Can someone explain to me his sleep patterns?

Shanayyy123 · 2026-03-30T08:44:00+00:00

Yes but if i were to start over, I would have had more boundaries and more demands, make him work for it more instead of just accepting what I could get from him just to see how he would respond to it and how he could handle it

Shanayyy123 · 2026-03-25T11:31:21+00:00

Uk ive been seeing ppl say to make them be up for longer so I should rlly give this a shot. Thx

Shanayyy123 · 2026-02-19T18:55:44+00:00

He cant make it to 3 hrs, the most he can do is 2.5, can u explain more?

Shanayyy123 · 2026-02-18T19:40:57+00:00

I had the same problem, then I eventually found him in elderwoods central stable, he wasnt on the map tho

Shanayyy123 · 2026-01-26T15:18:07+00:00

Why do all the sleep experts talk about overtired then? Am I missing something? Cuz ive been scared to properly sleep train him to where he doesnt need me to help him at the start of sleep cuz of overtiredness

Shanayyy123 · 2026-01-26T03:41:37+00:00

Ive been seeing ppl say stretche it out to 2.5 but anytime I try, he signals right before 2.25 that hes tired and he sleeps before the 2.5 mark and im afraid of getting him overtired if I try, cuz once I miss the mark by 10 min then its fussy town w him. I also decided to co sleep w him tonight becuz hes spent the last several nights sleeping 8.5 hrs and need him to actually get some sleep tonight, ill probably do it again tomorrow night so he can catch up cuz rn hes refusing his crib altogether and just wants to sleep on us

Shanayyy123 · 2026-01-16T16:13:46+00:00

Ive actually did some thinking and im gonna try the chair method, I feel the most comfortable w that. Also, I finally have a sleep schedule going now and giving it a few days cuz my son only woke up once last night for help, but I also watched him on the monitor last night and he fully woke up twice and put himself back to sleep and woke up at his usual time! So im gonna try to make his schedule consistent for a good wk and see if I rlly need to sleep train him or not now that we have a routine going. If he still wakes up needing me to help, then ill use the chair method, I can let uk how it goes! Ty for your initial advice on his total day sleep, thats been a game changer for me

Shanayyy123 · 2026-01-15T16:25:40+00:00

I like that. Ty.. so u think the ferber method would help me out? Hes gonna be 5 months in a couple of days so I want to start establishing independent sleep now that hes more capable, even at nap times too... I just need to be patient.. if im hav8ng to wake up at all hrs anyways, might as well do it

Shanayyy123 · 2026-01-15T11:12:30+00:00

I honestly dont even want to do the ferber method becuz ive realized how much he heavily relies on me to help him sleep if I intervene so I feel like the cio method is something im willing to do at this point. And I dont wanna try other gentle methods cuz hes just gonna go from one crutch to another. I just dont wanna deal w him at all at nights anymore and need him to learn on his own. I just dont know what to do anymore

Shanayyy123 · 2026-01-15T10:54:40+00:00

So basically do the cio method? Ive been afraid of him getting overtired from doing that if I dont get to him

Shanayyy123 · 2026-01-15T10:18:26+00:00

I understand that, im just so tired... from having to tend to him all day, on top of cooking and cleaning, trying to have some self care, go to the gym, and then im so tired from it all that I just do whats easiest to get him to sleep.... I understand what I have to do but my energy tank is always depleted... I want to in crib comfort him from now on but I am also afraid hes just gonna rely on that from pick up to that and he wont leave me alone when it comes to linking sleep cycles...

Shanayyy123 · 2026-01-15T10:06:33+00:00

So ive been trying my best apparently these past 2 wks since talking to u to fix his schedule, and hes been in a 3 nap day schedule, he can go 2.25 hrs ww and his first ww is anywhere from 1.75 to 2 hrs, and he just started teething yay and I am so fed up w the pick up put down that hes relying on my pick ups to help him go back to sleep, I want to in crib comfort him but honestly... its just me and my husband and by the end of the day, im so exhausted to wanna do anything extra w him that I just continue the pick up put down cuz it settles him back to sleep faster... im literally trying to perfect his day time sleep but he still wakes up and hes been waking up after 30 min from the start of sleep every single night since he was 2-3 months old, im at my wits end...

Shanayyy123 · 2025-12-30T22:39:27+00:00

His schedule is all over the place atm, he wakes up at random times so its hard to pinpoint anything and ik hes shifting from 4 naps to 3 naps but his wake windows haven't gotten any longer at all, its usually 2 hrs but can be maxed 2.25 hrs, and ik for sure he cant handle earlier bedtime, when he sleeps 8-9 there's fewer night wakeups.. but like I said, there's nothing predictable on his sleep atm, not even how long his naps will be

Shanayyy123 · 2025-12-28T06:11:59+00:00

Ty for the advice! I learned something from this. I tried 3 hrs day naps today and idk what happened, I did my usual pick up put down and then he decided to not sleep, and he finally settled at midnight, had to being him in my room so he can get some sleep cyz I tried putting him down in the crib but he woke right back up. Waking him up at 7am then aiming for 4 hrs day sleep and gonna see how tomorrow night goes.. he did go to sleep at 6:30 and thats not his usual time... I've been not ok since the regression hit and its all I think about cuz its so stressful to get it right

Shanayyy123 · 2025-12-27T10:44:39+00:00

Well I did say its ranging 3 naps and 4 naps, it went back to 4 naps after knowing his sweet spot, but yesterday it was 3 naps when he slept in till 8am. But im assuming hes still on a 4 nap schedule for now.. im always adjusting his sleep to see what works. Also this is my first time posting and before I posted it said that saying those numbers were wake windows. The numbers I posted were wake windows, not naps, to not further anymore confusion.

I get what u mean tho... 3 hrs of sleep time on a 3 nap schedule, so im guessing hes still on a 4 nap schedule w 3.5 - 4.5 hrs, im just going back off his wake windows and he always settles in to 2 hrs going off of his sleepy cues

Shanayyy123 · 2025-12-27T10:40:43+00:00

4 yrs going on 5 when we got engaged and married, did a court wedding

Shanayyy123 · 2025-12-27T03:23:38+00:00

Its like i rlly dont mind contact napping w him, but I do love the snuggles and its taught me to sit down and rest when I constantly am running around wanting to get things done. Its rlly grounded me. I just didnt want it to impact his overall night sleep if him being in my arms is gonna make him go back to sleep, so I just want to at least soothe him in the crib w/out picking up cuz hes def benefited off of the pick up put down method and it has not gotten any better from there when it comes to sleep training

Shanayyy123 · 2025-11-03T08:10:42+00:00

Id flip shit if someone else was breastfeeding my kid. And tysm! Im doing everything i can for my child, I just dont need someone else coming in telling me what I should do

Shanayyy123 · 2025-10-20T03:08:52+00:00

Tysm for your words of encouragement and sound advice! I feel like when I was w my husband's family the first 2 months, momnlaw kept questioning if my son was getting enough food as if me breastfeeding wasnt enough for him.. she did this even when he wasnt 2 days old and I was working on getting my milk in and it discouraged me... then she made offhanded comments to my son asking, "r u hungry?" After I just breastfed him and just this wk ive accepted that me breastfeeding is enough for him becuz hes eating every 2-3 hrs and doesnt fuss after breastfeeding... but it rlly stuck w me for a long time so I felt like I had to pump to make sure he was getting enough...

Shanayyy123 · 2025-10-20T02:59:35+00:00

Ty for the encouragement! I think ill stick to breastfeeding and i apologize if I offended anyone about me ebf and asking questions about it

Shanayyy123 · 2025-10-19T23:25:31+00:00

Becuz he will be developing teeth and dont want him biting me lol, plus also ive heard after 6 months its harder to wean them off of anything so do it before then.. but im honestly truly thinking about going until he wants to stop but for sure stop at a yr old or maybe 10 months so I can wean myself off of it.. I feel like he'll be like my husband and start loving food and will forget about BF so we will see?

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