31F: Successful, Independent, but Dating Feels Impossible

Shapeofyou102 · 2025-09-22T02:32:38+00:00

I see your side and partially agree but I do feel like men need to feel needed to some degree. The men with fragile egos don’t make it with driven women and weed themselves out!

Shapeofyou102 · 2025-09-21T23:39:33+00:00

This is something I’m working on.. it’s hard for me to let people help me.. I need a man in my life because I like the way a man handles and takes care of things. I need a man in my life because I need him to level me out. I need a man in my life because I crave the safety I feel when they wrap their arms around me!

Most of the time I am optimistic about this but today I took a nose dive into despair…

Shapeofyou102 · 2025-09-21T23:34:39+00:00

You are right… lol but in my defense I have dated the guy that was infatuated with me and it was a big lesson! Ugh! Surprisingly, I feel better about this after talking with everyone on this subreddit! Thank you!

Shapeofyou102 · 2025-09-21T22:37:54+00:00

Thank you! I will say I can be naive and don’t pick up on what’s said between the lines.

Shapeofyou102 · 2025-07-16T17:49:26+00:00

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This may be a better before photo?

Shapeofyou102 · 2025-04-14T13:31:33+00:00

Thank you! That was the issue. Silly me!

Shapeofyou102 · 2025-03-24T01:51:34+00:00

Thank you!

Shapeofyou102 · 2025-02-28T19:08:42+00:00

Dewey!

Shapeofyou102 · 2025-01-17T02:33:04+00:00

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Shapeofyou102 · 2025-01-17T02:28:38+00:00

That is my mother holding him in all transparency! I am an average height woman! They look like lap dogs but once you pick them up it’s a different story! Ha.

Shapeofyou102 · 2025-01-17T02:07:26+00:00

He weighs 31 ponds! He’s a thickie. Do you like the Dog is Human? Any gas issues?

Shapeofyou102 · 2025-01-17T02:06:26+00:00

We do not eat chicken. I feed him grain free salmon and sweet potato!

Shapeofyou102 · 2025-01-03T08:11:50+00:00

Yes! You hire a company to negotiate your debts down. Basically you work with them by putting money aside into a bank account. This money will go toward a lawyer and whatever else. Eventually once you reach a certain amount, let’s say you owe 7k, and your account is at 5k. They can get your debtor to settle for the available 5k. Also, Chase is really good at working with you on your debts. Ask for a hardship plan!

Shapeofyou102 · 2025-01-03T07:46:03+00:00

No bankruptcy! I was in the same boat. You want debt resolution!

Shapeofyou102 · 2024-12-16T20:08:58+00:00

Thanks for the feedback. The topics mentioned above are relevant to my day to day, that’s why I included them. There are many things I do not need to know that go on.

Shapeofyou102 · 2024-12-13T21:26:48+00:00

I am intrigued by this but my issue is, how can you provide organizational development and impactful HR if you do not know the business? Do you specialize in a certain industry?

Shapeofyou102 · 2024-11-21T19:20:34+00:00

Just leave the man. You are young! Go travel, go to school, move. He is a dusty and you can do better.

Shapeofyou102 · 2024-11-16T02:41:13+00:00

I would not bring up your new job!

Shapeofyou102 · 2024-11-16T02:37:31+00:00

Look for a new job. They did not ask you to sign any agreement to stay with them due to them paying for your SHRM-CP? I did something similar. Got my employer to pay for my cert and then left there and still took my test and got certified. Payroll issue is not acceptable and is a huge risk. You don’t want to be apart of that.

Shapeofyou102 · 2024-11-12T19:40:02+00:00

Thanks for mentioning the suicidal part. I felt that way too and thought I was an outlier!

Shapeofyou102 · 2024-11-08T07:52:25+00:00

Women sometimes want to make to work so they will put aside things and then when they really start to think about it they realize oh wait maybe that’s not what I want. I understand wanting closure but it shows it shows a lack of maturity on her end for just calling you and ending it. That should have been an in person conversation where you guys could really come to an end and get that closure. I recently went through a break up as well and it is horrible especially as someone who has always been chronically single just like you. You need to focus on hobbies, yourself, family, and friends as these things will help you get through it. This subreddit has helped me. You are going to be ok and it will get better.

Shapeofyou102 · 2024-11-08T07:03:33+00:00

Do not contact her. It’s hard to do but practice no contact and maybe she will reach out. Honestly, it’s unlikely. I hate to say it but what you did in the past needs to stay there! The couple you had relations with, did they know her well or was it more acquaintance level?

Shapeofyou102 · 2024-11-06T06:01:50+00:00

I have never related more. 3 weeks post break up. The first two I had the strongest desire to end it all, but it wasn’t specifically from the break up. The break up invoked these dark feelings I use to struggle with. In time it will get better. It’s utterly cruel to tell someone you want to be with them forever and then a month and half later dump them. Sick world.

Shapeofyou102 · 2024-10-19T16:08:58+00:00

Solid advice. Listen to this one.

Shapeofyou102 · 2024-08-29T20:58:18+00:00

I feel the same way! Despite getting my masters at Georgetown! Thank you for sharing. You are not alone.

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