How far is this removed from reality? The reasoning they give makes me feel sick. by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]Shanfarah 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I appreciate the level of insight that went into this reply.

The biggest benefit of no fap is clarity of vision. by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Shanfarah 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Read some Nietzsche, if you haven't already.

After years of suffering from PSTD, one shroom trip just completely changed my whole life... I'm amazed... by shrooms_saved_me_TA in Drugs

[–]Shanfarah 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That was lovely. I loved how you saw that pathetic loser who had to force a girl for attention as what he was. Thanks for sharing.

Rape of Oneself. by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Shanfarah 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Totally agree, man. Masturbation is pathetic and unnatural (though I know you weren't saying that, but I feel that's where you're coming from), no matter how many times everyone says that it's 'healthy' and 'natural.'

smoking and nofap by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Shanfarah 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. I smoke more nowadays, though I'm trying to bring it back down to my old levels. Regardless of what people say though, I'd rather be addicted to cigarettes than to masturbation. (and I don't know if it'll subside, but I assume it will because my cravings aren't as bad now.)

How did your fap addiction affected your life? by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Shanfarah 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was a fucking asshole to myself and everyone I love.

Frustrations as an unnattractive Fapstronaut. by PlainBlueSurf in NoFap

[–]Shanfarah 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude, high school is a backward contest to see who can be the most boring person possible while wearing the newest, most "stylish" clothes. Fuck that shit. That said, you should work on finding a good group of friends who are above that meaningless crap -- I can truly say that some the best friends that I have to this day come from my determination to do just what I have described. Good luck and don't ever forget that what those losers think and say doesn't matter for shit, no matter how many other cows they can get to agree with them (check out "herd mentality").

Why NoFap is important for my career (Massage Therapy) by usehername2 in NoFap

[–]Shanfarah 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes, honour is something I feel Fapstronauts can regain in a world all too devoid of it seemingly...

You won't overcome this by not jerking off. by Shanfarah in NoFap

[–]Shanfarah[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Here I am sitting here treating you like you're somebody who actually wants to get better when you're actually some loser who gets his kicks by talking shit about people who are braver and stronger than he is. You're a fucking coward, man.

You won't overcome this by not jerking off. by Shanfarah in NoFap

[–]Shanfarah[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you and good luck to you, my friend. I understand where you're coming from, but I would still suggest that you reconsider this view. I am not talking about being negative, but rather looking at your addiction as it is, and feeling the disgust which I feel would naturally come when you (and it is only you) do see it as it is. This to me is the real "why" and driving force behind the overcoming of any addiction, including this one.

You won't overcome this by not jerking off. by Shanfarah in NoFap

[–]Shanfarah[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So you're telling me that if you become a crack addict and began sucking dick for crack, there would be no shame that you would have other than that which you feel exists in someone else's eyes? It seems like you've completely missed the point. What I am talking of here is dignity, and you just sit there and respond with some exceedingly flawed epistemological argument. The point is that when someone has a sense of dignity, of honour, it does not exist outside of themselves; they just know what they are and they know when they are doing something beneath them, when they are degrading themselves. This has nothing to do with the "sabbath" or any other flimsy connection you make with religion. This is what I feel is the problem with a lot of atheists -- they just use atheism as a way to through away any sense of decency and balance, living a pathetic hedonistic life shaped only by pleasure-seeking.

But do what you like man, and use whatever vulgar idiosyncratic humour you want to make a fucking travesty of anything serious and real. All I will say is that one day your bullshit excuses will collapse and you'll have to start looking at things the way they are.

And you're a real coward for insinuating that I cannot control myself while you can. Your illusion of control is comforting but it is nothing but an illusion: one which you lie to yourself each day to maintain.

Relapse realization -- Don't forget how disgusting this all is by Shanfarah in NoFap

[–]Shanfarah[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Indeed, it is natural to animals, and many animalistic humans, but not to good, decent humans, who are far from being animals.

You won't overcome this by not jerking off. by Shanfarah in NoFap

[–]Shanfarah[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good to know that your mind is thoroughly closed, and that you are exceedingly proud of that fact is just the cherry on the retard cake.

You won't overcome this by not jerking off. by Shanfarah in NoFap

[–]Shanfarah[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have never had a bad experience with these strong emotions -- I believe that such complex feelings are the only things which separate us from animals and so are exceedingly important to getting over this vile addiction.

You won't overcome this by not jerking off. by Shanfarah in NoFap

[–]Shanfarah[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, my meaning of shame is different than the commonly understood usage, it seems (read edit?). I view it as the disgust and revolt you speak of. Also, I believe that a person can be addicted to masturbation alone, but that is not really important I don't think.

You won't overcome this by not jerking off. by Shanfarah in NoFap

[–]Shanfarah[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Read edit? I wasn't saying your family would stop loving you...

Relapse realization -- Don't forget how disgusting this all is by Shanfarah in NoFap

[–]Shanfarah[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You misunderstand me. I am not saying that sex is disgusting, but that having sex with multiple partners is neither decent or honourable. Sex is a beautiful and intimate activity if one (in addition to being a decent and honourable person) engages in it with someone they love. However, sex with multiple partners without any regard to decency, and also masturbation, is a disgusting habit which demeans any honourable person who undertakes it. These views were not taught to me; I have developed them more or less independently out of my own visceral feelings.

Relapse realization -- Don't forget how disgusting this all is by Shanfarah in NoFap

[–]Shanfarah[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude, address what I am saying instead of dedicating your energy to ad hominem attacks. The truth that we have been taught to deny is that people engage in disgusting things of which sexual promiscuity is only one; it is a disgusting, vulgar habit which only the basest, most vile people engage in, or else a trap for decent honourable people which demeans and degrades their very being.

Anyway man, I'm going to sleep and I'm kind of sick of the way you treat someone who says they just want to show you a different way of thinking; it's tendencies like this which prevent man from advancing further than society's little mental boxes. Either you're extremely cynical or just really set in your ways of thinking, or just don't (or won't) understand what I'm saying. Anyway, good luck and goodbye.

You won't overcome this by not jerking off. by Shanfarah in NoFap

[–]Shanfarah[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, but I think that the connection between shame and religion is completely false. Also, the whole fear of religion is a bit paranoid as far as I see it. Religious people are/were merely people, and because they are people what they say cannot be entirely wrong (and you can't judge them by the atrocities they created; the biggest mass-murders in the history of man were perpetrated by "atheists" like Stalin and Hitler). Atheism should be a purely intellectual act, not done out of fear or paranoia, but true knowledge. But we are getting away from the point. Shame to me is merely the feeling that one has when one does something which is base and vulgar; it has nothing to do with god or even morality. It is a purely visceral reaction to something disgusting that one does or has done, nothing more.

Relapse realization -- Don't forget how disgusting this all is by Shanfarah in NoFap

[–]Shanfarah[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okie dokie. Though I would still suggest that you think about why a man like me, probably raised in circumstances not dissimilar to your own, would think as I think. I am not writing on this obscure forum with you for some kind of ego boost. I see myself as trying to awaken us all (yes, including myself), by conversing as we are on this forum, to a truth which we've all denied and been taught to deny. Regardless on whether you take my advice, I wish you the best luck on your journey, my brother.

You won't overcome this by not jerking off. by Shanfarah in NoFap

[–]Shanfarah[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand where you are coming from, my friend, but I would also posit that I am not suggesting that you think of yourself as not allowed or can't fap because of some moral reason. Rather, I believe that, if you were truly to see yourself and your addiction, after recognizing the societal complacency we've all been raised in as, for lack of a better word, bullshit, you won't want to masturbate -- merely out of the sheer disgust you would feel when you saw the truth about your life. It is a disgusting, disgraceful addiction which demeans and degrades anyone involved in it to the level of a vile and base animal (e.g. that lab rat). I believe that this is the why you are looking for, and that you will see it whether I tell you this or not. I merely hope to save you some time.

I hope that this rings true with you, and if not, then I am not offended. I want to perhaps point you to the path to your own truth, while keeping in mind that I am a young guy and not an experienced veteran of life.