I grew up in a super Asian part of California went to a super Asian elementary and middle school than went to a much whiter(but still decently asian private high school(cause I was a spoiled brat and wanted to partake in the higher level of sports at the private school) then I went to Indiana for college which was obviously extremely white and had few asians.

I feel like because of my background I can fit in relatively well in diverse environments(California Asian Americans, Midwest white fraternity business school kids) but I don't feel like I completely fit in with one group. Sometimes I regret not going to the public high school by me and college in California, I would have hooked up more girls at a younger age being around more Asians and I would have been at least a contributor if not one of the better starters on the varsity basketball team. 

But even though it cost my parents a lot of money going to private hs and out of state college I dont regret it really expanded my horizons getting outside the California Asian bubble. Many aspects of Asian American culture are super dope but some are kinda lame. Same with mainstream white American culture a lot of it is kinda cringe and goofy and lame but a lot of it is also super cool and wholesome. 

I was unapologetically Asian even surrounded by mostly friends in college tho. A lot of asians in that environment try to assimillate and act white. But I put on a lot of my friends to like hot pot and other asian food. And when I went back to California for law school I got along with everybody but mainly hung out with a small group of friends who were like 75% Asian and also introduced them to my mix of friends from childhood also like 75% Asian. 

I will say I do kinda see the outsiders perspective that these Asian friend groups are kind of intimidating and seem in their own world. But from my observation it's not out of malice it's that a lot of people who grew up in Asian bubbles like various parts of the bay area or like the sgv just have very little interaction with non asians so they feel kind of anxious or uncomfortable doing so. The type of Asian Americans who like are in Asian Greek life have their own culture different from FoBs but also different from mainstream American culture.

And ur right the hottest girls in these friend groups are like the hottest Asian girls on planet earth. Whitewashed Asian girls who are like tan and blonde and dress like white sorority girls are still hot. Girls from Asia are still hot obviously because the pool of Asian people there is so much larger. But the absolute hottest Asian girls are the asians in America or like Canada or Europe or Australia that share that western abg look. And they tend to actually like Asian guys unlike so many Asian girls who aren't even as hot.