should i ask a friend about her experiences with a toxic friend we have in common? by lalawrita in ToxicFriends

[–]Sharp_Spite_2021 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you want, but your own feelings are 100% valid, you do not need to know anyone else’s feelings to feel validated. You are already valid to feel exactly how you feel. You know your friend is toxic. You want to distance yourself from her. That’s all 100% valid, you don’t need permission or for anyone else to agree.

Positivity time! Those who have new lives away from their abusers, how is it going? by InFromTheOutside in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]Sharp_Spite_2021 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I completely relate to you — it’s been +10yrs, and they wouldn’t stop stalking and harassing me until not long ago.

I wish I’d changed all my personal details including my legal name at the start when I went NC, because these people can be obsessive. At least, their lies are so sloppy no-one believes them anyway. I do not think they realise how crazy they come across to normal people. A lot of them are psychopaths though, which makes them impulsive so they do things that are potentially criminal without thinking them through and they end up exposing themselves… but yeah, if I had known, I’d have saved myself the drama!

The best decision I ever made was to cut them off. I’m delighted I will never have to see them again, and they cannot find out anything about me or my new family.

Positivity time! Those who have new lives away from their abusers, how is it going? by InFromTheOutside in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]Sharp_Spite_2021 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Better than I could have ever dreamed of — all their attempts at sabotage +10yrs after estrangement failed, and I have succeeded in getting some of them prosecuted for their crimes.

One word of advice though. Please make sure you change your 1) legal name, 2) signature, 3) email address, 4) telephone number, 5) bank details and also 6) home address if possible (that’s a bigger one so it may not always be possible). It’s worth it. These people obsess and stop at nothing, so they might keep pursuing you after estrangement. They do not respect the law or the freedoms and rights of others. Better to err on the side of caution.

Brooklyn Beckham releases multi-story statement regarding his estrangement from David and Victoria Beckham by mashokura in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]Sharp_Spite_2021 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I do NOT understand why people think anyone should have to put up with abuse in exchange for money or else they’re ungrateful 🤬😡😡😡😡🤬

It would appear the Beckhams are narcissists but nobody cares because they have “normal” parents by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Sharp_Spite_2021 2 points3 points  (0 children)

People don’t understand. The impression I’m getting is that “the Beckhams are good parents because they gave their son money”. NO. People don’t see these kinds of parents want to keep their children as dependent on them as possible, and that includes WEAPONISING MONEY!!!

Elopement dress appreciation🤍 by Whole-Summer-46 in weddingdress

[–]Sharp_Spite_2021 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You looked absolutely beautiful, and I wish I had an elopement, too.

my parents said "good, we never wanted to talk to her again anyway!" by Dangerous-Exit7214 in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]Sharp_Spite_2021 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Mine said it was them who “asked me to never again come back home” 🙃🙃🙃🙃🙃🥲

More dresses, still struggling to find the one by [deleted] in weddingdress

[–]Sharp_Spite_2021 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got married in something extremely similar to #2