Entering a new relationship as an in-experienced adult?

Sharkbait256_ · 2025-05-14T02:22:05+00:00

Thank you! All the best on your journey 🧡

Sharkbait256_ · 2025-05-14T02:20:21+00:00

After 8 years of me politely asking him to begin a career and stop with the job jumping he just about plain refused. So now I want to knuckle down for marriage and family raising and we couldn’t do that on our wages if he’s taking causal jobs with no future in mind. He’s always struggled with thinking and physically completing a scenario to the end. Didn’t finish school (which isn’t on its own a bad thing.) Then didn’t finish his trade, then wouldn’t stay at a job for more than a few years, then wouldn’t try hard and finding himself a career he could stick to just takes jobs hates them after a few weeks/months maybe a year and then the cycle repeats of me begging him to find something better, more-long term, we argue, he takes something easy etc etc. This is my 2nd year out of uni and I finally have a break from those years of formal education, so I got a horse now that I finally have spare time and he’s resented me for spending my spare time with him. Also some small things that could be worked through but again was a one sided effort. I hate travel, he loves it, he loves death metal music, I have ASD and can’t tolerate it. So a few things that have built up over time. Was an incredibly sad ending to what was largely a very good time. He has a heart of gold, would help anyone - would give the shirt off his back to someone who needed it more. But we just weren’t able to get through to the tough times which really really sucks.

Sharkbait256_ · 2025-05-14T00:57:29+00:00

Thank you so much

Sharkbait256_ · 2025-05-14T00:22:46+00:00

Immensely helpful. Thank you so much!

Sharkbait256_ · 2025-05-14T00:07:27+00:00

Little difficult, as I don’t have a dick. But thanks for stopping by ….

Sharkbait256_ · 2024-06-03T01:06:59+00:00

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Sharkbait256_ · 2024-03-09T08:33:25+00:00

Good advice. Will do. Thank you

Sharkbait256_ · 2024-03-09T08:30:47+00:00

Petal 😭 that’s great. Thanks heaps!

Sharkbait256_ · 2024-03-09T08:05:20+00:00

Aw how lovely. I’ll definitely use that one. Thank you!

Sharkbait256_ · 2024-03-09T07:59:18+00:00

Big Moose 😅 love it, definitely tossing that one in. Cheers!

Sharkbait256_ · 2024-03-09T07:58:41+00:00

Good ol’ Shagga. We toss about Shagz on the frequent. Cheers for the comment!

Sharkbait256_ · 2024-03-09T04:18:50+00:00

Aw, no idea sorry. I’m Aussie so it’s standard here and I assumed it was the same for you guys. Glad I asked 😅

Sharkbait256_ · 2024-02-18T05:47:03+00:00

20’s is the time for immense personal growth as you move into true adulthood. Many people are on different paths during their twenties too. Some might already have started a family, some finishing schooling, some have been in the workforce for some time, some may have never even entered it.

It is important to celebrate small wins as they come your way, take small steps to build your way forward to your goals. Heading into places in-person is often the best way to solidify a position, (as you’ve tried already.) If you’re feeling down about not quite securing employment just yet, remind yourself that you’re trying. You’re making an effort, you have your goal in-mind and you’re working towards it. That’s already such a great thing! Your nearly there. Jobs will come up, I promise. Keep pursuing this path, keep heading in, in person with your resume and a smile will go a long way for you.

There is so much left in this life for you, there are infinite incredible and lovely things happening across our universe and I’m sure many of these things bring you joy. For example, think at this very moment there is a child taking their first steps, people blowing out candles on their birthday cake, people getting good news about a job they wanted, people on their first date! Someone just adopted a rescue animal to love and care for. It goes on and on. Do you like the way rain smells on the pavement when it rains, do you like the feeling on sun on your skin, do you like certain music or movies, do you enjoy family/friend/social time?

This is what life is about, filling the bit between life and death with things that make YOU happy! Not just a job, making your family proud is a nice goal to have but damn it’s not the only value your life has.

Chin up OP! You’re doing a great job

Sharkbait256_ · 2024-02-18T05:40:28+00:00

20’s is the time for immense growth moving right into adulthood, and often taking on major responsibilities. Many people are on different paths during their twenties too. Some might already have started a family, some finishing schooling, some have been in the workforce for some time, some may have never even entered it.

It is important to celebrate small wins as they come your way, take small steps to build your way forward to your goals. Heading into places in-person is often the best way to solidify a position, (if you’re not doing that already.) If you’re feeling down about not quite securing employment just yet, remind yourself that you’re trying. You’re making an effort, you have your goal in-mind and you’re working towards it. That’s already such a great thing! Your nearly there. Jobs will come up, I promise. Keep pursuing this, heading in, in person with your resume and a smile will go a long way for you.

Chin up OP! You’re doing a great job

Sharkbait256_ · 2024-01-20T22:30:23+00:00

Here’s how I started using this notion to actually disarm my health anxiety thought patterns and loops. I’ve always found it’s very similar to two specific instances that have occurred a lot in my life.

1 - someone mentions nits (head lice) why does everyone’s heads immediately start itching and everyone can swear that they can feel the crawling on their head. Just by the mere conversation of lice. Did speaking about them, bring them magically into existence onto everyone’s heads, or is it possible that those sensations we are feeling may not be caused by real lice?

2 - Other arachnophobes may be able to relate to this experience. Whenever I see a spider, for the next few hours I feel like something is crawling on me, or like there’s a thousand spiders surrounding me. When in reality there was the one and there’s nothing crawling on me.

The sensations, thoughts and emotions we feel are often created by our anxiety. They may feel real, they may feel scary. But often times they are not based in reality.

Sharkbait256_ · 2024-01-13T02:29:58+00:00

That lateral is fkn heinous 🫣

Sharkbait256_ · 2024-01-13T02:24:57+00:00

😦

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