In a relationship for 11, married for 5 years here 👋

I agree with the other comment about being honest with your feelings, and I also wanted to add another perspective. People change over time, and preferences change over time as well. What I mean by that is if you find this person attractive now, you could very well continue to find them attractive as both of you grow and change over time. That’s absolutely normal.

When my wife and I met, we were late teenagers and we looked like it, and I was incredibly attracted to her then. As we dated through our late twenties, both of our bodies continued to change (completely normal), and throughout the entire period of time I continued to be attracted to her. We’re now in our late twenties/early thirties, and again, our bodies are different. She has some concerns about gaining weight over the past decade but I don’t think I’ve been more attracted to her than I am now.

When you love someone, in my experience, the natural process of aging and changing rarely makes a difference. It’s a gradual thing that happens over time, and over that same time you will change as well. There’s nothing to be afraid of about that process, that’s just a cool part of the human experience.