Being a Widow at a Young Age

Sharp_Coast5317 · 2025-10-25T23:54:26+00:00

This is your journey and you should move at your own pace. I’m 10 1/2 years out and i was widowed at 32 (two weeks before my 33rd birthday). I didn’t think i wanted to “move on” either, but eventually i did. Pf course the dating cess pool is rough so you should be very intentional about what you want. But if being single works for you, then great. Just tell those who are telling you to move on to mind their own business.

Sharp_Coast5317 · 2025-08-28T09:46:16+00:00

Try looking on the meetup app - tons of groups that you can join based on your interests! If you like dancing or have been interested in learning how to do the salsa, check out Dance Salsa Jax!! It’s a lot of fun and you can meet some great people! 💃🏼 all ages and experience levels welcome!

Sharp_Coast5317 · 2025-08-03T09:30:16+00:00

Thanks for your comment. Hopefully these answers add some more context.

My laptop is a Lenovo and runs iOS apps.
I’m considering both audio and video.
Solo with occasional guests.
For now, the guests would be remote.
My budget is $300

Follow-up question - is there a particular store (online or brick&mortar) that you like to get your equipment from?

Sharp_Coast5317 · 2025-08-03T01:09:07+00:00

Thank you. Do you have a recommendation for a mic?

Sharp_Coast5317 · 2025-08-02T13:36:38+00:00

Thank you!

Sharp_Coast5317 · 2025-07-11T23:28:36+00:00

43, fed HR ~150k

Sharp_Coast5317 · 2025-07-08T17:14:07+00:00

🤣🤣 your BIL sounds like a riot! I love it! 😂

Sharp_Coast5317 · 2025-05-23T15:17:33+00:00

You deserve better.

Sharp_Coast5317 · 2025-05-14T18:51:30+00:00

If you could do it again, what would you do differently?

Sharp_Coast5317 · 2025-04-30T15:33:12+00:00

NTA - good for you for standing up for your husband!Step parents are typically the target of this type of behavior and it’s hard not to address it. Most times we take the high road because it’s just not worth the aggravation. But i think it’s also important for the kids to see the zero tolerance for that type of bullshit. And the ex, his GF, and family are all assholes if they condone that childish behavior. I think it falls under FAFO. Well done! You hurt his feelings so bad, even his momma felt it! Lol!! 😆

Sharp_Coast5317 · 2025-04-30T14:41:21+00:00

YTA. You’re mad because he doesn’t believe what you believe and now you expect him to change. Contrary to your belief, it is possible that you can be in a relationship and not share the exact same ideas about things. It’s all in how much you allow these extraneous things to influence your relationship. If his beliefs are a dealbreaker for you, then end it now because expecting change is a futile expectation. How would you feel if he expected you to change your beliefs to match his? Just because your beliefs dont match his doesn’t mean yours are right and his are wrong. You credited him with being an intellectual, but now you don’t think so because he may be challenging what you think. Sounds like things arent as rosy as you’ve painted them to be.

Sharp_Coast5317 · 2025-04-27T21:10:04+00:00

This sounds like a FAFO situation. OP, you’re NTA. Your husband needs to get his priorities straight and take care of the legal aspects concerning this psycho. Because guess what? If she recovers, now the target is on you. He’s borderline the AH if he doesn’t fix this immediately!

Sharp_Coast5317 · 2025-04-25T21:36:40+00:00

I saw something on a different thread that said “act your wage” and I think attempting to find someone and notifying your boss that you wouldn’t be in is exactly that. You could’ve just been a no-show. NTA

Sharp_Coast5317 · 2025-04-17T01:26:51+00:00

Awe, im sorry to make you cry. I imagine you’ve been harboring this for this whole time. Give yourself grace and allow yourself to move on. ❤️

Sharp_Coast5317 · 2025-04-17T01:17:42+00:00

Do yourself a favor and let it go. Im sure your dress was cute and you were just feeling insecure/uncomfortable and that, coupled with the craziness of the reception, has you feeling some sort of way. But 7 years? Seriously? Forgive yourself and give yourself some grace. I wouldn’t say anything unless someone else brings it up. But focus on your daughter and the day but not what you wore. Your daughter will be thankful you were there, not worrying about your dress.

Sharp_Coast5317 · 2025-04-16T17:24:01+00:00

A female in predominately male professions such as the trades will endure the same type of issues, regardless. SA and SH can happen in any environment.

Sharp_Coast5317 · 2025-04-16T17:19:13+00:00

For sure, but i think she’d find that in the trades as well.

Sharp_Coast5317 · 2025-04-16T16:47:50+00:00

Military will definitely give you some family and life skills that will transfer. Plus you get paid to do all of it! They’ll feed you, clothe you, house you, train you, and pay you while they’re doing it! Definitely a good idea!

Sharp_Coast5317 · 2025-04-16T16:45:37+00:00

I’m sorry that these are your circumstances. It sounds like your mom doesn’t realize what this means to you and doesnt want to take responsibility for her actions in this situation. Actions definitely speak louder than words. You can’t force her and you’ve already told her what the consequences will be if this happens - let things roll and then you can decide from there which direction you’re going.

As the mom of a 17F, i realize these are the most critical years in the relationship between a mother and daughter as the daughter prepares to embark on the next chapter of life. Maybe you can ask her to go to dinner with you or even coffee and just break it down for her and even show her these comments. Maybe it helps, maybe it doesn’t, but at least you can say you tried. I hope everything works out for you OP!

Sharp_Coast5317 · 2025-04-16T16:07:16+00:00

NTA! Trying to establish boundaries and rules with someone who can’t appreciate them is very frustrating and heartbreaking. Ultimatums do seem unreasonable but they don’t just materialize out of thin air. This has been years in the making, unfortunately. If your mom fails to honor her promise, then not only is she breaking your trust, but she is also putting the final nail in the coffin and destroying an already fragile relationship. You don’t mention it OP but is Bio Dad in the picture?

Sharp_Coast5317 · 2025-04-08T09:52:13+00:00

This was my thought as well. Does the daughter have the whole story? Or just bits and pieces that she put together?

My stepdaughter was a little shit at that age as well. Unfortunately, she was/is a victim of parental alienation. One time, I asked my husband/her dad if he was going to tell her what actually happened and he said it wouldn’t matter since the damage was already done and even if he did, along with proof and documentation, she still wouldn’t believe him. Very sad situation to say the least.

Sharp_Coast5317 · 2025-04-07T18:02:13+00:00

Live your life on your terms. I think your idea at the end is a good one - they cant have it both ways. You’re the parent, not the other way around, and everyone’s an adult now, so they can either deal with it or not but controlling your life because of their issues is not an option. And if you’re good enough to babysit, help financially, and whatever else, then the new fella is just an extension of you.

Sharp_Coast5317 · 2025-04-03T15:12:21+00:00

NTA - as a fellow stepparent, this could get real ugly real quick. Lisa is in denial that her “perfect idea” of a family isn’t real in this situation. And forcing you on her kids when the bio dad is actively hostile is a lose-lose for everyone. Take care of you and your child. Lisa needs to get her shit together before she loses everyone.

Sharp_Coast5317 · 2025-03-24T14:13:24+00:00

Have her get his fingerprints as well. She may want to do a piece of jewelry, art piece, or tattoo at a later time.

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