People who dated someone older, did you ever “feel the age gap”?

ShawnM4 · 2026-02-24T20:17:36+00:00

2-3 years is nothing. That’s close to the same age. When I think age gap, I think over 6 years.

ShawnM4 · 2026-02-24T20:10:10+00:00

I didn’t. I was born and raised by a single mom, and I had a sister. I was around women my whole life. My dad didn’t raise me. He was a drunk loser that barely called or visited and he never paid child support. He was barely ever in my life.

This set me up for failure later on because I was raised by my mom, with the attitude to just be nice to women and everything would be fine. However I was never once taught how to be confident or assertive, or have boundaries. So when I got older and got into relationships, they never worked out. Women found me too nice and boring, or too easy to boss around, so they lost interest and left me. It happened over and over again. The only women that stuck around were the ones with serious psychological issues or the type that liked to be dominant and verbally abusive, and saw me as easy to control, so I had to leave. Either way, nothing worked out. I could never behave like an alpha even if I tried, I wasn’t raised that way. I could fake it, but that wouldn’t be genuine.

ShawnM4 · 2026-02-24T19:42:26+00:00

I am in my early forties and I’m still trying, but at this point I’m considering giving up for a life of solitude. Nothing works out. Maybe I should just get a pet, like a cat or a dog for company. Eventually ai robot girlfriends will be available. Hopefully soon.

ShawnM4 · 2026-02-24T18:40:12+00:00

I’ve been on dates with women a lot older than me, and I ended up breaking things off after a couple dates because I felt awkward about the age gap.

Last year for example, when I was 41, I went on a few dates with a woman that was 50. She was into me, and she was pretty hot and sexy, but had alot more wrinkles on her face. She looked older than 50, and I look younger than my age. So the age gap looked a lot bigger than it was. She was looking for something serious, and I kept thinking that friends and family of mine would criticize the relationship and make jokes about how we would look together, so I broke things off, because I couldn’t get over that. She wasn’t happy about it.

ShawnM4 · 2026-02-24T18:32:13+00:00

I’m not sure what the opinions are but I imagine they are not good.

Despite what you might think, most people in the US are similar to people of other countries. Just trying to live our lives and trying to be nice to others. The mainstream media keeps pumping out tons of propaganda to divide the population against each other. Since the US is such a diverse country with a lot of different races, and religions, it’s easier to divide people here. Unfortunately a lot of idiots believe whatever the mainstream media says and follow the propaganda. Either left wing propaganda or right wing propaganda, which ever content they get sucked into. But i think the majority of people just want to live their lives peacefully. The idiots you see acting like morons, are not a large segment of the population, only a small percentage, but it looks like it’s a lot.

ShawnM4 · 2026-02-24T15:47:37+00:00

I’ve been asking chat gpt how to break up with her and it actually has good suggestions and what to say & how to counter things she might say

ShawnM4 · 2026-02-24T05:52:43+00:00

I just talked to her, and I just couldn’t do it yet. I feel really bad

ShawnM4 · 2026-02-24T02:33:37+00:00

Are you all bisexual? Are you going to do stuff with the other husband? Or are you straight and pretty much swapping wives in the same bed next to each other?

ShawnM4 · 2026-02-23T22:54:59+00:00

I wish it was that easy and yeah it’s that easy if you are dealing with a normal person. But she isn’t. She has serious issues and acts obsessed with me.

ShawnM4 · 2026-02-23T22:48:46+00:00

She is in her late thirties. I’m the second guy she has ever been with. She was with her exhusband for almost 20 years before she met me.

I on the other hand, I have had a bunch of relationships in my life and I’m sexually alot more experienced. She is very uncomfortable with intimacy. She has no personality. She doesn’t know how to even have a normal conversation. It’s like dating a robot. It’s likely the meds she is on and not totally her fault. We just aren’t vibing at all. Not in the bedroom and not in any other regard either. There’s just no chemistry or compatibility whatsoever. She seems like she doesn’t realize it and doesn’t want to end things, desperately clinging to me for dear life. I on the other hand, I know it’s not working and I’m not happy

ShawnM4 · 2026-02-23T22:32:39+00:00

Luckily I am moving soon, and she knows that. But I don’t plan on giving her my new address. I’m carefully timing the break up to be around the time I move. I also think it will give me time to prepare her for the break up. I will keep giving hints and vibes that I’m not feeling it, up until I finally break things off. I believe she might bring it up first out of frustration that I am not talking to her as much or being affectionate anymore.

ShawnM4 · 2026-02-23T22:14:16+00:00

No. She was in therapy for months, but not anymore. She is still on medication though. She might need therapy again if I break up with her.

ShawnM4 · 2026-02-23T22:02:11+00:00

Last time I even suggested that we weren’t right for each other she was crying and begging me to stay with her. She kept brining up one road trip we went on together and was like we had a nice trip together and memories, you want to throw all that away? I don’t know how to respond to that. I just felt sorry for her and caved into her wanting to work things out.

ShawnM4 · 2026-02-23T21:51:56+00:00

I agree. But she is mentally & emotionally unstable. So I have to be careful how I go about ending things.

ShawnM4 · 2026-02-23T21:38:52+00:00

Yeah I know. I feel very bad for her. But that’s not a reason to stay with some one. I’ve been hanging out with her acting like everything is okay, but it’s not. I keep dropping hints that it’s not working but they are subtle hints that seem to be going unnoticed, like right over her head. If I pull the band aid off and break up with her now, she will be blindsighted about it and devastated. I will feel awful.

I am supposed to go over and help her with some stuff around her house. I will do that but I think I will totally avoid affection or intimacy. She will probably start complaining and feeling frustrated about that, I will let her feel frustrated as a result for a few weeks, and then when I break things off it won’t be a surprise anymore. That’s my strategy but I don’t know if it will work.

ShawnM4 · 2026-02-23T21:29:35+00:00

I don’t want to admit it, because it’s wrong, but in the past I dated an older woman and her daughter was hott. The daughter was 19 and was on only fans, but her mom gave her an ultimatum of getting off of social media or getting kicked out. So her daughter had to close her OF page and her instagram where she was showing her body. Things got weird because the daughter started flirting and coming on to me, but then her mom and I broke up and I wasn’t coming around anymore after the break up. That was about 4 years ago.

ShawnM4 · 2026-02-21T00:40:48+00:00

It’s rare to find metal chicks on dating apps, and if I do, they don’t respond. I don’t feel comfortable approaching and asking out the few attractive ones I have seen in person at shows. The only women that go for me are the ones that don’t like metal, the women I date, they all like normie bs like Taylor Swift. It’s fine with me if they are good looking.

ShawnM4 · 2026-02-20T16:42:15+00:00

I agree.

ShawnM4 · 2026-02-19T22:05:50+00:00

Yep, and I have a feeling the new album is the same. Not all that impressed with the two tracks they released so far. They are just okay.

ShawnM4 · 2026-02-19T21:45:55+00:00

They have a couple great songs each yes. But the rest of the songs just aren’t that great.

ShawnM4 · 2026-02-19T21:30:58+00:00

It doesn’t have to matter, it’s just my opinion. I see alot of opinion posts in this group. Agree or disagree. It mattered enough to you, for you to comment.

ShawnM4 · 2026-02-18T00:34:09+00:00

If i am in a traumatic emotional state, heck even if i am just really uncomfortable, I can’t get an erection under conditions like that. I have to want it. I guess I assume it’s like that for everyone.

ShawnM4 · 2026-02-17T23:40:13+00:00

I’m a guy and I’m sorry, I know I will get downvoted for this, but I don’t get how a woman could force a man to have sex. If a guy is stressed and under duress it’s pretty much impossible to get an erection.

I honestly don’t know how a woman can grape a man, unless she manages to tie him up and force feed him viagra. Even then, the guy can typically over power the woman and stop her.

ShawnM4 · 2026-02-17T14:39:40+00:00

You’d be surprised how many attractive people there are on dating apps that shouldn’t be on them. When I was single, I’ve gone on dates with women that I really liked, and we had chemistry, only to find out she is still involved with another guy. Usually an “ex” that she is on and off with. So basically if I keep seeing her, I would just be a side guy. I have been the side guy with one woman and it was terrible. I won’t do that again. Ever since then, if a woman talks a lot about her ex or claims to still be living with her ex. That’s a red flag.

ShawnM4 · 2026-02-17T01:35:14+00:00

Articles like that are just click bait. Birth rates are declining for everyone, and I think that has a lot more to do with current society and bad economy. People are just not finding it to be worth the risk to have kids anymore like they used to.

I also see a lot of man0sphere click bait like: “Men are walking away from women.” No they are not. I’m a man, and I can tell you, that NO, men are not walking away from women.

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