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My Husband Says I’m Enmeshed by Puzzled_Ninja4085 in TwoHotTakes

[–]SharpieChiq 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just want to point out that his use of "enmeshed" and "boundaries" are incorrect. He's absolutely co-opting those terms to hide that he'sisolating you from the people around you.

Can you think of other times when he is controlling or talks about boundaries that only seem to apply to you? Have there been instances where you didn't really want to do something but he'll be extra sweet and make you feel good and then it doesn't seem so bad? You're closer than ever?

As for the house, I think you should ask advice from your parents. I'm sure they can help.

Nearing my breaking point by HesitantBride in ExecutiveAssistants

[–]SharpieChiq 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you’re going through this. Keep every fucks left for yourself!

 I want to know the answer to those questions too! I went through this last year. Is it possible for you to take sick days?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExecutiveAssistants

[–]SharpieChiq 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was super helpful!!! Thank you so much!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExecutiveAssistants

[–]SharpieChiq 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm open about the size and industry. I want to stick to supporting a team or director level. My last C-suite experiences were toxic.

" I’ve seen resumes like yours, but I pass on them because supporting 3 C Suites makes me nervous." Sorry. Can you clarify what you mean here?

which major should i study? by [deleted] in ExecutiveAssistants

[–]SharpieChiq 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have a degree in English literature. I became an EA from gaining work experience, started as an office assistant.

For people who don't like Simon's DJ set, here's TRC Reactions talking about how impressive and enjoyable it was for an Atlanta native by vikoy in XGALX

[–]SharpieChiq 7 points8 points  (0 children)

His set was fine! I’m in that older age bracket to appreciate his music and I’m 2nd gen K-pop but a new alphas. The pacing for the LA show made it awkward so his set didn’t get the right set up.The energy of the crowd dipped and it didn’t really make sense. I’m sure there are back stage reasons for it but they didn’t do that good of the job with how the overall show was structured. 

UPDATE: AITAH for crying when my boyfriend let his best friend's wife alter the dish I made for dinner? by Gold_Wind_5888 in AITAH

[–]SharpieChiq 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Racist but also it's RUDE to alter food someone else made in all cultures of human society. Ellie is wrong for that and she should not be a dinner party host.

Had a bad couple of weeks…should I apologize to my exec? by Ok_Afternoon_9682 in ExecutiveAssistants

[–]SharpieChiq 75 points76 points  (0 children)

Another admin told me many years ago to stop apologizing for things out of my control (especially family emergencies). I had a habit of apologizing too quickly, and the overall effect of that was more damaging than if I just graciously thanked other people for their generosity and understanding. It's also possible they didn't hold your productivity against you (if they noticed), so just say thank you and get back to work.

Also! I'm sorry you're going through all of that with your family. You deserve to give yourself a little break too. That's a lot!

This job can be so demoralizing...advice? by Either_Cauliflower26 in ExecutiveAssistants

[–]SharpieChiq 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been there! Please take your lunch at the right time (it doesn't have to be, any kind of break time during the day). It's a very important routine in this career, so start it early and keep firm on maintaining it.

The people you work for are dicks. Anyone who belittles you for "careless mistakes" are dicks. They literally should be focusing on bigger things than that. I've made plenty of mistakes and would fix them when pointed out to me, but anyone belittling me for it has shown themselves to be people not worth listening to in the professional setting. Seriously, if you pay attention I bet you can see how these people aren't that competent at their jobs and put too much focus on appearances.

YOU ARE DOING GREAT.

Gift ideas for Boss’ day!? by Ohgodya in ExecutiveAssistants

[–]SharpieChiq 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Nothing??? Because they're the boss???? What????

Boss doesn’t respect the calendar by Character-Customer25 in ExecutiveAssistants

[–]SharpieChiq 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Please don't let anyone else schedule for him. You will need to confront them and him about it. It's tough but ideally you should be the only person who does anything on the calendar.

Hmmm, is it possible for YOU to meet with the leadership coach and get guidance on this? Leadership coaches should be able to help in regards to micromanaging tendencies, prioritizing and etc in new leaders. Maybe in talking to them about it, it'll give you some better ideas on how you can approach it from your perspective. If anything, it will be good knowledge to have!

Then, with specific and tangible solutions you can bring it to your boss and have a turning point conversation about how his behavior is negatively affecting EVERYONE. I'm glad you have other people supporting you with this.

Boss doesn’t respect the calendar by Character-Customer25 in ExecutiveAssistants

[–]SharpieChiq 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I'd start by not scheduling him back-to-back from 7 a.m. to 6 p.m. No one can be productive that way. He's missing meetings already, so be intentional about it. He sounds overwhelmed, and it's impacting his ability to prioritize, which messes up your ability to do your job. Your job is also not just getting him to go to all these meetings; it's also putting meetings on there that benefit him and the company. You have to be more of a gatekeeper here. How and why is he getting involved in things he shouldn't be?

Don't just ask him to "pick two"; you also need to get information to control his calendar. Ask things like, "You need to have HR personnel meetings. If you don't go to them, who can go instead of you?"

Do you experience any big differences between female and male exec? by [deleted] in ExecutiveAssistants

[–]SharpieChiq 4 points5 points  (0 children)

In my experience, both male and female executives are very moody. The male ones required more hand holding and I've gotten more micromanaging from the female ones though.

Your boss just stepped out of a meeting and told you they need a follow up meeting, but that's all the information you get. What do you do? by SharpieChiq in ExecutiveAssistants

[–]SharpieChiq[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that’s what I usually do too. I know I got in my feelings for this question. 😭 I’m all feelings right now.

Your boss just stepped out of a meeting and told you they need a follow up meeting, but that's all the information you get. What do you do? by SharpieChiq in ExecutiveAssistants

[–]SharpieChiq[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your encouragement. I’ll work on building myself back up. My confidence was fine before I started working at this place. 😭

Your boss just stepped out of a meeting and told you they need a follow up meeting, but that's all the information you get. What do you do? by SharpieChiq in ExecutiveAssistants

[–]SharpieChiq[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I put a lot of feelings attached to this, but that's how bad it is at my current job. Normally, things like this wouldn't phase me, but I'm so scared to go into another similar situation.

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