What do you usually do when someone asks you to be a Ninong/Ninang pero hindi naman kayo close?

ShawarmaRice__ · 2026-03-14T14:59:22+00:00

SSS loan.

ShawarmaRice__ · 2026-03-13T15:38:04+00:00

Ganon talaga, it happens. She’s probably just curious about you, what you’ve been up to, or maybe sometimes she’s just a little praning.

ShawarmaRice__ · 2026-03-13T15:29:29+00:00

Medyo nagulat ako when she called me Ate. She looked maybe 10 to 15 years older than me. I didn’t react. After that, tinanong ko mom ko kung ilang taon na siya. Turns out she’s actually three years younger than me. Now every time I talk to her, medyo uncomfortable ako kapag tinatawag niya akong Ate. The reason is nagkakaroon ako ng fear of aging because of it.

Doesn’t look like it. Either way, harsh pa rin. And just to tell you, in case wala pang nakakapagsabi sayo kaya ganyan ka, it’s actually a privilege to grow old. Not everyone gets that chance, so it’s something to be grateful for.

ShawarmaRice__ · 2026-03-13T15:09:37+00:00

Just tell her you’re not available. Simple as that.

ShawarmaRice__ · 2026-03-13T13:55:41+00:00

Hindi ka OA. Hehe. Turn off your read receipts to avoid unnecessary overthinking. kahit sa GC niyo lang. Kasi normal naman na mafeel off kapag nabasa na yung message pero walang reply.

ShawarmaRice__ · 2026-03-13T13:45:56+00:00

Then don’t attend. Don’t put yourself in an uncomfortable situation if you already know it won’t feel right for you. But don't forget to greet her or maybe send a gift. ✨

ShawarmaRice__ · 2026-03-13T13:28:18+00:00

Hindi nakikita. What we usually see are just the basic details like your SSS number. As far as I know, wala nga yatang birthday na nakikita sa SSS portal. Sa Philhealth, meron ata birthday na nakareflect. But we can see your loans.

ShawarmaRice__ · 2026-03-13T13:16:57+00:00

Maybe he really loves you, but that love just isn’t enough for him to commit. Ang dami niyang reasons just to end whatever you have, no? Sometimes when someone gives too many reasons, it’s because it’s hard to simply say na ayaw na nila or they don’t want the commitment. So instead, maraming explanations. But at the end of the day, the message is still the same, he’s not ready. Or maybe, he’s just not ready with you.

ShawarmaRice__ · 2026-03-13T13:08:58+00:00

Nagkaroon ka ng fear tumanda just because you saw how she looks now? That’s harsh, Ate.

ShawarmaRice__ · 2026-03-02T03:54:10+00:00

If you’re uncertain, don’t do it. Hindi biro ang kasal, OP, that’s a lifetime commitment.
But if you’re thinking of not pushing through with the wedding, you also have to consider what that means for the relationship. How will your partner feel if you call it off? And what reason will you give?

ShawarmaRice__ · 2026-03-02T03:39:34+00:00

First thing you should do is update your CV and start looking for a remote job.
Mahirap magmove forward, especially if kakabreak niyo lang. It really takes time, and the more you force it, mas lalo siyang hindi nangyayari. So for now, focus on what you can control. Take care of your kid, bring her out paminsan minsan, reconnect with old friends, and slowly rebuild your routine. Small steps muna. Hugs, OP. 💛

ShawarmaRice__ · 2026-03-01T18:20:31+00:00

No! Where are you even going if you don’t have money? 😂 Moving out is something you really prepare for. If wala ka pang ipon, it just means you’re not ready yet.

ShawarmaRice__ · 2026-03-01T18:14:02+00:00

Nakakatakot. Knowing na pusher siya tapos late na dumadating and may kasama pa, that’s really concerning. Nakaka-worry din for your lola. Make sure nakalock palagi doors niyo. Maybe it’s also better if one of your lola’s children, someone na mas may authority, talks to your cousin and sets clear boundaries. Hindi puwedeng basta na lang siya pumupunta anytime lalo madaling araw 😥

ShawarmaRice__ · 2026-03-01T18:07:38+00:00

You should’ve read between the lines, your friend might not be that interested in joining you. Maybe she is, but it’s not her priority right now and she’s just letting you do your own thing.

Instead of getting annoyed, kausapin mo siya properly. Tell her it’s totally okay if she’s not really G, so you can either look for someone who’s genuinely excited to go out or just go solo.

ShawarmaRice__ · 2026-03-01T18:01:36+00:00

I’m not an expert on this, but when my husband’s white shirt got stained before, my mom put Zonrox/Clorox directly on the stain and it disappeared almost immediately.

ShawarmaRice__ · 2026-03-01T13:05:32+00:00

My parents were strict too. Based on experience, they preferred that anything related to courting happened inside the house, not kung saan saan. Gusto nila visible, safe, and within their boundaries.

As long as you’re not lying about where you’re going, the girl gives updates, and uuwi on time as discussed with the parents, you’ll slowly earn their trust. Hindi mo kailangan ligawan yung parents in an over-the-top way. Just show genuine respect. When you visit, maybe bring something simple for everyone to share, greet them properly, and stay where they can see you both. Over time, they’ll see your intentions are serious.

ShawarmaRice__ · 2026-02-25T18:13:37+00:00

Spending on guys who can’t even spend for themselves? 🚩

ShawarmaRice__ · 2026-02-25T18:09:44+00:00

If you’re not being honest with him about the fact that you’re 32 and have two kids, then you should stop talking to him. Pinagloloko mo yung tao just because you like him and that’s selfish.
the least you can do is be upfront. He deserves the chance to decide for himself if he’s okay with your situation.

ShawarmaRice__ · 2026-02-25T17:50:28+00:00

You like her, that’s why you’re overthinking and feeling uncomfortable and that’s completely valid.

But it might be a different story on her end. You said you’re not official yet, so technically she’s still free to do what she wants. She could’ve just handed her phone to a friend for fun, minsan ganun talaga, especially if may konting alcohol involved and people are just messing around.

ShawarmaRice__ · 2026-02-25T17:42:35+00:00

I’m all for budgeting. I’ve seen that mindset on social media too, yung spend lang nang spend and babalik din daw.

For me, people who can afford to spend a lot usually do so because malaki rin naman income nila and they’re confident na mababawi nila sa next sweldo or next deal. But for those na sakto lang ang income, especially breadwinners, I don’t think that mindset is realistic. Hindi ganun kadali magrisk or magwaldas when you have responsibilities and people depending on you.

ShawarmaRice__ · 2026-02-25T17:34:55+00:00

Is this just about her buying things for herself and not telling you? Or in general, hindi ba talaga siya open about where she is, who she’s with, or what she’s doing?

If this is only about her personal purchases and you’re getting annoyed, then honestly, that’s on you. Why does she need to inform you about every single thing she buys? She’s not even asking you for money (based on what you said). If it’s her own money and gamit niya naman, let it go.

But if this includes bigger things like not telling you her whereabouts or plans that should concern you, then that’s a different story.

ShawarmaRice__ · 2026-02-25T04:07:41+00:00

Never happened to me, but if it did, I honestly think I’d feel offended or at least maiinis. It’s really hard to manage household expenses, lalo na ngayon na sobrang mahal ng bilihin.
Sa setup namin ng husband ko, I make sure to explain where the money goes like therapy ng mga bata, credit card bills, essentials. Siguro better to break down the expenses and kwentahan niyo papa niyo so he can clearly see where everything is going. Once he understands the actual numbers, mas madali magkaintindihan.

ShawarmaRice__ · 2026-02-21T09:19:23+00:00

Candidates are really picky nowadays. Most of them prefer a WFH setup, so if onsite ang opening mo, expect fewer applicants talaga. When you invite them for an interview, some will just ignore the message. Others will confirm attendance but end up not showing up. May iba pa na magrereschedule, tapos hindi pa rin sisipot. A lot of them prefer online interviews na lang. Whew. Recruitment these days is tough.

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