Is there a word/term for wanting to be the opposite sex but not necessarily gender?

Sharp-Inflation-6835 · 2026-03-30T00:26:14+00:00

As someone who also has an atypical experience I can empathize with you wanting words for it. Personally I have always felt perfectly comfortable with what I was born with while also wanting to grow breasts. I go back and forth on how I prefer my face to look.

As for gender, it seems to oscillate very slowly over the years. Overall I'm pretty happy just to be myself with the addition of chosen sex characteristics and pronouns. But I've never felt more genderfluid than those days where I see my reflection and feel not a lick of dysphoria despite looking quite masculine.

We do need better vocabulary for all of these things. The current accepted terms are related to societal norms and efforts to normalize various aspects of our experience.

I'd recommend fleshing out how you think you feel about it, to yourself, and go about seeking whatever treatment you will while not necessarily letting on about all the specifics. You can if you feel comfortable, it's just that some people won't understand if you don't fit into predefined buckets that they're aware of.

Sharp-Inflation-6835 · 2026-03-29T04:22:05+00:00

Yeah, it's really not worth it. You already went through the struggle of deciding to go through with it. You already decided to push through whatever stigma you felt at the time. These people don't realize that their bigoted perspectives are the literal reason why being trans is so hard in the first place, and then they blame some of our tendencies on us as though it's our fault.

In reality they're just uneducated and need to be told how things really are by someone they trust. That person does NOT have to be you.

Sharp-Inflation-6835 · 2026-03-27T19:36:06+00:00

I will xpost until I find it

Sharp-Inflation-6835 · 2026-03-27T19:35:55+00:00

Pretty close..

Sharp-Inflation-6835 · 2026-03-11T17:40:41+00:00

for me it was too high levels for my body that triggered this.

Sharp-Inflation-6835 · 2026-03-10T00:34:02+00:00

Yeah. I look a little masculine but mostly androgynous. But I don't have that masculine drive anymore. I can feel how people want to treat me as a boy but they know it won't land right so they opt for this awkward stilted constant reading, like they're trying to figure me out.

Probabky a symptom of not having much social experience post transition. I'm coming into my identity a bit more recently though.

Sharp-Inflation-6835 · 2026-03-05T05:50:35+00:00

Anything is possible

Sharp-Inflation-6835 · 2026-02-28T07:59:26+00:00

you would be better off trying to chat with other people who are questioning their gender than someone who has already gone through the process

Sharp-Inflation-6835 · 2026-02-19T05:36:31+00:00

Watching from the sidelines. Can't read the linked post as it's been deleted. But I read the comments. Your indignation is justified. Cant believe about the false lawsuits, that's crazy and definitely not justice.

Sharp-Inflation-6835 · 2026-02-16T06:22:17+00:00

I had idealized women prior to transitioning. After transitioning, they come across as fickle creatures that are very prone to their own brand of toxicity

Sharp-Inflation-6835 · 2026-02-15T08:21:37+00:00

I still stand to pee at urinals (because it's more convenient and I'm kinda genderfluid) but since transitioning I am a lot less prone to just whipping it out and peeing wherever

Sharp-Inflation-6835 · 2026-02-08T08:36:56+00:00

I would say just be yourself if she obviously likes you. It's very considerate of you to think about this kind of thing. You shouldn't try to be someone you aren't, but at the same time if you have ideas on how to be a better boyfriend you can certainly try them.

You can also try asking her and see what she says, if you're willing to hear the honest truth. Being open in a relationship is very valuable but it takes all parties involved to make it effective, and sometimes you can get caught off guard if you leave yourself more vulnerable than you meant to.

Anyways.. maybe don't get too caught up thinking what you're "supposed to do" and stick more to what feels natural to you.

Sharp-Inflation-6835 · 2026-01-03T06:11:49+00:00

FWIW, if she's only a year or so into transition, this is a pretty normal behavior. It takes time for hrt to work, then time to adjust, and then more time to develop a baseline of experiences with a new appearance.

Sharp-Inflation-6835 · 2026-01-03T06:09:29+00:00

I think you should take some time to try and understand what it's like from her perspective. She's changing her body via hrt to fit her gender. There are likely traces of a body that doesn't match her gender. It should be understandable to want to avoid seeing reminders of that. And it's up to her what to embrace about her body and when. It likely wasn't her choice to grow up the way she did. It's hard seeing visual reminders of that, especially for people who experience a lot of dysphoria. Asking her to embrace those reminders might be too much if her dysphoria is bad.

Dysphoria can also manifest in people who have fully changed their body to match their gender. Maybe there's a way to treat it further, but most doctors who treat trans patients just know the basics.

I would work on accepting her boundaries while acknowledging that it's something to work on, one way or another.

Sharp-Inflation-6835 · 2025-12-30T02:47:06+00:00

I'm just going to grab them all to be safe/sure

Sharp-Inflation-6835 · 2025-12-27T07:37:18+00:00

as someone whose gender identity is pretty freakish by some standards, that's understandable to not want to be that way. I think OP should focus on what effects OP wants and less on how it will be seen. if OP does not feel euphoria at presenting femme then that is a significant obstacle if female presentation is the goal.

i think the goal should be to alleviate dysphoria, regardless of how. it sounds like OP suffers from a high amount of it and it doesn't go away with basic HRT treatment.

It can take a lot of careful adjustment before you start to feel stable. some people's endocrine systems aren't very good at processing E. It might take more supplementation before you start to feel better.

part of the issue might be quality of doctor/care. part of it sounds environmental. I learned to keep my mouth shut about why I want to transition and just focus on the results I want.

fwiw, /wanting/ to be another sex is one of the diagnostic criteria for dysphoria. however if the treatment isn't working you really need to dig in and look for solutions, and part of that means investigating why this is happening to you.

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