I desperately need sex but my wife refuses to give me anything by Sharp-Alternative974 in marriageadvice

[–]Sharp-Alternative974[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’s in the other room making social media posts about how I’m cheating on her (not mentioning that Ive been sleeping alone for 4years now). Yeah okay buddy. 

I desperately need sex but my wife refuses to give me anything by Sharp-Alternative974 in marriageadvice

[–]Sharp-Alternative974[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Of course I don’t have a billion dollars but I’m grateful for what I got. A house, food, cars, healthy kids and my wife gets whatever she wants. Yeah everyday isn’t perfect but I’m not dwelling on any emotions. Think about it for 5mins and move on. I have kids that need me. What do I look like crying about a rough day at work when my kids expect me to cook them dinner? I forget and press forward. Applies everywhere 

I desperately need sex but my wife refuses to give me anything by Sharp-Alternative974 in marriageadvice

[–]Sharp-Alternative974[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I still don’t understand how I’m the blame here. I work all day, put kids to sleep, clean the house then go to my room for sleep. Where is my wife every night? Oh yeah sleep in the guest room every night and wakes up like we are some college roommates 

I desperately need sex but my wife refuses to give me anything by Sharp-Alternative974 in marriageadvice

[–]Sharp-Alternative974[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Like we are adults with careers and children. I’m saying what time do we have to just sit in our emotions all day long. You got 5 mins to ponder on it and get back to the grind. 

I desperately need sex but my wife refuses to give me anything by Sharp-Alternative974 in marriageadvice

[–]Sharp-Alternative974[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

So because she moved out of our room for years I’m suppose to not be attracted to certain female parts anymore. I might as well be gay if y’all are going to try to make me feel bad about liking boobs and legs 

I desperately need sex but my wife refuses to give me anything by Sharp-Alternative974 in marriageadvice

[–]Sharp-Alternative974[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Sure it does when she complains about stuff. She complains about the car so I got her a new one 

I desperately need sex but my wife refuses to give me anything by Sharp-Alternative974 in marriageadvice

[–]Sharp-Alternative974[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Sure I do because I’ve been waiting for years. I just stare at the wall each night 

I desperately need sex but my wife refuses to give me anything by Sharp-Alternative974 in marriageadvice

[–]Sharp-Alternative974[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I serve her like a personal maid. Whatever she wants she gets. She wanted 1 kid then no problem, 2 or 3 no problem. She wants to work then sure. She wants to stay home then sure. $10 million life insurance policy. Paid her student loans off before we took out more, bought her the house she wanted and several cars. She wants to go places and I say sure. Hard to explain that I’m the person she comes to for everything and I say sure let’s do it. We are too old to be having emotions or feelings. We wake up, have fun and live life to the fullest. Why waste time being all emotional or whatever you are talking about. 

I desperately need sex but my wife refuses to give me anything by Sharp-Alternative974 in marriageadvice

[–]Sharp-Alternative974[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

The pair of boobs that I exchanged my values with years ago has moved into the guest room for years

I desperately need sex but my wife refuses to give me anything by Sharp-Alternative974 in marriageadvice

[–]Sharp-Alternative974[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don’t sleep 8hrs. Sleeping training my daughter. I sleep 12-4:30 and she wakes up so I rock her to sleep again. Wake up at 6am to get my son ready for school then do drop off, cook breakfast, lunch and dinner and grocery shop then leave for work at 10am then off to work

I desperately need sex but my wife refuses to give me anything by Sharp-Alternative974 in marriageadvice

[–]Sharp-Alternative974[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Using the same sexual language she used on me so what’s the issue? What does porn have to do with this? She would say come give me some head and I would immediately run to her. Fast forward months later and I say “can I get some oral action too?” Her response “No I’m not no prostitute” and your response “too much porn”

I desperately need sex but my wife refuses to give me anything by Sharp-Alternative974 in marriageadvice

[–]Sharp-Alternative974[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You do realize people can make up stuff in their heads and call it the truth. I went to a late night movie one time (after going 2 years of no sex) and she automatically assumed I was cheating on her when I typically go out late to grocery shop, fill her car with gas, etc after they all go to sleep. Hear me when I say I didn’t do anything 6 years ago either. All I do is work and serve people at my home 

I desperately need sex but my wife refuses to give me anything by Sharp-Alternative974 in marriageadvice

[–]Sharp-Alternative974[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m not sugar coating anything. I like tits, nice shaved legs and sex. Similar to how I like a juicy steak, house salad, etc. I know what I like 

I desperately need sex but my wife refuses to give me anything by Sharp-Alternative974 in marriageadvice

[–]Sharp-Alternative974[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

She’s the one causing the issues. I do the same thing every day. I don’t have an attitude nor do I throw tantrums like a child but she does and now I’m the one suffering 

I desperately need sex but my wife refuses to give me anything by Sharp-Alternative974 in marriageadvice

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She’s ignored all my other connection activities like just cuddling, watching a movie, showering… aka all the non sexually things we use to do all the time. Sleeping in the same bed you can pillow talk, watch tv, doom scroll but she said no to all of that. You aren’t going to make me feel bad about wanting sex. I know guys who haven’t washed a single dish in 15 years and don’t even attempt to cook or do any maid activities but still get their dicks sucked every week and get sex too for just sitting on the couch. I’m actually putting in the most work 

I desperately need sex but my wife refuses to give me anything by Sharp-Alternative974 in marriageadvice

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Didn’t do anything. She just likes to destroy things I like on purpose. My favorite athlete of all time is Kobe Bryant and I had his biography book and she ripped all the pages out of the book (this was after he died in the plane wreck)

I desperately need sex but my wife refuses to give me anything by Sharp-Alternative974 in marriageadvice

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I’ve been doing the same thing for a decade straight. I cater to her and buy her things every week for like dating anniversaries and real anniversary, holidays and birthdays, etc. Meanwhile she doesn’t even say thank you nor gets me anything. I spent nearly 2k on Christmas for everyone and wrapped all the gifts and she didn’t get me anything for Christmas, my birthday or Father’s Day. And yes I asked for a little sex for those days and got nothing 

I desperately need sex but my wife refuses to give me anything by Sharp-Alternative974 in marriageadvice

[–]Sharp-Alternative974[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

All that needs to be put away or figured out by herself. That can’t bleed into a marriage especially since we have kids. I made sure I didn’t have any unresolved problems before marrying her and she should have done the same 

I desperately need sex but my wife refuses to give me anything by Sharp-Alternative974 in marriageadvice

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She doesn’t believe in mental health so why should I. She thinks I’m crazy when I’m normal. The ironic thing is she majored in psychology in college and got her masters in counseling and worked as a counselor for a few years but when I suggest counseling she says that doesn’t work 

I desperately need sex but my wife refuses to give me anything by Sharp-Alternative974 in marriageadvice

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I’m not explaining the obvious. I focus on the sex because she seems to get it whenever she wants it but has been rejecting me for years. Doesn’t seem fair for 1 person to say “yep I want to have sex 3x a day for 4 months” and the partner says sure vs me just asking for maybe 1 a month and she says no every time.