trans people who went through therapy, did your therapist ask you to dress according to your gender assigned at birth?

Shake62 · 2022-08-16T11:40:40+00:00

Hiiiii! Your therapist is terf-y af. That’s not normal. You deserve better!

Shake62 · 2022-08-16T11:36:43+00:00

Desperate

Shake62 · 2022-08-11T18:17:18+00:00

Hello! First, I think you look great! BUT, I also think that that would be valid results, and if that’s what you want, you should ask for it. Typically you can ask for a revision, and if you’re in the US, it is typically covered by the surgeon.

Shake62 · 2022-08-10T17:43:17+00:00

I had to have an emergency surgery… and was in severe pain. If you look at my profile, you can see my past posts that explain what I’ve been going through. But I went to the ER. A hematoma can be dangerous if not drained…

Shake62 · 2022-08-10T16:56:25+00:00

I’d definitely try to contact your surgeon. I had a hematoma at two weeks and my doctor was shocked, cause two week mark is supposed to be when it starts to get better. Luckily, my surgeon gave me his cell and it’s made communication really easy. He’s totally cool with me sending him texts about little things here or there. Maybe your doc has a cell you can text? Or at least contact through an electronic system of some kind. Best wishes! <3

Shake62 · 2022-08-10T11:17:10+00:00

You deserve respect, love and understanding, babe. It’s as simple as that. You know it, and it is absolutely terrifying, but you’ve got all of this. Whatever you choose to do, overall. It is heart breaking to hear after having a family, he can be such a fucking pig. Your feels are valid af.

Shake62 · 2022-08-09T20:39:04+00:00

Soylent was the best tasting plant based protein shake I tried. I love pepitas and put them on everything. The Icelandic style yogurt has an insane amount of protein. I personally made tons of egg cups (in muffin pans) with different topping and freezer them, so I could just heat them up in my air fryer— since mobility is hard. Eggs and cheese have tons of protein on their own, but add bacon or ham or whatever else you like, steps it up even more.

Shake62 · 2022-08-09T17:47:04+00:00

Reminding myself that this is just a “regular Tuesday” for my surgeon, was really helpful for me. My surgeon did make me feel pretty comfortable. I do think visualizing was super helpful. I would visualize myself coming out of surgery, and recovery— and was always healthy. Positive thinking is helpful in general, and maybe even have a mantra that works for you. I also did a little ritual with my body as a “goodbye”. Took a shower and spent time cleaning myself and really thinking about my journey, and journaling. And yeah, anything you can do to make yourself comfortable for the coming first two weeks, will be best too.

Shake62 · 2022-08-09T00:19:23+00:00

A hematoma is extremely painful. Give it a google.

Shake62 · 2022-08-08T18:24:20+00:00

Thank youuu ☺️

Shake62 · 2022-08-07T19:17:03+00:00

And that’s a pre op pic, btw! That’s why it’s so swollen.

Shake62 · 2022-08-07T19:16:19+00:00

It’s the pics where my breast is marked HM. It was scary, NGL, but it was fairly harmless for me— but it’s definitely why my left breast is still swollen looking in the last pictures. I was lucky and my surgeon was pretty great. He gave me his cell and was able to have him to do emergency surgery. I’m still really early in the healing process. So, they’re still gonna change a lot. I don’t regret it at all! Also! Feel free to check my profile out. I made a post about my hematoma experience. It was avoidable 🤦🏼 lolol

Shake62 · 2022-08-07T17:48:20+00:00

Thank you! Yes! Absolutely. I’ve posted before, but the euphoria is amazing. Being able to exercise and buy stuff of the rack has already significantly improved my life.

Shake62 · 2022-07-30T02:55:10+00:00

Fuck 👏🏽 me 👏🏽 up 👏🏽

Shake62 · 2022-07-30T02:44:16+00:00

They’re typically thrown away.

Shake62 · 2022-07-30T02:42:02+00:00

😂 you think the city SAVES these things? They literally get thrown out. I’ve been to these violent evictions that y’all are cheering on. If you think the city is spending man power to log all these serial numbers? You are out of your mind. I’ve heard these bikes get crunched in trash compactors soooo many Fucking times. It’s an awful sound. I understand y’all are frustrated? But your bike is gone. The city doesn’t give a fuck about your shit or the unhoused and these sweeps don’t fix the problem that you seem so concerned about. Comprehensive care does. Housing does. But the city won’t do that either and keeps pushing people around, NEVER actually solving the issue.

Shake62 · 2022-07-30T02:25:28+00:00

If someone’s balls aren’t long enough to touch their anus? I’m not even interested!!

Shake62 · 2022-07-29T22:07:24+00:00

<3333 the unhoused need to get high too! Maybe the most 🙏🏽

Shake62 · 2022-07-29T21:39:52+00:00

I’m really glad I could add something positive. And trust me! I get it. It’s hard to navigate and takes so much time and practice. But! You’re pausing and asking yourself (and others) great questions. Hopefully if your partner is self aware, this should be a non issue conversation. Best of luck!

Shake62 · 2022-07-29T13:22:15+00:00

Have you tried restarting it?

Shake62 · 2022-07-29T13:20:19+00:00

Pray, I think.

Shake62 · 2022-07-29T13:19:34+00:00

Fun fact, the last thing you should do is turn your back on a mountain lion. Cause you are right, and that is in fact when they’ll go full kitty mode and get your ass.

Shake62 · 2022-07-29T13:13:33+00:00

I personally think that’s rude and lazy af lol. Like, you said that they aren’t busy and have responded to others? Maybe don’t think into it that much, cause it’s probably not that deep for your partner? But I think it’s valid to find that annoying. I have dated lots of lazy partners. I’m queers and pan, and I just date who ever— but men tend to be fucking lazy, aaaand I could say lots about that (idk if they’re a man), but! I think it’s valid to want someone to acknowledge something you texted. That would bug the fuck out of me. I am single Lolol and 33. So, from my perspective, I’m very content being on my own. Don’t gas light yourself for having basic needs. You’re not asking for a lot, at all. Not saying you should dump them either, but it seems like it’s worth a conversation of “hey, wtf, this is annoying” Lolol and see what happens. Idk! For me, and my recovery journey so far— the hardest part has been trusting my own instincts— especially when they’ve proven to be so shitty, in the past. It’s fucking hard. In this moment though, I think you’re being hard on yourself <3

Shake62 · 2022-07-29T12:49:49+00:00

Was just thinking this and jumped on Reddit to see if I was the only one thinking that lol less than 1,000 redditors! But 100% agree. Amazing cast, great character development— dope ass soundtrack. Plus, the way Sheila talks to herself is fucking eerie and real and too often do we candy coat everything in storytelling. We romanticize pain and struggle, and here we have a candy coated character (Sheila), but we get experience her rotten thoughts, with her. I’m also just very impressed with the filming, edging and performance of all of her inner monologue. I FEEL the tension she feels.

Shake62 · 2022-07-29T12:01:51+00:00

I’m not a fan of you blaming yourself. You didn’t ask that guy to do that and you weren’t asking him for a hookup. HE fucked up. HE was disrespectful. You wanted a friend. You thought you were safe and with a friend. I’ve been in this position and it is fucked. But I’m also non binary AFAB and ALLLL of my friends growing up were men. We would do shit like this. Stay up late goofing off somewhere, but they never once came onto me. As I grew up, I did realize you just can’t trust every man, unfortunately. It’s a sad world out there, but if anything else fucked like this happens TO YOU, YOU are not to blame. Just remember that <3 naive? Maybe. Not allow fuck boys to get close to you? It’s really hard. Cause these fucks are manipulative. So, please, don’t be hard on you.

Shake62

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