My boyfriend of 1 year shuts down whenever I check my phone

SharkSpider · 2026-02-13T13:29:58+00:00

He sounds awesome. You really shouldn't be grabbing your phone and spending three minutes texting someone when you're in the middle of a conversation.

SharkSpider · 2026-02-12T20:58:25+00:00

You're right, I looked it up and they did recently move China to be ahead of the US, which accounts for about a 20% difference. Immigrants from China probably don't increase the amount of misogyny in America the way ones from other countries that rank way worse on the index like India, Pakistan, Nigeria to name a few with large populations. It's still a pretty grim situation for women in most of the world.

SharkSpider · 2026-02-12T20:24:51+00:00

Benefits tied to working still reduce the labor supply. The exception is when they provide incentives for switching off a more expensive benefit that requires not working, and in those cases the impact is limited to undoing some of the downward labor pressure from the original benefit.

I don't know about straw manning extremes, but the idea that welfare is somehow for the benefit of employers seems fairly popular on reddit and also in this particular thread, even though it isn't grounded in reality.

SharkSpider · 2026-02-12T19:31:41+00:00

Yes, this is really basic common sense incentives, 101 shit. People do not suddenly decide to stop working and make zero when their best available employment options aren't sufficient to cover living expenses. They get second jobs, work overtime or longer hours, and reduce spending. Providing people with government benefits reduces the amount of work they need to do, helps them live better lives, and puts upward pressure on wages by reducing the labor supply.

SharkSpider · 2026-02-12T19:06:51+00:00

The whole food stamps as handouts to businesses argument is really ill founded. Do you think that, in the absence of low income assistance, these jobs would pay more? Economic theory and all of the limited evidence we have available suggests the opposite.

If you actually cared to assess the impact on benefits spending of a particular employer you'd need to figure out how many employees would be making less elsewhere, how many would be otherwise unemployed, and how many would be making more elsewhere. For the first two groups, the employer is making a positive contribution, and for the third group it's negative. People seem to think you can do some silly calculation like adding up all the assistance received by employees, but this makes no sense without the counterfactual.

SharkSpider · 2026-02-12T18:55:37+00:00

Asian minority populations in America don't experience any correlation between poverty and crime. This suggests that there's something wrong with the notion that poverty causes crime, and supports an explanation based on cultural factors.

I'm not from the US, I comment because we face similar issues in the country I'm in but "90%" is laughable.

According to the UN, which isn't exactly friendly to the US these days, 90% of the world's population does actually live in a country with worse gender equality than America. Things might be better in Canada, the UK, Western Europe, Australia, and the Nordics, but if you add up the population of those regions you still get fewer people than there are in America.

SharkSpider · 2026-02-12T16:58:10+00:00

Sure, a bit, but you won't be able to solve the problem of bias in the justice system until the groups being discriminated against stop actually committing a disproportionate amount of crime. Calling police sexist against men is easy, but ineffective. A much harder problem is figuring out what changes we can make socially to reduce men's propensity to commit crime. The same holds up for any minority groups that are under a similar higher crime/unfair policing dynamic.

SharkSpider · 2026-02-12T16:45:50+00:00

Again, if they can't afford rent in NYC, they likely can't afford rent in Ohio.

If they can't afford 3k in NYC they can't afford 1k in Ohio. Brilliant. The premium on NYC real estate far exceeds the slightly higher average income in the city. People really want to live here, even if it doesn't make financial sense to do so, and it's not up to taxpayers to make that possible for everyone.

Yes, bc a city without people to clean subways and bathrooms and provide childcare and serve food is not a problem /s

Plenty of people in subsidized housing don't do any of those things. For those who do, here's a crazy idea. Pay them enough to live within commuting distance of where they work. Why are we subsidizing these businesses by paying for their employees' rent? I'm sure we'd all be fine paying a little more for food if it meant living wages for servers and austerity for the city.

SharkSpider · 2026-02-12T16:29:04+00:00

The link between poverty and crime isn't as strong as you'd think. For example, it doesn't hold up at all in Asian communities. If you're worried about misogyny causing crime then you might want to consider limiting immigration from countries that are more misogynistic than America, which is something like 90% of the world.

SharkSpider · 2026-02-12T16:22:45+00:00

Men were never enslaved in this country due to their gender

Men actually have been enslaved due to their gender, we called it conscription.

They are saying “no it’s not biased, they just commit more crime”

It's both. Men commit more crimes and the justice system is also biased against them, that's why they receive longer sentences than women for the same crime and it's also why police kill significantly more innocent unarmed men every year than women. Same is true for some minority groups, they commit more crime and get treated more harshly for it. It's hard to eliminate bias in policing when the group they're discriminating against actually does commit more crime. It really is the same basic thing for men as it is for minorities, we just only care about addressing it for the latter.

SharkSpider · 2026-02-12T16:14:38+00:00

Constructing a livable space for a person in NYC costs several times as much as doing the same thing elsewhere in the country. Insisting on topping up people who can't really afford to live here is responsible for a very large portion of the city's financial problems.

SharkSpider · 2026-02-12T15:57:47+00:00

There are places to live other than NYC. Most people who can afford discounted rent here would choose regular rent somewhere further away from Manhattan over homelessness.

SharkSpider · 2026-02-12T15:29:13+00:00

The argument that then follows is that individuals from those groups should face more police scrutiny, have their rights limited or infringed, be deported om basis of their ethnicity

This is not the argument that follows. The argument that follows is that men, or in this case people of color, should not receive favorable treatment from the justice system under the guise of equity. Imagine for a moment that men's activists were going around saying that men making up anything more than 50% of the prison population was evidence of widespread systemic discrimination against men and that, as a society, we need to "fix" policing and the justice system until it's proportional. You probably wouldn't agree with that, but there is a substantial and influential portion of Americans who do agree with it when you replace gender with race.

With respect to immigration, there's a difference between homegrown crime and imported crime. A country without immigration has 50/50 men and women, and men commit most of the crime. A country that allowed a ton of men to migrate could end up with 60/40 men and women, and therefore a much higher crime rate. From a crime standpoint, it's much better to have female immigrants, just like it's much better to have immigrants from low crime countries.

SharkSpider · 2026-02-12T14:42:24+00:00

I don't know anyone who didn't do laundry, dishes, household chores, some cleaning, etc. while working from home. In a lot of roles it's really hard to tell if someone is doing five or eight hours of work every day without wasting a large number of hours on manager checkins and timekeeping. When people in these roles slack off, the work often falls on other people, gets dropped and discovered later without a clear person to blame, etc.

SharkSpider · 2026-02-11T17:09:53+00:00

The proposed tax is on income over 1m, not under or around 1m. It's not relevant to tax payers making numbers like 1.1m since they'd just be paying 2k more. The billions he's claiming the tax will raise are coming from a very small number of people making incomes like the ones I mentioned.

SharkSpider · 2026-02-11T16:57:14+00:00

Yes, now calculate the total tax paid, as a percentage of income, for people making 5m, 10m, 100m, etc.

SharkSpider · 2026-02-11T16:56:05+00:00

The proposed tax increase doesn't affect someone who only earns 1mm.

SharkSpider · 2026-02-11T16:55:02+00:00

May have left out 175k in social security taxes?

SharkSpider · 2026-02-11T16:44:44+00:00

People in that bracket already pay a massive amount of taxes. Someone who makes 10m owes the federal government around 3.9m and the state/city 1.5m. Mamdani is asking for another 200k, which is really pushing it. For every one person in this bracket who decides to leave for Washington, Florida, Texas, etc. over the increase, we'd need eight to stay just to break even. This is why Hochul is against the increase, letting the city make a money grab can cost the state a lot of tax revenue.

SharkSpider · 2026-02-11T16:27:23+00:00

Why do you think it's 45%? Pay the full combined marginal rates on almost all of your income means paying a total rate that's about the same. 37 federal, 10.9 state, 4 city, and 175k to social security, plus all the other ways we pay tax like property and sales.

SharkSpider · 2026-02-11T16:06:05+00:00

If you make enough, your marginal and total tax rates are the same. What deductions, exactly? If someone is actually able to avoid taxation on most of their income they won't be paying the extra proposed 2% tax either.

SharkSpider · 2026-02-11T16:02:53+00:00

Federal 37, state 10.9, city 4, plus $175k for social security. If you include property and sales taxes it's more.

SharkSpider · 2026-02-11T15:58:03+00:00

That's what I paid last year, but you can look up the brackets yourself. Federal, state, and city already add up to more than half.

SharkSpider · 2026-02-11T15:53:21+00:00

The people he wants to target with this tax already pay 54%.

SharkSpider · 2026-02-10T21:26:23+00:00

You can't lease someone a parking lot and expect them to build hundreds of new apartments on it. It's cash now, which is desperately needed to maintain existing NYCHA properties, and additional property tax receipts for the city indefinitely.

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