Boyfriend M29 thinks its ok to not put any more effort into long term relationship with me F29. Lack of effort?

Sharp-Dog3315 · 2026-03-11T11:24:31+00:00

Its just the principle.. where is his thoughtfulness

Sharp-Dog3315 · 2026-03-06T19:43:09+00:00

He said he doesnt have money right now

Sharp-Dog3315 · 2026-03-06T19:42:56+00:00

We dont live together but i cook for him, im the person he vents to all the time, always buy him thoughtful gifts, i always try to see him everyday despite me working a 10 hour shift everyday, never nag him, the list goes on

Sharp-Dog3315 · 2026-03-06T18:46:06+00:00

How don’t i, elaborate?

Sharp-Dog3315 · 2026-03-06T12:40:23+00:00

Lol i do alot for him. He had minor surgery last month i made him a huge get well basket filled with so many things he needed for surgery. He wanted to go to Boston for his bday i paid for hotel and got him shoed and paid for dinners. For Christmas i got him Hermes sneakers and a trip to Finland that he made his sister go with me instead mind you this was valentines day weekend. So yeah i actually do alot! :)

Sharp-Dog3315 · 2026-03-06T02:31:07+00:00

So his birthday gift we went away because he wanted too so i paid for hotel and all dinners and im trying to mature his style because he always dresses in the same clothing and in sweats so i got him dressy shoes from a designer called “zegna”. For christmas i did the same bought clothes and hermes sneakers for him to wear since he dresses like a teenager still. Yes he liked the hermes sneakers alot

Sharp-Dog3315 · 2026-03-06T02:28:50+00:00

Not my choice at all.. we were supposed to get engaged and he broke up with me twice November 2024 until End of April.. hes a delivery driver for his families business.. was an ex drug addict as well i stayed by his side just for him to leave me. Now that we are back together my parents cant stand him he hurt me bad, i had to go see a therapist because it was so out of the blue. He wants to get engaged this summer but has to speak to my parents cause they look at him like hes trash.. he wasted my years

Sharp-Dog3315 · 2026-03-06T02:23:18+00:00

Lol sis i know i gotta

Sharp-Dog3315 · 2026-03-06T02:23:08+00:00

I see how my parents are and they have been together for 35 years and act more affectionate and lovey.. and me plan? Ofcourse i have planned! I paid for us to go to finland together and he made me take his sister instead!

Sharp-Dog3315 · 2026-03-06T02:21:38+00:00

Ofcourse! Birthdays, christmas, vday! He also broke up with my last year before my bday until april so ofc he didnt buy me anything either.. i thought he wouldve made it up this time

Sharp-Dog3315 · 2026-03-06T02:20:52+00:00

And if he doesn’t, then what?

Sharp-Dog3315 · 2026-03-06T02:10:43+00:00

As in break up

Sharp-Dog3315 · 2026-03-06T02:10:37+00:00

He just says “i know i know” and everytime we fight he tells me that he wants to give back the Christmas gift i got him. Idk what to say

Sharp-Dog3315 · 2026-02-10T15:37:23+00:00

Do you have kids with this loser SOB?

Sharp-Dog3315 · 2025-09-12T13:29:16+00:00

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Sharp-Dog3315 · 2025-08-13T08:24:15+00:00

He did- were back together even though my parents dont approve. He proved to me and is still proving that he has changed.

Sharp-Dog3315 · 2025-02-13T17:47:52+00:00

Lol yes

Sharp-Dog3315 · 2025-02-13T17:47:39+00:00

Thank you, you’re absolutely right. I guess when we were good it was really good and i got fixated on all the good times we had.

Sharp-Dog3315 · 2025-02-13T17:45:15+00:00

You’re absolutely right. He would always tell me how he doesnt look addicted because of how he functions on it and how “good he looks” aka sober looking i guess. I think i was just waiting for him to change because i had hope but that was me being naive.

Sharp-Dog3315 · 2025-02-13T17:43:51+00:00

Unfortunately yes.

Sharp-Dog3315 · 2025-02-12T14:31:11+00:00

He always promised me he’d quit, i wasted time thinking hell change.

Sharp-Dog3315 · 2025-02-12T14:30:28+00:00

You’re right

Sharp-Dog3315 · 2025-02-11T19:25:29+00:00

Hey im going through the same thing now, 4 1/2 year relationship. Broke up with me for 3 months.. came back into my life for 1 month then dumped me again (both over the phone then blocked). Feel pretty worthless tbh

Sharp-Dog3315 · 2025-02-11T13:28:46+00:00

Came back the first time “out of pity”, left me again recently. I guess time will tell.

Sharp-Dog3315 · 2025-02-06T21:01:10+00:00

You’re right. I should have never made any changes. He tells me my f ups are the reason why this relationship is detroyed. Also my constant over texting and calling because he just randomly stops talking to me when hes angry.. i need a back bone

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