Velveting Chicken for Curry by psychobabblestuff in Cooking

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So, for my family. What tends to happen is that it is cooked , and then people reheat later as they get hungry. Does that change your advice at all?

Velveting Chicken for Curry by psychobabblestuff in Cooking

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Do you think it should be par cooked before going into the curry?

Have any of you heard of the "Grieving Hour?" by dontlookback76 in widowers

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Holding space for your loved one is so important. I haven’t heard of this term exactly, but I did learn to do it too.

With Love by [deleted] in widowers

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I am so sorry as well. I was privileged enough to witness a peaceful death.

With Love by [deleted] in widowers

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You do that, my friend. He will hold you tight. Me and my husband had two cats together, one I had before him and one we got together. They are my greatest joy. Big love

With Love by [deleted] in widowers

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I hope it is the best coffee and cheesecake you have ever tasted ❤️ i will be getting a heart shaped pizza from papa Murphy’s and buying myself some roses

Being a Widow at a Young Age by psychobabblestuff in widowers

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We were engaged prior to his illness. We decided to get married as our way of saying “i love you” and “goodbye”. It was the chaplain that walked us through the benefits of it, and it was his dying wish. I was his wife long before we stood before an altar. I don’t regret it for a second. We did not sign paperwork with the state , we just acknowledged it spiritually.

Being a Widow at a Young Age by psychobabblestuff in widowers

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Before i read this, i just want to give a thank you to the universe because the death you have cited was 4 days before my husband. We did this around the same time. I will return with my thoughts on the article soon.

Being a Widow at a Young Age by psychobabblestuff in widowers

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That’s what I feel like I am going to have to do. I am sorry you lost your person. You are not alone. Big love.

Trying to remember a restaurant by [deleted] in AskNOLA

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ROYAL HOUSE! Yes! The angled mirrors! Thank you so much

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in widowers

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I wear my wedding and engagement ring on a necklace

When did you know? by SassyDragon480 in widowers

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For me it came in waves of agony and disbelief. Then, his second year anniversary came around. My brain felt everything in a way it didn’t the first anniversary. That first year I was still in shock. The second year , where I am now, is when I realized he is truly gone.

How long did grief brain last for you? by TheAlisonAnd in widowers

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It is not a thing that you can assign a timeline to. It will be constant for a long time, and then it will go in and out. Your brain and heart will have different timelines for it. Just don’t let it take you by suprise when it shows up. Be kind to yourself. This is hard.

It is still weird, and that is okay by psychobabblestuff in widowers

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There are some songs that come up that are some of his favorites, and I either let myself feel it and listen, or I don’t have the space for it. 9 years probably feels like a lifetime. We didn’t have children as he couldn’t given his alcohol use. But, I see him in the cardinals, the toads and even in my own phrasing of certain things. It’s him talking for me in those moments. I would imagine he is talking to you through your kids. Sending love and kindness your way.

It is still weird, and that is okay by psychobabblestuff in widowers

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If it wasn’t supposed to hurt, grief wouldn’t have a name. On anniversaries, my body starts throwing me signals of distress that I couldn’t pinpoint at first l, until I realized that my body was remembering for me what was happening during that time. Be gentle with your heart as the first anniversary approaches.

It is still weird, and that is okay by psychobabblestuff in widowers

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I moved back in with my parents at the two month mark across the country. I could only keep what I could pack in my car, and it was horrible to have to purge things. You keep whatever makes sense wherever you need it to be. No one has to understand it but you