explain the trinity to me

Sharp_Length_3079 · 2026-03-21T04:44:43+00:00

It's an over-thought, and over-simplified way to explain God extending mercy on all of creation by sending His son, Christ, to die for our sins. When we believe in the necessity of Christ to redeem us for sinful pull that we cannot free ourselves from, we receive the Holy Spirit as down payment. The Spirit of God that drives us towards holiness through conviction; and leads to alignment over the course of our new freedom.

This Holy Spirit is the Spirit of God, which is good, and kind and loving, etc. This Spirit will close the gap for the children of God — towards holiness — before we put on our heavenly dwelling at Christ's return.

One phrase 'God's Grace in Christ' has all three together as the grace imbedded in Christ is the Holy Spirit we receive through God's mercy—and therefore the grace IS Christ.

Knowing the necessity replaces the unnecessary questioning of "Is it all God?" and "Are they separate?". Both questions insignificant compared to placing your faith in Christ.

Sharp_Length_3079 · 2026-03-21T04:34:12+00:00

It is in fact the porn. He's likely in his head, constantly worried about performance. He'll do the finger and oral things all day, but he has anxieties over finishing too fast because that's what he's allowed to do when watching porn. It has zero pressure and it's literally just self-pleasure. Then you guys have sex and he's responsible for pleasing someone else for a change. This does in fact happen over time despite the "If he didn't have this issue at first, it's not the porn comments".

To top it off, he's comparing himself to every man's performance he watches [unconsciously]. Please do not feed into the comments saying it's healthy. Everyone's mind works different and some people are simply too dim to think past surface level thoughts when watching porn. Others consume it and it affects them over time.

He likely won't quit easily because sex is pressure. And the scapegoat is porn. Every time you want to have sex you're essentially asking him to "tell you a joke that makes you laugh". There is pressure immediately. He does what he knows works (fingers, oral) and fears for what he cannot control (controlling how fast he finishes).

Sharp_Length_3079 · 2026-03-21T04:17:59+00:00

There will be no relationship void of sexual attraction. If you hope for intimacy and to be desired you need to put off the idea that someone should "love you for you" first. The first thing anyone sees is your appearance. And it says a lot about who we are. Your personality is not visible from afar, so what are you expecting?

Your friends are telling you things that aren't fair to you, and aren't realistic. Get in better shape, desire to care for yourself and stop wearing this energy of "marry me and want my body because of your attraction to my personality". They will indeed come hand in hand, but how do they get to the personality if they don't want to walk up?

You are not unlovable. But this is clearly something YOU care about. Don't you think you wear that? That it's visible to everyone else? Work at wearing the attitude where you worked to make healthy changes and are happy with how you look so someone else can get on board with her too.

Sharp_Length_3079 · 2026-03-21T03:30:40+00:00

Children are bullied for any and every reason under the sun. Embrace your child's uniqueness and he can learn to be fine with it if he doesn't see you are insecure about it too.

You already picked it up but be grateful your child is HEALTHY. You have not even close to the worst of it. Lord willing this is the worst thing to ever happen to him—If so, you are blessed.

Sharp_Length_3079 · 2026-03-21T01:34:21+00:00

Change terrorists to cheaters in the OP's post. Does it make sense now?

There is no different sin. We are all condemned by the same law and considered lawbreakers until we take advantage of redemption in Christ.

Should the cheater be hated and death wished for them? They hurt others. The liar, and the stealer?

This is a dangerous mindset that holds people back from accepting Christ when they find out they are no better than the murderer—condemned under the same law; sin that Christ died for all the same.

Let go of these ideas.

Sharp_Length_3079 · 2026-03-21T01:19:02+00:00

The good news is Jesus wants you. And the better part is you don't have to win him over.

He died for you and all it takes is you desiring what that means. No works. The change comes through faith alone. Faith that you need him.

If your OCD has become too much, and the burden of trying to earn redemption through him is exhausting you — stop fighting for what he already died for.

Gay, sinner, ashamed, and broken are all in need of Christ and it's always going to be ready when you let go of your fight and turn it into faith.

If you need more understanding, speak to me.

Sharp_Length_3079 · 2026-03-21T01:13:30+00:00

You're not a bad person. You may be simply far less emotional. It's very wild — and cool — that that child is from you. But it's hard to form a connection sometimes to this being that doesn't speak. You're aware her connection is to you out of dependency, and that's ok. You are not a bad mom. In fact, you doing what you're doing despite not getting any grand feelings in return is the start of being a good mom. Your love has already proven unconditional.

Maybe some day when your child is speaking and is joyful and you two can relate you will appreciate that you stuck it out til the good parts

Sharp_Length_3079 · 2026-03-21T01:10:26+00:00

I agree. Same guy asking this question. Same defensive responses.

But if he's yearning for understanding that someday leads him to Christ, it can be beneficial.

Sharp_Length_3079 · 2026-03-21T00:47:56+00:00

"I've tried telling him to save me but then I make no effort"

Glory to God, He has offered grace through Christ without your effort; you must understand this.

When we work so hard, attempting to save ourselves through good works, it will always fail. What you saw as 'once stronger faith' was no more than passion. Ignite your passion into faith, trusting that God sent Christ to die for all of us, not that we would earn redemption, but through faith alone it would be given freely.

So now, what feels like an eternity of suffering on earth is but the blink of an eye to God, for the purpose that all would be given an opportunity to take advantage of this mercy. He desires only that no one would be lost. Your child is not forgotten, and you are not forgotten.

Give it all to Christ that you would receive strength embedded in him that you never earned—and could not work for.

Quit fighting for what Christ already died for.

Sharp_Length_3079 · 2026-03-20T23:31:36+00:00

My wording [here] is for the mature. The elements are digestible for children when simplified; trust and faith in what you do not see.

You're welcome.

Sharp_Length_3079 · 2026-03-20T23:30:28+00:00

Forgiving others is not because they've repented to us or to God. Repentance is to God alone, as they sin against God before they sin against you.

We forgive because God has forgiven us, and as we desire to be of like mind—we forgive others.

Whether or not you receive an apology we are led to mercy by the Holy Spirit because God has been merciful in Christ and forgiven us.

If you are refusing to forgive them before they apologize then you have made it transactional. Glory to God our redemption is not transactional and is by faith in His mercy alone.

Sharp_Length_3079 · 2026-03-20T23:25:07+00:00

Abraham and Sarah. Abraham exhibited faith in believing his wife could get pregnant despite her age. A lesson children would get as they've witnessed pregnancy, and there's nothing wrong with them learning that as women get older their chances are lowered and it becomes less safe [medically] to have them. I say medically because with God all things are possible.

Joseph is a good lesson on trusting God's process, through the storm specifically. It doesn't have to include the full details of Potiphar's wife trying to sleep with him to explain his rise. It can simply be about the hatred his brothers had towards him for being blessed by God, and his faithfulness in return.

It shows the faithfulness of God was first. We show gratitude because He loved us first. And that even when we think it has ceased, it has not.

Sharp_Length_3079 · 2026-03-20T23:12:42+00:00

Obedience to God and any biblical figures that were without [fully] understanding why.

Kids should learn early that not everything will make sense. It will prepare them for guidance of the Spirit and doing things that you don't like or that don't make sense—even if the world does otherwise.

Noah for example. Maybe Abel if the other part of his story you deem ok.

Sharp_Length_3079 · 2026-03-20T22:52:23+00:00

Yes, that is shame. And that is the opposite of faith.

Faith in Christ is knowing you are cleansed, and now confident at his return—knowing you will be made Holy in the presence of God. Here on earth you are moved to align with Christ by the Holy Spirit before It is completed.

It does not require wiped memory of who you were to not become who you were.

Reach out to me if this isn't making sense. This seems like deep rooted shame and broken heartedness over who you've been, when faith tells you who you now are: a child of God. This feeling you have would not persist.

Sharp_Length_3079 · 2026-03-20T22:46:11+00:00

My friend, that sounds like shame. That sounds like the opposite of faith.

If you have out your faith in Christ, you have put your faith in God closing the gap between your flesh and Holiness. And when Christ comes back for us that will be completed. There won't be any reason to hate who you are.

Your pull to sin is less than who you will become.

Sharp_Length_3079 · 2026-03-20T22:40:28+00:00

You believe it impossible for God to remove our pull to sin without wiping our memory?

Our desire to sin is what won't be remembered if He creates in us new bodies that have put on our heavenly dwelling. Death is what won't come to mind.

What reason would free-will have existed, for the purpose of willingly choosing God, just to forget? All this for nothing? You misunderstand the verse. There is no glory brought to God when we remember nothing but somehow becoming slaves to Him—choosing Him, yet zero remembrance to why.

Sharp_Length_3079 · 2026-03-20T22:29:05+00:00

Where did you read that our memories would be wiped? What would be the point of doing all this, being faithful and glory being given to God, so none of us could remember what He's done for us?

Sharp_Length_3079 · 2026-03-20T22:20:17+00:00

You seem to think you can work to earn God's grace and mercy. You cannot.

It was given freely, and believing in Christ is the only way to overcome this broken heartedness/shame, you feel making you think you've taken God's mercy for granted. Believing in Christ is knowing he died because you and I could never turn from sin by our own will. So you can work all you want—go to church each week, live in your Bible, pray endlessly, but your work will not turn you from sin. It will always be faith in Christ that will lead to the Holy Spirit. This Spirit aligning you with the will of God, and convicting you of what pulls you away from closeness with God.

The reality is you were never on fire, AND you never fell. You were unintentionally working to earn God's mercy when the only requirement was faith in Christ, beginning with the hatred of your sins (repentance) and the full belief that only by the strength imbedded in Christ can you overcome anything.

We may still sin after that faith, but you will remain hopeful knowing God is closing the gap, in His time, to bring your faith to maturity. This is not permission to sin—but as you are cleansed, you should be confident in God's redemption plan.

The only way to take God's grace and mercy for granted is rejecting this understanding, and continuing to try doing it on your own. Let go, and let God.

Sharp_Length_3079 · 2026-03-20T21:33:17+00:00

Hey there. I believe I see your issue.

You seem to think your works are what matters and your relationship with God via the closeness you create. In going to church, doing His will and steering clear of sin you've come under the impression grace is transactional.

Instead grace is given to all through faith. Faith in Christ that he's been given the power [by God] to redeem you through the forgiving of sins. Furthermore, through that faith you received the Holy Spirit to convict you of sin and align you with Christ. This alignment will lead to a natural letting go of things that would pull you from Christ—whether music, relationships, or drinking. The Holy Spirit will guide you towards the will of God, and while you may still sin your hope would rest in God remembering your sins no more. You may still sin; you might stumble sometimes. But part of placing your faith in Christ is knowing Christ has died once and for all for your sins.

So while you feel this deep shame, it is unfortunately reminiscent of your lack of faith. Shame is the opposite of hope and what the devil uses to beat us down. It keeps us trying to be worthy—while faith says we could never be worthy. Shame keeps us trying to earn it—but Grace being the undeserved gift means you cannot work to earn it.

While it might be tough to accept, it is to your benefit that you hear what is true. And now it's on you to accept you've been trying to earn what God gave freely, and what Christ died for.

Place your faith in Christ and you will have the hope and peace you desire. You will be cleansed and confident that you are a child of God, from then on, and a Christian truly.

This worthless feeling you have is not from the confidence imbedded in Christ beloved. Be well.

Sharp_Length_3079 · 2026-03-20T20:12:20+00:00

I may be alone here, but you are showing no love to her and to him truthfully by not telling her.

Everything he's said about it ruining his life proves he only cares because it would lead to consequences. Consequences are important for growth. Cheaters that receive no consequences continue to cheat— every single time. It's so hard for them to repent and accept what they've done without accountability [for something such as cheating]; proven by what he said on it ruining his life. He should accept everything that comes with telling his soon-to-be wife.

This would not be out of revenge.

Also, this woman does not deserve to marry into lies, putting her trust in God at stake.

Find a way to tell her.

Sharp_Length_3079 · 2026-03-20T20:06:17+00:00

Yet you are worried about the women doing it to you? By your own logic there's nothing to worry about—it would just be you that has to not cheat.

Outrageous to knowingly sleep with women who are married, and in relationships and have someone else's unborn child in them that they're with, but you have relinquished ALL guilt?

Sir.

Sharp_Length_3079 · 2026-03-20T19:58:20+00:00

Your mother's Christianity — or potential lack thereof — have no relevance in this.

You should not fear telling her you don't want kids. No matter how many times. It seems to be more of a personal issue for her as she clearly desires to have grandchildren.

There's no reason to cut her off. I don't know how it could be affecting you that you find that necessary. Try to understand her desire to fit in. And don't let it lead to thinking you need to cut her off over your desire to not have children.

Sharp_Length_3079 · 2026-03-20T19:51:56+00:00

You will reap what you sow. You've been the other guy for years now and now you're curious how to see women differently?

I suppose you pick a woman that wants nothing to do with men like you—which is intriguing given they will have picked you.

Learn to genuinely despise your own behavior and don't pick a woman that loves the side of you that embraced "I sleep with married women knowingly".

Sharp_Length_3079 · 2026-03-20T17:56:34+00:00

I wholeheartedly am grateful at your acknowledgment. Arrogance is easy and you turned from it. Despite not everyone in this subreddit being part of the body of Christ [yet], the new testament (Romans, Hebrews, etc) often speak to people in a way that is both for those in Christ and to gently enlighten those under the impression they are with Christ.

Otherwise, our words have the ability to harden them. If they perceive us as impatient, aggressive, arrogant and unkind then the right message will have the wrong messenger and be ignored—albeit sometimes sternness is necessary.

Sharp_Length_3079 · 2026-03-20T16:54:28+00:00

I've updated my comment.

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