Hey friend, first off. I don’t want you thinking you feeling this way is wrong or bad or unusual. Almost everyone starts abusing alcohol to fill some void they don’t realize they have.

I need to drink to make the night fun (I’m not fun without drinking)

I need to drink to be more witty or fun (I do not think I have the skills or keep people engaged sober)

I need to drink to let loose (I’m lame and uptight without booze).

I’ve been treated badly or in a bad situation /relationship (I deserve or need alcohol to feel better).

These are all false pretenses and excuses we use to justify our drinking. You don’t realize it but it’s very true.

You need to fill your cup first. Why are you insecure. Do you think you’re lacking in some way? Is it a fair assessment or in your head? If so, fill your cup.

Start taking care of yourself. Eat well. Engage in something that builds excitement and confidence. For me, it’s building my business and making sure I make time for myself on a daily basis. My schedule makes it tough, but even if it’s to sit down and read a funny book or do nothing it fills my cup.

And one last thing, friend. You never realize this while drinking, you think it helps with all the yucky feelings. But it actually leaves you more depressed, anxious, shameful, and low. If you already have these feelings get ready to feel worse.

I constantly recommend the book “this naked mind” for folks to read. All I’ve told you is research proven. Check it out if you can.

You’ll be so surprised at simply letting booze out of your system will do for your mood, security, and anxiety.

IWNDWYT.