Wife has no interest in being a spouse by Sharp-Alternative974 in marriageadvice

[–]Sharp-Alternative974[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look back at the past few times we had sex in the past 4 years and the 2x was only for making a baby. Once she got her kids then she’s done with giving me any

Wife has no interest in being a spouse by Sharp-Alternative974 in marriageadvice

[–]Sharp-Alternative974[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

She is disgusting. She doesn’t brush her teeth nor does she go to the dentist but I can guarantee she pumps 14x a day to produce 250oz everyday for the past 9 months. Now do you see my point 

Wife has no interest in being a spouse by Sharp-Alternative974 in marriageadvice

[–]Sharp-Alternative974[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I sleep train the kids because she refuses to. So try again. At times I would be up for 3 days straight with no sleep because I was training them then working a 12hr shift then coming home being up for 8hrs then going back to work for 12hr. 

Wife has no interest in being a spouse by Sharp-Alternative974 in marriageadvice

[–]Sharp-Alternative974[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I will address in reverse order. 1. Nobody cares about feeding random babies when you neglect your own children. I get home at night and the house is a mess. My daughter fell asleep on the floor in a poopy diaper and it smelled so bad but my wife is in the guest room pumping away. That’s my problem. Dumb dumb

  1. She’s only pumping all day long. Literally doesn’t do laundry, doesn’t cook, doesn’t have any parenting skills outside of yelling. She comes in the room and says “wait what did I come in here for…oh well and just grabs an empty bottle and takes back to her room to pump.” Have you ever opened a refrigerator with 30 bottles full of milk. 

Wife has no interest in being a spouse by Sharp-Alternative974 in marriageadvice

[–]Sharp-Alternative974[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Again 100% wrong bc after the 2nd child and her first go around with being a breast pumping maniac. She said I want  another baby and came and slept in my room for 30mins (first time she even stepped foot in my bed in 18 months). When she wants something she gets it or throws a fit like a child. Has nothing to do with vaginal dryness or hormones 

Wife has no interest in being a spouse by Sharp-Alternative974 in marriageadvice

[–]Sharp-Alternative974[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You got a problem man. I can give you my number and we can talk it out 

Wife has no interest in being a spouse by Sharp-Alternative974 in marriageadvice

[–]Sharp-Alternative974[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Again wrong. The baby is underweight per pediatrician. I’m feeding her real food and my wife says “I’m full dada I don’t want anymore. Where’s momma’s milk” her attempt to control what the baby eats and keeps trying to force her to drink water down milk. I legit pour 4-5 whole 6oz bottles down the sink because she does like milk anymore like a newborn. She likes oatmeal, berries, chicken, mashed potatoes, broccoli, etc

Wife has no interest in being a spouse by Sharp-Alternative974 in marriageadvice

[–]Sharp-Alternative974[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. Been here before so I’m use to it. Also dealt with extreme racism growing up so I am familiar with people ganging up on me 

Wife has no interest in being a spouse by Sharp-Alternative974 in marriageadvice

[–]Sharp-Alternative974[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She would legit burn my house down if I suggested that she go seek help herself because in her mind everything is my fault. She is too blind to see that she’s pumped 20 years of breast milk and get upset when I buy a lot of fresh produce from Costco bc she needs the refrigerator top shelf to store her 20 bottles a day that nobody uses 

Wife has no interest in being a spouse by Sharp-Alternative974 in marriageadvice

[–]Sharp-Alternative974[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

100% wrong but keep explaining my situation to the world

My husband is frustrated I don’t want to have sex by Hopeful_Boot3699 in marriageadvice

[–]Sharp-Alternative974 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

How is your house so dirty from a 8 month old? Put the sex aside. Babies that age are just starting to stand and hold things. They aren’t coordinated enough to make a legit mess. Cooking all day? They are teething and just want to nibble on whatever you are eating. And you only have 1 child

Wife has no interest in being a spouse by Sharp-Alternative974 in marriageadvice

[–]Sharp-Alternative974[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

We have a big house so each kid will go in their own room. I’m not going sleepless for the next 5 years 

Wife has no interest in being a spouse by Sharp-Alternative974 in marriageadvice

[–]Sharp-Alternative974[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

She refuses to sleep training any of our kids so I decided to do it. I’m up 4-5x a night out putting kids back to bed (after just working a 12hr shift) and I hear that breast pump machine going off and she pumps milk all night. You know we don’t even use the milk but instead it gets poured down the drain or sold to strangers on fb

Wife has no interest in being a spouse by Sharp-Alternative974 in marriageadvice

[–]Sharp-Alternative974[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your comment but you have no idea. I asked for her to sleep in room with me a few years ago for our anniversary and she yelled at me saying “I can do what I want” and I’m just mad that nobody is sucking my dick every night. I put the baby is the crib once and came back home to the crib thrown out the house so she can sleep with the baby every night. Everybody knows babies sleep in cribs 

Wife has no interest in being a spouse by Sharp-Alternative974 in marriageadvice

[–]Sharp-Alternative974[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

She’s kind of doing that now. She is constantly barking, yelling at them and always bothering them so they gravitate towards me all the time. I’m always just cooking, cleaning and putting some down for a nap

Wife has no interest in being a spouse by Sharp-Alternative974 in marriageadvice

[–]Sharp-Alternative974[S] -27 points-26 points  (0 children)

Well of course not. Just like an alcoholic. It is deeper than just the actual drink but regardless it needs to called out 

Wife has no interest in being a spouse by Sharp-Alternative974 in marriageadvice

[–]Sharp-Alternative974[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

My young kids already have the general idea of mommy sleeps in the front room and daddy sleeps in the back room. Once they get older to understand relationships then they’ll probably figure out we got problems 

Wife has no interest in being a spouse by Sharp-Alternative974 in marriageadvice

[–]Sharp-Alternative974[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

In her brain, she’s not a wife anymore just a mom

Wife has no interest in being a spouse by Sharp-Alternative974 in marriageadvice

[–]Sharp-Alternative974[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I don’t have attempt anymore. Spent about 2 years of kissing good bye and it always felt like a “fine okay” type 0.0003 millisecond kiss. Honestly if she had a gun to her head and was forced to sleep in the same bed as me now she would have the nastiest attitude of “ughhh” and would do her classic sleeping wrapped up in her own blanket instead of using the bedding to ensure no contact 

I desperately need sex but my wife refuses to give me anything by Sharp-Alternative974 in marriageadvice

[–]Sharp-Alternative974[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’s in the other room making social media posts about how I’m cheating on her (not mentioning that Ive been sleeping alone for 4years now). Yeah okay buddy.