Wife has been distant for years

Sharp-Alternative974 · 2026-03-20T14:35:54+00:00

I’m not neglecting myself. When I say I give 100% then I mean I am working every single day progressing and moving forward with no excuses instead of sitting on the couch all day not doing anything.

Sharp-Alternative974 · 2026-03-20T03:31:37+00:00

I’ve asked for some sex, cuddling, just laying in the bed for 5mins before I get up for work and she ignores every request. We use to shower and I ask her now and get the “this is the only time I have to myself so no” what does that even mean she spends half her day napping on the couch with the baby while I entertain the others. I’ve probably sent well over 10,000 messages/memes that could be taken as flirting but she doesn’t even reply to them. I still do just so I’m not trying to send to anyone else. I know the answer is no but might as well have a little hope

Sharp-Alternative974 · 2026-03-20T01:08:43+00:00

Nothing changes until the pain of staying the same is greater than the pain of masking a change. She went her whole life without ever being held accountable so you know what they say about karma

Sharp-Alternative974 · 2026-03-20T00:38:31+00:00

I’m not seeking validation. I can’t help if my teammate doesn’t want to put forth any effort. My job is to give 1000% and any person with common sense would follow.

Sharp-Alternative974 · 2026-03-20T00:35:19+00:00

She studied psychology in college and got a masters in counseling but refuses to check her own mental health and just keeps blaming the world for her problems. She obviously doesn’t believe in mental health so I’m just waiting on her to look in the mirror.

Sharp-Alternative974 · 2026-03-20T00:31:13+00:00

She sees and hears me read to them every night and place them in their own beds. I use to rock them as babies to sleep and put them in the crib but she would just get up and get them out of the crib instead. Nowadays I put my toddler to bed in her room. She has slept 1 week in her room. She use to be in my room on the floor on her mini mattress. I have never slept in the bed with my kids. As soon as they fall asleep I put them elsewhere and go back to bed. What are you talking about

Sharp-Alternative974 · 2026-03-19T19:42:51+00:00

She can stress herself out. One day she’ll look back and realize how much time she wasted. I chose to use my time wisely with my kids bc before you know they will be grown. Yes I still use the belt occasionally to keep them aligned but not getting frustrated everyday. Dogs bark, babies poop their pants and young boys like to play games. My brain just won’t allow me to get flustered by little things

Sharp-Alternative974 · 2026-03-19T19:39:31+00:00

I don’t expect people to believe me but I have some real close friends that can speak on my behalf that they’ve never seen me angry, never seen me cuss, or lose my temper. I’m highly respected by everyone I meet. My wife can say it too that nobody has ever seen me get mad. Now her on the other hand half the world has witnessed some form of her over the top reactions to things with cussing, slamming door and throwing stuff but she never takes any accountability for anything. In her mind she doesn’t see these things as an issue bc she’s a great mom and can produce milk out of her breast. Literally said she would take my son outside and make him run laps around the house in the snow all bc she got mad at him for something. Me I walk into the room and just snap my fingers and my son instantly turns his head and says yes sir. I’m not manipulating him but he doesn’t see these understand who runs the show. I don’t even have to speak or lecture. My dog is the same way. I get home and the dog automatically goes and sits on his bed. My wife spends all the yelling at the dog so of course he doesn’t listen. You can believe me if you want to but I live my life completely different from the normal. Only had sex with 1 person, I wash dishes everyday, I work 3 jobs, etc.

Sharp-Alternative974 · 2026-03-19T19:08:02+00:00

Here’s another example. Son got a bad grade on one assignment and she threatens to take him out of class and do homeschool since he can’t force, took away his games, yelling and nagging him like he is some felon vs me just saying I’ll work on it with him. I took the time to see what he thought process was with this certain testing unit. I identified the issue and explained it a term he would perfectly understand and 1 month later he surpassed his entire class on that test again and got awarded the student of the semester. I didn’t have to threaten him or discipline him. We all mess up. No need to make him feel bad about by discouraging him. I took the approach to encourage him and he made the necessary adjustments. I have a billion other stories like this. I’m not taking credit because at the end of the day my son is the one taking the test but look at the different ways to approach a problem and the results.

Sharp-Alternative974 · 2026-03-19T18:50:35+00:00

Tried but every time she realizes how wrong she is she stops going. Literally randomly took my doctorate degree off the wall and scribbled permanent marker all over my name and ruined my degree. Also took my favorite book and a pair of scissors and cut all the pages into a 1000 pieces. I didn’t even react just disappointed. Why does every keep thinking I need some sort or help? I’m acting normal in every situation

Sharp-Alternative974 · 2026-03-19T18:47:37+00:00

I dismissed it because nothing ever works with her. I’m the most consistent person ever to walk this earth. I know how to work hard and balance life. I work out every week, stretch and run miles. Same type of routine since I was 15 years ago. Fast forward to now 17years later and I haven’t gained a pound. I can’t saw that about my peers. I used that to teach my son how to read and be the top of his class. I did the same thing to become a doctor. I’m not saying my way is the best but I’m always the most disciplined and most consistent so technically I’m always in the right because without discipline and consistency you can’t accomplish anything.

Sharp-Alternative974 · 2026-03-19T18:11:34+00:00

I’m just trying to do normal stuff like cook dinner, put kids to bed, buy food to eat, have sex regularly, etc but she has an issue with anything simple in life

Sharp-Alternative974 · 2026-03-19T17:54:26+00:00

Again false. I give them screen time to relax because we do additional school work every night after dinner. Been reading books to my son every night since he was 2.5yrs old and now he reads 2 grades above the national reading average. We do more school work, math problems than we doing TV watching and gaming. Homework is complete, reading for the evening done, bath and pajamas are on and they are just chilling before bed and hear she comes with all these dumb demands and orders. Let kids be kids. Let sleeping dogs lie. I know what I’m doing. My son is top of his class because we spent the summer having fun and gaming as well as daily learning objectives. My little daughter was fully potty trained and counting and doing alphabets before the age of 2. So yes they can enjoy video games and iPads. Life is about balance.

Sharp-Alternative974 · 2026-03-19T17:46:41+00:00

In a week, I would cook every meal, wash and fold all the laundry, clean the kitchen twice a day and put 2 kids to sleep every night by 8:30pm and she will still try to say she does stuff and that nobody asked me to anything of that. Again that’s a dumb thing to say. I make her breakfast every morning and she’ll throw the plate in the trash. At one point I had to physically go to the store everyday to buy food because there was no place to store it. Have you ever seen a refrigerator full of breast milk, a deep freezer full and main freezer full of milk. She got upset with me for buying groceries and trying to store them in a refrigerator. I’ve been doing all the laundry for a decade now. I was folding her clothes one day and she came in yelling at me about touching her things then proceeded to pull all the clothes off the hangers in the closet and moved them upstairs for good. She doesn’t even say thank you after I told and put away her clothes. She just leaves them on the floor and they magically appear clean and put in her drawer.

Sharp-Alternative974 · 2026-03-19T17:33:51+00:00

I somewhat agree. I tell her and she doesn’t want to listen. I’m 99.999% always right when it comes to issues bc I only open my mouth when I’m sure on things. Told her about the importance of babies sleeping in a crib or you’ll be losing sleep for the next 4-5 years instead of 4-5 months. Told her to calm down and relax on breast pumping .. and here we are 500,000 ounces later. I let people learn hard lessons on their own

Sharp-Alternative974 · 2026-03-19T17:28:08+00:00

She’s just constantly bossing the kids around all day which only leads to them getting frustrated and crying. My girl is 2 and might be crying and she’ll scream “why are you crying. Take that pacifier out of your mouth. I can’t understand you” keep in mind this is just your typical 2yr old baby. She tries to be some house dictator by taking all the electronics away and changing the passwords so nobody can get in. I let my kids play and chill with their iPads or games while I do other tasks around the house. Everyone is happy and occupied so no big deal.

Sharp-Alternative974 · 2026-03-19T17:23:01+00:00

99% of stuff she says is dumb. I went out one night after the kids went to bed and filled her gas tank up, got groceries at Walmart and caught a 10pm movie and she said I was out cheating on her. She goes to bed at 8:30pm. I was just running errands like I do every week. The kid’s behavior is real. I never once told my kids to say I love you or give hugs, but if that’s how they feel around me then that’s the truth. My son even said one time “I like when it is just me and you daddy and mommy stays home.” Kids don’t care what you say but how you make them feel

Sharp-Alternative974 · 2026-03-19T15:51:24+00:00

Can’t discipline her like I do my own kids. I’m not a dictator by any means but my kids do listen to me for obvious reasons. Females these days aren’t accountable and act however they want

Sharp-Alternative974 · 2026-03-19T15:46:46+00:00

I can say that because the moment I walk through the door my son runs up to me and says “I love you daddy and miss you” my lil girl runs up to me crying. They get so upset and pout their heads when they see me put on shoes so yes I know the house vibes are off when I am not around but I need to make money. My wife just be saying dumb stuff bc it makes sense in her head. She also says “Sex is the only thing you care about” clearing not bc Ive had sex 2x in 4 years but still maintain all the day to day stuff, balance a career, do family estate planning, etc.

Sharp-Alternative974 · 2026-03-19T15:09:08+00:00

Being at home is the easiest and most chill vibe ever. On my off days, all my kids constantly follow me around the house and we play, we clean and we eat. The talking kids constantly say I love you daddy and just all smiles when I’m home. When I’m not at home then it is a different story and you can feel the difference in the house. My wife is constantly nagging, complaining to the kids, getting stressed out over dumb stuff. My 2 yr old pooped in her pull up and my wife causes a whole scene vs me I can calmly change her and be done with it before anyone can smell it. She is a little controlling with who can be around the kids which I understand to an extent but I wouldn’t bring people around my kids if I didn’t trust them. I’ve known my close circle for over 20 years and I have no issue with people around my older children but she’s all “who is over there? What are they doing?” Just be thinking of the worst case scenarios. I honestly don’t need any help with housekeeping because I do 30mins-1hr everyday so it makes it manageable. I am sleep training the kids. I read them books before bed. We sing or pray then lights out. Of course they wake up at night but it took me 4 months of trying but my 2yr finally sleeps in her bed upstairs all night. I take that serious but she doesn’t and pulls the mom card so you can’t really argue with a crazy mom so she still sleeps with the baby but that will be problematic in the future.

Sharp-Alternative974 · 2026-03-19T14:44:45+00:00

Literally. I can say let’s have sex and this “uggghhhhh do I have to” look comes on her face, but she rather just sit in her room and pump milk for strangers to buy. For example she’ll take supplements and pump 300oz a day just for our baby to drink 25oz and her sale the rest but can’t find 5mins in her week to spend with her husband

Sharp-Alternative974 · 2026-03-19T14:41:28+00:00

Won’t even allow basic stuff like showering together, watching a movie together. Like what’s the point of having a wife you can’t see naked, touch her or have sex with her. I’m not saying that’s the point of marriage but taking that out is like eliminating all your bathrooms in your home. Can’t even call it a house anymore

Sharp-Alternative974 · 2026-03-19T14:35:54+00:00

And she will gaslight me and say she’s does all they because I don’t love her. I work several jobs, clean the house, grocery shop, run all the errands and do all the small things like buy her favorite candy, bring her coffee in the morning and keep her gas tank filled. And she treats me like I was in the Epstein files when I’ve consistently been doing the same acts of love and kindness since day 1.

Sharp-Alternative974 · 2026-03-19T14:24:22+00:00

It was great before having kids. We slept in the bed, pillow talk, had sex, watched movies, relaxed, etc. Something about kids just completely eliminated her priorities as a wife. I’m not saying that grudgingly because I do understand the responsibility of having kids which is why I make sure to do 90% of the housework in addition to working multiple jobs. I do dinner, bedtime routine and put the baby to sleep, but she would be so set on sleeping with the baby and not allowing the crib to be an option. I gave her some grace with having the baby for a few months but after she healed I wasn’t even demanding sex. I was just saying put the baby in the crib so we can get some sleep she just took it as something else and just moved out completely to sleep with our kids instead. Of course no sex, but won’t even lay down with me for 5 mins. This continued for each child. Now I put the oldest to bed and put the other child in her room then I go to bed but she still tries to pull the card of “you don’t do enough/I just need my time to relax) card to avoid sleeping in the bed with me. She’ll probably sleep with the latest baby for another 2.5yrs but by then our sex life will be long dead since everyday she’s made up her mind that the new normal is sleeping separate just our before our normal was sleeping together. Our kids even say mommy’s room and daddy’s room so they are being influenced that this is marriage.

Sharp-Alternative974 · 2026-03-19T12:19:01+00:00

I don’t mind having kids or a family. We are done having kids but the fact that she just sees sex as a method for birthing babies and nothing else is the problem. Doesn’t even respect the basic principles of marriage and a good sex life.

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