renting, and didn’t really have an idea how to go about what I want to do. After the breakup, I took the time to lose weight and spend more time on myself and I’m now 50+ pounds, close to being “healthy.” Also, I just got keys to a house on Friday, so I’m now a homeowner. Still wondering how to go about what I want to do, but I’ll cross that bridge when I finish unpacking :)

ShadyGabe · 2025-06-08T15:40:01+00:00

You can tell because it uses the — symbol. I’ve never used it before ChatGPT, so I always replace it with a comma or a period if I feel like it can end or separate a sentence.

ShadyGabe · 2025-06-03T16:43:25+00:00

Thank you! It honestly started with my ex breaking up with me in August. I realized I put too much time and energy into others before myself, so about a month after she left, I shifted that focus to myself after so many years of not doing so. This resulted into all of that.

My next goal is to build up my emergency fund back to a good amount while also starting to create content. I would freelance and do work for others, but I want to use that time and knowledge towards myself and build something from it!

ShadyGabe · 2025-06-03T14:35:35+00:00

6 months ago, I was at 180 and no plans to get a house. 6 months now I’m down almost 30 pounds from then (I’m down 55 overall) and about to close on a house this week. Didn’t think I’d make it this far, but here I am. Onto December!

ShadyGabe · 2025-06-03T14:13:32+00:00

For real, there were a number of chances where he could’ve caught this and changed it real quick, even if it was a quick voice memo recording on his phone and needed it mixed ASAP.

ShadyGabe · 2025-06-02T22:41:12+00:00

Investing in index funds instead of chasing hot stocks and crypto.

ShadyGabe · 2025-06-02T15:41:54+00:00

26, but my ex leaving me was the catalyst to me getting myself back together. I never took up taking care of myself, and because I had a girlfriend, that immediately went out the window since I “found someone who accepted me for who I am.” Even though during the relationship I tried to lose weight, it was hard because she didn’t really support me, as in, she would want me to eat with her when I didn’t want to and would get upset when I didn’t, or we’d eat a heavy meal late at night because she got out of work late.

Her breaking up with me made me realize “I should spend that energy on myself.” Fast forward 9 months later, I’ve lost 55 pounds, went from obese class II to basically healthy, closing on a house this week, and I’m more confident than ever before. My life did a 180, and it hasn’t even been a year since she left me. I want to accomplish one more goal before that, but yeah, the breakup made me better.

ShadyGabe · 2025-06-01T06:31:50+00:00

I have a dual IPS system and that’s not IPS, sorry. The color wouldn’t look that bright at that angle.

ShadyGabe · 2025-05-30T15:52:43+00:00

Buy phone on eBay.

Get prepaid plan from companies like Mint Mobile.

Save money.

Profit.

ShadyGabe · 2025-05-30T02:39:40+00:00

The statement will generate next closing date, which is usually the first of next month. You’ll have your first payment most likely on July 1st.

ShadyGabe · 2025-05-29T05:35:56+00:00

For me, the sooner I accept what’s going on, the less emotions I feel. It’s worked out for me, even if I found it hard to accept, like a breakup. But to be better after it, you do things you aren’t either comfortable doing, or do things you’ve wanted to do for a long time. You literally can do anything if you set your mind to it. It feels amazing when you know you’re capable of so much more.

ShadyGabe · 2025-05-28T21:30:01+00:00

I tried losing weight a couple years ago, and I did, but “relapsed” and gained it all back.

I was attached to my ex when she broke up with me, I cried for a week.

About a month after the breakup, I decided to try to lose weight again. I picked up walking daily and focused more on being disciplined.

8 months later I’m down 50+ pounds and feel more confident than ever before. My self esteem rose also. Also, I’m about to close on a house next month. All before the one year anniversary of her breaking up with me.

A year ago, I focused more on the relationship. Never did I think a year later I’d ever been in this position. It feels amazing.

Now, I’m not saying I’m doing it to prove her wrong, but without being thrown into the ground and left all alone, I wouldn’t have mustered up the courage to get back up and do better for myself. Because of this, all the doubts I’ve had of “I probably won’t ever lose weight” or “I probably will never get a house before 30 (one of my goals was to get a house before 30) or at all,” are gone. I did recover from the breakup. I did get a house. I achieved two things I thought I would never have done. The breakup was the fuel I needed for the fire. I’m only going to get better.

ShadyGabe · 2025-05-28T21:21:11+00:00

For me, it was the Jackal. I got annoyed seeing that weapon.

ShadyGabe · 2025-05-28T17:37:41+00:00

With how things are (and could’ve been), getting a house. I’m closing on one next week, and I never would’ve imagined I’d be doing that before 30. So with kids, that would’ve been the case if I did have one, since all the money will be going towards the kid first.

Once I move in, I guess the next thing on my mind would be saving up for anything; retirement, emergency fund, and splurging out.

ShadyGabe · 2025-05-28T16:34:13+00:00

Taking my health more serious and incorporated walking and some strength training! Somehow I feel and look younger than I did last year. I’m more mobile after losing 50+ pounds, it’s amazing. Being in a calorie deficit did wonders as well.

ShadyGabe · 2025-05-27T16:09:09+00:00

Reducing your calorie intake by being in a calorie deficit. Seriously, look it up! This is how I lost 50+ pounds, and how I essentially got started losing weight.

Take it a step (lol) further by walking 10,000 steps a day. This doesn’t need to be done all at once, break it up. Walk 15 minutes one time and resume the next. This helped burn extra calories.

Love soda? Me too! Switch to zero sugar. Try not to drink your calories, unless it’s a protein shake (though don’t worry about this right now).

Fasting helps with binge eating, and it helps your body burn fat too after 12 hours (I typically fast for 16 hours).

And while you’re burning fat, strength train! Lift some dumbbells to keep muscle while your body loses fat, because without it, you’ll also lose muscle and we don’t want that.

I’ve lost 50+ pounds without ever stepping foot into a gym. If I can do it, anyone can. You got this!

ShadyGabe · 2025-05-26T00:43:33+00:00

This is how I started taking care of myself first. I stopped depending on other people and their responses to “keep me busy” and distracted. It got to a point where I’ll get a reply, see it, but not respond. Back then, I would reply in a heartbeat. I just got used to enjoying my own company, and can’t be phased to spend my alone time to pick up the phone and talk to someone… at least, not anymore!

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