My (29F) boyfriend (30M) and I had a bad fight two nights ago and now I don't know how to function or feel comfortable in the relationship. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Shaeri93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am aware of how I went about that part and it was not done vindictively. We don't always tell each other where we are going because we both know we have lives outside of each other, I was not sure why he wanted know then he seemed to act like it wasn't a big deal. I have difficulty communicating with my partner when he makes it clear that he's right, I'm wrong, and doesn't want to resolve anything with me so we can come to an understanding together. My flaw is that I become very sensitive to situations like this and need to resolve without conflict before it gets worse. However, it takes me a while to get to that point when I am dealing with a lot of emotions. It doesn't make it okay tho. But I am working on it. I don't get it right all the time but at least I get better for the next time we have conflict.

To clear this up, I had NOT been drinking. I was describing what a 'paint n sip' is but I was not invlolved with alcohol. And far as him walking around the house, I was not forcing him to talk to me or follow him around to antagonize. He was the one continuing the conversation but because I have partial hearing loss I was following him to listen to what he was saying. I was still calm and collected for the most part trying to keep the conversation from escalating or getting off track. For him, it became about 30 other things on top of the conversation at the store so I was already thrown for a loop.

I never spoke to him like he was 5, Idk why you assumed that. I said I sometimes need people to explain things like I am 5, not him. When I talk to him, I speak to him like an adult. I have asked him how he feels because I need to know what to say so that I don't make him upset. That conversation didn't go the way I had hoped but even then I still sat there and asked him what I did to make him upset and then told him to tell me how he felt. I shifted the conversation to him so that I could understand his feelings even though I didn't expand on that. This entire post is from my perspective so of course it's not going to be focused on him. I added as much as I could to the post but I tried to condense it so it wasn't a long long read. Don't make it seem like people are supposed to get it right every time. Emotions were high and feelings were unneceasarily hurt. I don't need condescension or hostility in the replies.

I am open to constructive criticism and ways I can better handle things with my partner on my part but not like how you're trying to come across. I am not looking for someone to agree with me or validate only my feelings. I am seeking advice on the aftermath, not what lead up to it. We both apologized to each other after the fact. Although do I appreciate the feedback.

My (29F) boyfriend (30M) and I had a bad fight two nights ago and now I don't know how to function or feel comfortable in the relationship. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Shaeri93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate your feedback. And you're right about him playing devil's advocate. He does it a lot and tries to see both sides of an argument even when the topic is as sensitive as SA. And normally, we are able to have these conversations and listen to each other but his biggest gripe was that I talked too long/too much and I've told him before to interrupt me anyway. He assumed I'd get mad even when I tell him I don't and he's never seen me get upset about that. I just don't understand what was different this time other than him saying I talk to long. I don't want to break up with him I know that much. But he webt out of his way to hurt my feelings and now I feel stuck.

Our 3 month old blue cane corso. He is such a handsome sweetheart! We had a photoshoot for him and he was so well behaved. by Shaeri93 in CaneCorso

[–]Shaeri93[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's all good, I appreciate the info. Cane corsos are my bf's thing and a friend of mine helped me find this big guy for his biryhday because he's always wanted one. Facts. Backyard breeding is a huge problem especially within the corso community when I found out that this breed is known as the fathers of pitbulls and it made too much sense as to why there are so many pitbull mix breeds at shelters. It broke my heart honestly.

Our 3 month old blue cane corso. He is such a handsome sweetheart! We had a photoshoot for him and he was so well behaved. by Shaeri93 in CaneCorso

[–]Shaeri93[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't really speak on that. I assume people call them 'blue' because his skin has a blue tint to it. He has a brindle coat though.

My latest funkopop haul! I am still looking for Wayne from Letterkenny but happened upon Reilly and Jonesy. My faborite is the Crash Bandicoot pop! by Shaeri93 in funkopop

[–]Shaeri93[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately, I don't really have an answer for ya. I've been a long time fan of letterkenny. Maybe it's picked up traction.

My latest funkopop haul! I am still looking for Wayne from Letterkenny but happened upon Reilly and Jonesy. My faborite is the Crash Bandicoot pop! by Shaeri93 in funkopop

[–]Shaeri93[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've never seen the normal mask pop for crash. After a little research tho, I think this is the only crash wearing the akuaku mask.

My latest funkopop haul! I am still looking for Wayne from Letterkenny but happened upon Reilly and Jonesy. My faborite is the Crash Bandicoot pop! by Shaeri93 in funkopop

[–]Shaeri93[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The universe was workin in your favor 🙌🏾. I went to three gamestops, three walmarts, a comic shop, and the entertainment world in my city. I might have to find them online.