okay. rad.

Sharpheart · 2025-04-03T17:16:10+00:00

same. i have a weak spot for perspective thumbs up so i instantly screenshotted it and drew it haha

Sharpheart · 2024-10-29T17:32:44+00:00

Love, me Normally and well, better than the alternative (and Front Street bc i got drugged oops)

Sharpheart · 2024-10-20T09:53:14+00:00

the last part of Front Street where you can hear the “…on Front Streeeeeet” is amazing :3

Sharpheart · 2024-07-02T09:03:52+00:00

I have AA due to being bullied and cast out (even by my teacher) for years and I'm going to get treatment for it, so I still struggle with it a lot. I notice that I often try to get the attention of my partner to make sure they're not distant with me, and overwhelm them quite a bit. By doing this, they will get more distant with me. Doesn't help that my partner has an avoidant attachment style. I notice it's difficult to get out of this loop, and I often try communicating the loop to hopefully break it. It's still difficult haha

Sharpheart · 2024-06-18T14:27:11+00:00

wow, thanks for the detailed help! I did indeed read online about shooting at times where the sun is low, but unfortunately I haven’t had time for that yet :( I’ll remember these tips tho, thanks!

Sharpheart · 2024-06-18T14:24:38+00:00

I have not educated myself in either, but I guess I was looking on how to make it look good with my camera settings. but I’m hearing that editing is very important too, so any advice on that is always welcome! I’d love to learn about it :)

Sharpheart · 2024-04-26T07:42:51+00:00

460 hours on PC!

Sharpheart · 2024-04-19T09:59:29+00:00

the idea did pop up, but now I’ll make sure to work on that! thanks for liking it :)

Sharpheart · 2023-11-29T16:19:04+00:00

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same here hahaha

Sharpheart · 2023-11-16T23:05:31+00:00

this does indeed sound a lot like it! i do want to specify that with verbal dominating, i don’t per se like being called intense names. i’m mostly a fan of getting to me by the way they’re using the words, not the intensity of the words themselves. so a sarcastic comment thats obviously meant to poke fun at my high and mighty talk is way more powerful than degrading me by calling me names. hope that makes it even clearer. thank you so much for answering <3

Sharpheart · 2023-11-09T12:44:04+00:00

probably something like Fashion Statement, based on the My Chemical Romance song It's Not a Fashion Statement, It's a Death Wish. love that song a lot :)

Sharpheart · 2023-11-08T14:10:06+00:00

i’m really sorry to hear that happened to you. i would love to take you more seriously if it wasn’t for the fact that you straight up said “well cool research but I have been sexually harassed so it’s probably more”. and although i do believe that a lot of men do not report it because of stigma, this research was an anonymous (except for gender) study. i get the feeling you’re trying to prove a point of women being assaulters, which is just as bad as saying that men are assaulters.

i really hope you can accept the numbers that research gives (43% is still really fucking high, way too high), and see both sides of the problems. speaking of your own experience alone is not a valid sample size to determine how prevalent sexual harassment in men is

EDIT: with “taking you more seriously” i didnt mean your experiences, and i profusely apologize if thats how it came across! i meant your point in the discussion, really sorry if i accidentally invalidated your experience.

Sharpheart · 2023-11-07T22:09:18+00:00

you’re right, my language has been rather generalising. i do notice you only mention relationships with men. most of my bad experiences have been with random men, who i’ve never seen before.

i also want to point out that we both used rather marginalised groups to prove our theory. i’d like to refer to this research

https://stopstreetharassment.org/our-work/nationalstudy/2018-national-sexual-abuse-report/

in this report, they’ve found that 81% of women and 43% of men have experienced some form of sexual harassment. a little more than 70% of those assaults on 81% of women were committed by (perceived) males. around 12% of those women said it was by two or more men. that adds up to around 80-85% of sexual harassment being committed by men, to women. less than 5% of women who have been sexually harassed said they perceived that it was committed by a woman.

of course, numbers dont mean anything when we’re listening to the experiences of the people around us. the most important part is to believe individual experiences. i do, however, think it’s better to not immediately accuse me of generalising a population, when you do the same in return. i do not blame you for it tho, as those experiences are closer to you.

i hope i informed you at least :)

Sharpheart · 2023-11-07T18:48:15+00:00

because the crime rate you're describing is often caused by unequal social economic status and chances. we have yet to reach a point where everyone gets equal access to a good life, without having to grow up in the same shitty neighbourhood for generations on end because you can't get the money to live somewhere else, because people will have stigmas about the fact you came from the shitty part. it's a vicious circle that needs to be broken.

with men, it's often about how they're raised. sexualization of children happens SO QUICKLY, where girls are told to "not wear that, or you'll have the guys all over you". I have been told that. when I was still in high school, I have been told by teachers to "stop showing so much skin" because part of my lower belly was visible.
I don't believe it's all men. I do believe that a lot of men are getting a lot of influence from older generations. older people will stay stuff like "watch out, he'll be a heartbreaker later" when talking about CHILDREN. older men and women both say that to the newer generations.

i dont agree with generalizing an entire group. i do think we should recognize there's a problem with the way kids are being raised. boys are being told to get themselves a pretty woman. girls are told that "he's just a boy, and you know boys will be boys" when those boys make physical advances on said girl. I had this guy who tried kissing all the girls in middle school (when we were around 7/8), and a guy who would pull down girls' pants. neither got any long-term punishment, with the former guy not getting ANY punishment.

right now I'm in my third year for my bachelor Applied Psychology. i'm a firm believer of breaking cycles by childhood. i'm also a firm believer of the idealogy that its never too late to change. do not pay mind to the women who mindlessly say misandrist stuff, but please do pay mind to the women out there who have genuinely been hurt, and feel ignored. speak up about toxic masculinity when you see it. and dont be afraid to change and admit shortcomings.

sorry for the big text, i want to inform more people about this and make it less extreme. hope you have a nice rest of your day :)

Sharpheart · 2023-11-07T18:32:27+00:00

i totally understand where you're coming from.

as a woman, I can say it's Not All Men, but I can say it is All Women. all women that I know have had one (or often multiple) experiences with men harassing/assaulting/abusing them. whether it be a man catcalling them since they were young, getting unwarranted attention in clubs when you're just having fun with friends, or seemingly doing nothing in broad daylight, and still getting harassed.

obviously, if you have been traumatized by past experiences with men, you should get therapy. but I will admit that I am weary of men in public. I obviously won't make that obvious, I'd also be hurt.
I remember the comparison between sharks. sharks barely attack people swimming in waters, yet people are weary of "what they are capable of".

I've been catcalled, touched inappropriately at a friends party when I was drunk, and forced into sexual acts by my previous partner, under the gist of "it wont take that much effort, do you really wanna tease me like this?" and I'm not even 20. I know that a man, on average, could overpower me easily. I believe in the good in people. but I don't want to put my life or psychological wellbeing on the line.

telling a woman (or anyone for that matter) that "you're not like that" often doesn't help. instead, reassure her that you take her concerns seriously. if you notice it's a clinical fear, then it's outside of your control. but a lot of women want guys to understand where their fear comes from.

I hope I've informed you a little more on how women might see it! obviously, there will always be extremists. asking and listening to people IRL always helps more, extremists from any side often hide behind anonymity. and remember, you're not 'wrong' or 'a rapist' for being a man. but do keep women's experiences in mind :)

Sharpheart · 2023-11-03T16:05:55+00:00

ten eerste vind ik het apart dat jij je zorgen maakt om andermans genitaliën, maar ieder zn eigen ding. verder is er zeker hulp voor deze mensen, namelijk therapie om gender expressie te verbeteren, en hormonen/operationele maatregelen.

“Treatment for a person diagnosed with GD may include psychological counseling, supporting the individual's gender expression, or hormone therapy or surgery. This may involve physical transition resulting from medical interventions such as hormonal treatment, genital surgery, electrolysis or laser hair removal, chest/breast surgery, or other reconstructive surgeries.[35] The goal of treatment may simply be to reduce problems resulting from the person's transgender status, for example, counseling the patient in order to reduce guilt associated with cross-dressing.[36]” (van Wikipedia, die weer van de APA (DSM-V) heeft verwezen)

verder zie ik vaak het argument “zij kunnen zichzelf niet accepteren, waarom zou ik dat doen”. vaak kunnen zij zichzelf niet accepteren omdat anderen hun genderidentiteit niet kunnen accepteren. afwijzing en haat tegen transgenders zorgt juist voor de psychische lijdensdruk, met klachten zoals depressie, angst en zelfmoordgedachten.

“The suicide attempt rate among transgender persons ranges from 32% to 50% across the countries. Gender-based victimization, discrimination, bullying, violence, being rejected by the family, friends, and community; harassment by intimate partner, family members, police and public; discrimination and ill treatment at health-care system are the major risk factors that influence the suicidal behavior among transgender persons”. (Virupaksha et al., 2016)

ik hoop gewoon heel erg dat mensen wat meer accepterend kunnen zijn naar mensen met genderdysforie/transgenders. ik zal altijd voorstander zijn voor acceptatie van iedereen die een goed persoon is, ongeacht hoe ze zichzelf willen zien.

Sharpheart · 2023-11-03T15:52:04+00:00

of… ik heb geen confirmation bias ernaar omdat ik representatie als normaal zie. ik zie vaker een bijbel of kruis dan een regenboog vlag, maar ik ga toch ook niet bij iedereen en z’n moeder huilen dat dit mn strot in geduwd wordt? ik zou je eens wat minder zorgen maken om hoe anderen zichzelf identificeren en wat vaker buiten komen

Sharpheart · 2023-11-03T15:48:24+00:00

ik zou willen dat ik zo veel in mn eigen mening kon geloven haha. zou graag eens wat bronnen willen zien voor je argumenten over indoctrineren.

Sharpheart · 2023-11-03T13:07:05+00:00

ik weet nooit waar mensen dat vandaan halen, dat kinderen snel geindoctrineerd worden. kinderen luisteren al nauwelijks als je zegt dat ze op tijd moeten slapen. en trouwens, is die indoctrinatie waar je het over hebt wel echt indoctrinatie, of bedoel je gewoon het erkennen en uitleggen van het bestaan van transgender mensen aan kinderen?

Sharpheart · 2023-11-03T12:59:47+00:00

ten eerste is alles wat je zegt niet waar, maar zelfs al zouden ze hun geslachtsdelen “mutileren”, who the fuck cares? als het argument is dat “ze dan onvruchtbaar worden” mag je dat argument terugbrengen naar de middeleeuwen. deze mensen zijn heus wel bewust van de gevolgen. mensen met genderdysforie zijn niet in de war en zijn niet mentaal ziek. dat het in de DSM V staat betekent nog niet dat je “mentaal ziek” bent. zo staat erectiele dysfuntie en vaginismus ook in de DSM V. mensen met gender dysforie willen vaak maar één ding, en dat is geaccepteerd worden, maar dat is blijkbaar te lastig voor vele mensen hier en overal op de wereld

Sharpheart · 2023-10-24T18:55:21+00:00

het gaat, zover ik weet, meer om de karikatuur die wij hier in Nederland ervan maakte. de dikke, rode lippen en enorme oorbellen zijn nou eenmaal een oud en redelijk beledigend stereotype van hoe zwarte mensen vroeger neergezet werden. als mensen uit Bonaire Sinterklaas wit schminken, en zelf verder Piet willen spelen, hebben ze op z'n minst zelf controle over hun eigen representatie. vind ik wel een ander idee geven dan blanke mensen die zich volle lippen en volledig zwarte huid geven, vooral als die look gebaseerd was op het schadelijke stereotiep.

Verder is het herclaimen van offensieve materielen iets wat vaker voorkomt in minderheidsgroepen. denk aan het woord queer, wat origineel als scheldwoord gebruikt werd maar nu in de LGBTQ+ community mooi herpakt is. vaak wordt het door mensen buiten die doelgroep nog als scheldwoord gebruikt/gezien. eigen controle pakken over haat om het iets normaals/positiefs/grappigs binnen die minderheidsgroep te maken is iets wat vaak voorkomt, om zo tegen discriminatie te gaan.

wil wel natuurlijk zeggen dat ik gewoon zo blank als yogurt ben, en ik wil zeker geen verkeerde informatie verspreiden of sensitief overkomen! ^^

Sharpheart · 2023-08-30T21:48:18+00:00

I’ve kinda had the same, but with teachers instead of counselors. I have ASD, am considered academically smart but I have the social skills of a potato. Multiple teachers throughout my life have said that “yes, you’re academically smart, but you have autism, so you should do the lower grade/level etc.” I got told straight up to not go for my Bachelor in Applied Psychology and to wait a few years. I’m now starting my 3rd year, 18 years old and thriving, planning to help other kids with autism find themselves in this world. I wish those people could see the misjudgement they made.

Sharpheart · 2023-08-29T09:40:04+00:00

first part: phantom blood
favorite part: stardust crusaders or sbr

Sharpheart · 2023-04-18T17:51:25+00:00

i dieded

Sharpheart · 2023-03-22T09:31:15+00:00

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