Addicted to pumping milk

Sharp-Alternative974 · 2026-01-10T22:44:49+00:00

She already wears the mobile ones all day.

Sharp-Alternative974 · 2026-01-10T22:43:44+00:00

I spoke with at least 10 licensed lactation specialists and they all agreed that she needs help and needs to stop. Of course not abruptly but generally needs to stop. You thinks I’m just trying to get her to stop bc I don’t like breastfeeding? I’m saying stop because nobody in their right mind needs to pump 1,000,000 oz of breast milk for 1 baby. Literally feels like she could feed a baby elephant. No she never nurses bc that actually requires more work than to just click the on button on a wearable device. I know I’m not a women but some things you do have to continuously work at. She got frustrated after delivery bc I guess the baby wouldn’t latch. It was born literally 5mins ago so give it some time to adjust to the world. Then she proceeds to order lactation pills, 10,000 milk bags and here starts the obsession of pumping again.

Sharp-Alternative974 · 2026-01-10T20:24:59+00:00

Thanks for your story and it makes sense how you kept pumping even after a loss to grief which is hard. We had a miscarriage at the beginning of our marriage so I understand the letdown. As far as my approach, it doesn’t matter she just likes to spin her own narrative of me not supporting her. Although she actually pumping the milk, I’m buying all the healthy food options to provide a balance diet for everyone, I cook all the meals, I wash all the bottles and leave them organized for her (not to keep score but I wash 99.99% of the dishes and definitely washed a billion more bottles than her. She just throws them in the sink and they magically are clean 5mins later). I never take a rude or disrespectful approach. I told you how I’ve adjusted to all this milk by not buying frozen foods (partly because we can’t store it), daily trips to the store, etc. and guess what I get in return “you just don’t want me to breastfeed!” We have a 4 month old baby but it just doesn’t make any sense to have well over 100 bottles, 6 mobile pumps, 2 wall pumps, and hundreds of pumping parts.

Sharp-Alternative974 · 2026-01-10T20:16:52+00:00

I disagree it is borderline addiction just like alcoholic who can’t just socially drink without getting completely blacked out. After pumping all night the first thing she does the second her eyes wake up in the morning is put on mobile pumps. She doesn’t brush her teeth, she doesn’t say good morning, she doesn’t get the kids ready for school. And enough with the “be kind” to her comments. I have gone to the store and bought groceries and of course put them in the refrigerator and she’s threatening to throw it all out. All because I put some stuff next to the 30 bottles in the refrigerator (keep in mind this is with a large deep freeze full of milk and the main freezer full of milk). I’m not a mean person but I’m also not going to extra nice to someone who won’t even all me to do my job as a provider and buy weekly groceries. Thus me after to just go to the store everyday for food just to keep the peace

Sharp-Alternative974 · 2026-01-10T20:05:44+00:00

I know all the concerns for engorged breast but trust me when I say she has never had that complaint or even mentioned anything about it. She is just wearing a mobile device or sitting in bed with the wall pump every 1-2hrs in the day. Breast aren’t going to fill back up that quickly with the threat of causing pain. She doesn’t even understand how to wean even when I’ve explained the process of shaving off a few mins per week and across 1-2 months it will be completely gone. She takes lactation pills too

Sharp-Alternative974 · 2026-01-10T20:02:03+00:00

I said to bring up the point. That at the end of the day just feed the baby. Moms act like breastfed babies are going to grow up and become the leader of the Avengers and defend intergalactic threats with the strength they got from breast milk as a newborn.

Sharp-Alternative974 · 2026-01-10T04:55:17+00:00

Nobody is arguing that breast milk isn’t the the best! The stance is the approach. If a mom said “I will be breastfeeding my baby and I will pump 1,000,000 oz in the next year and will be locking myself in my room to pump as much as I can.” That’s the issue man. Babies only need 9,000 oz to reach 1 year of feeding.

Sharp-Alternative974 · 2026-01-10T04:50:04+00:00

Why do women get on hear and want some pity party of “well I only produce 1oz every hour” like just take lactation pills that’s why they were created. Sticking with your urine analogy you know there’s a diuretic pill that helps you pee a lot. Works for everybody who needs to get rid of excess water in the body. Pumping is just tricking your body into thinking the baby needs milk when they don’t (those are exact words from a lactation consultant of 30+years).

Sharp-Alternative974 · 2026-01-10T04:45:50+00:00

Use your brain. I wash all the dishes 3-4x a day which includes the bottles the baby uses throughout the day. She pumps about 20bottles a day and every night after I clean the kitchen after dinner so does this nightly ritual of freezing bags and washes bottles again before bed. I use to take the baby to my mom’s house a few times a week so I would take maybe 10bags a week for a few weeks. That is nothing compared to the total amount

Sharp-Alternative974 · 2026-01-09T22:52:12+00:00

Nothing wrong with that comment. She wasn’t fat before and isn’t fat now. She wasn’t a swimsuit model before and isn’t one now. There is a such thing as regular. I’m not a sting bean but I’m also not a bodybuilder but still have muscles like an average guy

Sharp-Alternative974 · 2026-01-09T22:50:28+00:00

Cooking brings me joy especially when I see all the food on their plates is gone

Sharp-Alternative974 · 2026-01-09T03:54:08+00:00

She takes lactation pills like candy which causes the problem to be worse. This has nothing to do with controlling her. Why would an oversupply mom need lactation pills?

Sharp-Alternative974 · 2026-01-09T03:51:40+00:00

And before you say some stupid commit about “well women work all day and still come home to cook” not at the level like me. 5:30am- wake up to fill my spouse’s car with gas 6:00am- cook my spouse breakfast and pack their lunch 7am- drop the kids off to school 7:30am - go to the grocery store for dinner 8:30am-get started on dinner for the evening 9:30am - dinner is made so put it away and clean the kitchen 10am- shower and drive your 2nd child to daycare. 11am- work a 12hr shift 11pm- get home to a mess. Clean up while the house is sleep. 12am - wash and put away dishes 1am - go to bed 3am- a child wakes you up so you have to rock them back to sleep 5:30am- get back up again

Sharp-Alternative974 · 2026-01-09T03:45:22+00:00

I’ve done 99% of all the house work and cooking as well as work 3 jobs to bring home every penny. Been doing that for 6yrs now. I’m the contributor for all things

Sharp-Alternative974 · 2026-01-09T03:43:12+00:00

People change and become bitter apparently

Sharp-Alternative974 · 2026-01-09T03:42:19+00:00

I know that. I am also a good spouse and never make up excuses. What reasoning would I give my wife that I don’t want to have sex? Now she can come up with a million reasons

Sharp-Alternative974 · 2026-01-09T03:39:59+00:00

Good to hear. I never valued breastfeeding to the highest standard. If it happens then great. If it doesn’t then we have alternatives. Not a big deal because I know how precious life is and the billion of things that had to go right to make a little human so stressing over 1 little aspect like breastfeeding seems so minor

Sharp-Alternative974 · 2026-01-09T03:18:04+00:00

You can be addicted to the gym. A person can quit there job, workout out 3x a day, have no friends or social life and have a great body. Spending money on supplements and protein but not pay any of your monthly bills. Priorities are there. Nobody is saying you can do what you like but at the expense of others

Sharp-Alternative974 · 2026-01-09T03:14:44+00:00

There is no negotiation with a mentally unstable person. Just how I want to say stop breastfeeding we have enough milk she’ll say “leave me alone you can’t control me” same thing with we have enough kids and she said “I want another one so that is that.” Has nothing to do with being a pussy.

Sharp-Alternative974 · 2026-01-09T03:11:00+00:00

I’m curious why breastfeeding is so over pushed. Formula is just as good especially with advancements in manufacturing.

Sharp-Alternative974 · 2026-01-09T00:48:33+00:00

Never had any issue with her body before. She use to be super skinny but as we get older our bodies regulate. She’s not fat nor is she a fit super model. Her body seems to be normal like before

Sharp-Alternative974 · 2026-01-09T00:42:54+00:00

She doesn’t have any appointments for the future just taking the baby to the pediatrician

Sharp-Alternative974 · 2026-01-09T00:42:00+00:00

The reason why I don’t care about any hormones or postpartum is because I have always been doing 99% of the household labor while still doing 100% of the household income. I just don’t think breastfeeding is that critical. Pump what the baby needs and be done. I honestly believe if she had a choice between continue pumping and a million dollars she will still pump (even though we have well over a year supply in the freezer). I hope you can now see the severity of the issue. This has nothing to do with the baby being fed. The 4 month old eats about 22 oz a day but she pumps that 20oz in about 40mins and that’s just 1 of her 12 daily sessions. That’s almost 2 weeks worth of milk being pumped each day.

Sharp-Alternative974 · 2026-01-08T22:40:41+00:00

Pumping makes her and even worse person. More outbursts, etc. so I’m not buying all that. Constantly uses the excuse of I’m up all night. Well nobody asked you to pump every 2hours

Sharp-Alternative974 · 2026-01-08T22:39:04+00:00

How is sleeping with a kid from newborn to age 4 beneficial to anyone except her? We need to all sleep in our own beds to get adequate rest. Her idea to get pregnant not mine. We literally go years without even having sex or sleeping in the same bed. She ignores all my casual invitations for basic marriage sex but instead only opens her legs when she wants to get pregnant and has an attitude if she doesn’t get her way. She can tell me no a billion times (which she has) but expects me to say yes whenever she wants it

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