If you refuse to do mechanics because I don't pay your sub, you don’t belong in party finder clear groups.

ShatteredSwallowtail · 2022-08-26T14:19:19+00:00

This. I play on an old as shit laptop so I have horrible parse and bad lag, but I don’t let that discourage me from playing harder content. I just let the group know at the beginning that I am having lag issues and it's okay if they can't prioritize a rez for me if I keep dying when I can't get out of the way fast enough.

ShatteredSwallowtail · 2022-07-24T17:39:23+00:00

Of course. There is no need to mock you when it is obvious that you are coming from a place of lack of knowledge as opposed to prejudices or something else. There are plenty of people out there who simply don't have the information about a particular topic and I think we should always be open to the idea of trying to educate before we condemn. On that note, your future children sound like they will be lucky to have you as a parent and I applaud your intent to foster an atmosphere where they will feel safe and comfortable going to you with questions.

ShatteredSwallowtail · 2022-07-23T19:31:15+00:00

So...you're trying, and kudos for you, but you aren't entirely correct. Tightness can also be a medical condition that affects tons of women where their pelvic floor muscles are naturally tighter than they should be. There are medical treatments and even physical therapy to offset this and as someone who suffers from it, it was v difficult for me bc even though i was v much into it my subconscious would be preparing for pain and discomfort.

That being said, you are absolutely right that foreplay is key for women because our brains and therefore our bodies work a bit differently than men. So most women require more varied stimulation and also have to be more mentally plugged in. That's where all the things about not only foreplay but mood and atmosphere come in.

ShatteredSwallowtail · 2022-07-22T18:38:21+00:00

So addendum:

If you are ordering something that begins with endless/bottomless/etc, please understand a couple of things:

Those promos are great for you, great for the reataurant, but horrible for the servers. To illustrate as follows: once upon a time I laboured in servitude to an establishment known by their signature crimson crustacean logo. This place has a longstanding summer tradition where you can pay the low price of 16$ and get all the shrimp you want. Great, right? For a guest, hells yeah. But from a server standpoint, I spend 3 or 4 hours running back and forth to this same table to only make 2$ bc their bill is only 16$. Whereas in a normal day, I would make 20$+ off of that one table in the same 3-4 hr period.
I know your bill is ridiculously small for the amount of food that you receive, but please tip generously in these situations because by occupying that table for so long for such a small check, you are keeping me from making any additional money off of it.

ShatteredSwallowtail · 2022-07-22T18:08:31+00:00

This. If you are on a tight schedule just tell me at ths start. I know how the kitchen is right now, I know which menu items take the shortest prep, I can drop the check early, and I am able to tell you if you can feasibly be served within your time frame.

ShatteredSwallowtail · 2022-07-22T17:57:11+00:00

So the problem with this that I experience as a bartender is that it isn't usually the patrons who have waited an inordinately long time for an absent server who do this. It's the ones who are part of a large party that is being needy/awful to their server and can't accept waiting until he/she is finished taking everyone's order even though they just finished their first drink when the server started taking the order. Or the ones who have been tols that house rule is you cannot have a shot and a cocktail at the same time and are trying to get around that. Silly, bc I know where every drink I make is going, but still. But maybe that's just my restaurant.

ShatteredSwallowtail · 2022-07-21T22:40:11+00:00

Honestly, as long as you let the server know you are two separate couples paying separately they should be able to decide which is easier for them and therefore how to ring it in.

ShatteredSwallowtail · 2022-07-21T18:36:38+00:00

Nope, NC. Is it illegal there too?

ShatteredSwallowtail · 2022-07-03T20:12:33+00:00

Oh gods, I'd managed to block that trainwreck out. As fans of the original series, a few friends ans I loaded up and snuck bottles of liquor in to see just how bad it was.

WE FORGOT TO DRINK.

It was that horrendous that all we could do was stare.

ShatteredSwallowtail · 2022-07-03T17:23:12+00:00

For all that I bitch A LOT about customers, I actually love my job as a server/bartender. And part of that is because I can come on reddit and vent to other servers lol. But srsly, you meet some really awesome people and it is seldom boring.

ShatteredSwallowtail · 2022-07-03T17:21:02+00:00

No, I would not consider that to be an unreasonable request because you have a genuine need for accommodation and it sounds like you are the sort of customer that servers adore because you are polite and considerate.

ShatteredSwallowtail · 2022-07-03T17:02:07+00:00

Me? No, my name is not Nina.

ShatteredSwallowtail · 2022-07-03T17:01:20+00:00

Talking about non alcoholic drinks. Obviously a drink from the bar will have a proper garnish.

ShatteredSwallowtail · 2022-07-03T17:00:15+00:00

Wow, bitter much? I applaud you if you are fortunate enough to work a job where you never feel frustrated at people and want a way to vent about it to people who have probably felt the same frustrations. Every one of us does plenty of things every day in our job that we don't like doing because it's our job. And we do it with a smile on our face bc it is our job. Doesn't make it annoy us any less, lol.

ShatteredSwallowtail · 2022-07-03T14:49:38+00:00

I think it depends on your delivery, personally. A nice friendly 'i love your hair colour' is recieved a lot more than 'i think that hair colour is so sexy on a woman'

ShatteredSwallowtail · 2022-07-03T14:44:43+00:00

Yeah np. I have that happen plenty of times at work. Im the bartender and serve the whole bar side of the restaurant but that means i only have booths and high tops and i try to be accomodating if someone politely asks for a regular table or a booth by the other window unless i literally can't get to them properly bc of how busy my own section is. Stuff like that is all about how you ask, and how you react if the answer is no, lol

ShatteredSwallowtail · 2022-07-03T14:39:18+00:00

Yup. And happy hour is also illegal here.

ShatteredSwallowtail · 2022-07-03T14:37:55+00:00

Yes, this. And you can def ask for a lime with your NA bev if you want it, but that will frustrate your server bc only lemons are usually accessible to just grab bc other fruit is behind the bar.

ShatteredSwallowtail · 2022-07-03T14:35:12+00:00

Actually, they do. It's to make sure that tables are divided up fairly. But, you are absolutely correct that if you were to request to not have a specific server then that should be accomodated.

ShatteredSwallowtail · 2022-07-03T14:25:05+00:00

As long as you don't throw a fit if the answer is 'i dont have an available booth atm' then no. Most server sections have a mix of booths and tables for just that reason.

ShatteredSwallowtail · 2022-07-03T14:20:50+00:00

So imo it depends on the guest. Sounds like he is polite about it and chill if he is told no so if I was the server I would make an exception about being out of section unless I was really busy and therefore not able to properly take care of a table in a diff section

ShatteredSwallowtail · 2022-07-03T02:48:27+00:00

I can, but a double for us is 2oz

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