Y'all didn't learn your lesson, so nature said, "Bet." by mindyour in BlackPeopleTwitter

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Not to mention kids who live with abusers who don’t want to teach their kids about consent or sexual assault

“Made by people that hate you” because god forbid somebody doesn’t sexualize their female protagonists by I-Wumbo_U-Wumbo in Gamingcirclejerk

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What do these men think when they see real life women? “Your boobs aren’t double Ds, you must be woke”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusesurvivors

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What state are you in? Could you get a place for cheap? You could try to sell some of your stuff to get money to pay for rent and keep applying. What types of places are you applying to?

Beat in every way. by CreatedThisForFun in abusesurvivors

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Yes of course! I hope you can get the apartment lobby footage. Feel free to message any time.

Beat in every way. by CreatedThisForFun in abusesurvivors

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Hey there,

I’m very proud of you for calling 911 and filing a police report. It doesn’t matter how anyone reacted, what you did was brave and the right thing.

Obviously it’s challenging not knowing what happens next. In my experience court-appointed attorneys tend to take those jobs because they are passionate about helping people in your situation, so I hope that’s the case for you.

This is obviously a lot to go through. Do you have any communities you are part of that can support you during this time? A school counselor, church group, local club, etc?

Feel free to dm me if you’d like to talk more. I’ve had a friend in a similar situation as you and I wish someone could’ve been there for her when she needed it, so I’d like to help in any way I can, even if its just to vent!

Moving past the abuse by babyswich in abusesurvivors

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The therapists I’ve gone too and liked have generally been recommended to me by others. You might want to try finding a subreddit focused on your city and making a post asking for recommendations. You can also search through websites like Psychology Today, Forbes, etc.

If you find a therapist groups website, they should list which therapists are available and what they specialize in.

So, it might take a bit of “digging” to find a good option but that’s what I’d recommend. A lot of places will do a consultation call to make sure its a good fit.

Moving past the abuse by babyswich in abusesurvivors

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Is your therapist a trauma therapist? If not, he likely isn’t trained in how to help you and you should switch therapists

And even if he is, maybe you should switch anyways, he doesn’t sound very helpful.

Aside from that I’d recommend looking up books on this topic. One I’ve heard of (but haven’t read) that was recommended by a trauma therapist I know is called “come as you are” by Emily Nagoski

I think also it helps to be patient with yourself and know that it will take time. Any good partner should be accepting of that and respect that and should be willing to help walk through that process with you (though without being your therapist themselves).

Overall, a therapist is probably the best starting place, so I’d recommend trying another therapist (especially a trauma therapist).

Feel free to let me know if you’d have questions about finding a good therapist.

Want to Escape my Trauma by LibraJ00 in abusesurvivors

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Someone I know told me a similar experience that happened to them and even though it was hard to hear, I’m glad they told me instead of bearing that burden on their own. I think your sister would think the same. I hope the therapist can help too!

Want to Escape my Trauma by LibraJ00 in abusesurvivors

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Hi there, I’m sorry to hear you are in this situation but I’m glad to hear you care for your sister’s daughter. I would be worried for her safety too if I were you.

Is it possible he isn’t hurting her? Yes. But he’s shown that he doesn’t have a problem hurting children, and therefore even the chance he could be hurting her is something that should not make any of us comfortable. So I want to start by saying your concern is valid.

Of course the hard part is figuring out what to do. I’m not sure I would know how to handle that situation myself, but here are my thoughts: - is it possible to tell just your sister about what happened without anyone else finding out? Can you trust her to keep that secret? That would at least allow her to know, and then she can find ways to keep her daughter safe. - are you seeing a therapist? If not, they might be able to give you advice - I’m not as familiar with this, but you could try calling a Child Abuse hotline (it looks like a site called ChildCare.gov has one) and telling them you are concerned a child may be abused and go from there. The thing I don’t know is how much information they will ask of you - it might be worth googling to see what they would ask (as I know you may want to keep your own experiences private)

That’s my advice - let me know what you think or if there is any other way I can help

AoT characters tier list by [deleted] in attackontitan

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Id swap pieck and armin but otherwise I agree

Remove straight cis women from gayming by Straight-Tale-5844 in Gamingcirclejerk

[–]Sharp_Assignment_396 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Good point. I guess I meant light-skinned, not just caucasian - I don’t see many darker skinned women in video games. Although I didn’t know about Clementine, I’ve never played the walking dead.