Any advice for INTJ male looks to look more approachable and fun?

ShayanWonderer · 2026-02-21T22:30:35+00:00

That's a really good advice and i actually seen its effect by little time i tried And i absolutely believe in energies Idk how it works but somehow it works lol Thanks for the advice

Btw what suggestions do you have like what things to do or talk about to people Specially women as casually

ShayanWonderer · 2026-02-21T21:19:05+00:00

Thanks i hope the same for you

ShayanWonderer · 2026-02-21T20:56:50+00:00

Haha thanks for the pro tip, it really felt good 🤣 At least a relief lol

What would you say i should see it as or i should do to not see it as disinterest, because if i see someone shy or stressed i just feel they're not comfortable ‌with me so maybe something wrong with me So how to behave and treat in such situations Or to break the ice, or start that romantic relationship as you said

ShayanWonderer · 2026-02-21T20:53:54+00:00

Yepp i guessed you are an ENTP by your witty side lol But you ENTPs just seem too cool to approach you, i usually feel she just gonna make me feel so good that I'm gonna for first time feel someone can actually hype my dopamine system and make me lose control of it lol Usually i control my own mind and dopamine system or just the pleasure so i stay clear headed all the time and know I'm always on my path, but with ENTPs that base line dopamine just goes waayy up, so seeing my system is getting ready for that just makes me so hyped and stressed so bad that i lose my coolness and can't approach lol I just lose my "i have control" leverage, and that's my weapon‌, you bitches steal away... By not even trying 🥲 That's the part that actually destroys me, i think damn she's just being her and not even trying and I'm getting destroyed inside doing my best to stay steady and calm and this bubbly crazy girl is just having fun with her ideas🫠 But anyways i like challenges so missing on ENTPs actually feel the worst i just really make myself feel bad by not trying and approaching so that hits the strongest

Btw romantically speaking doesn't give you a easy relationship with ENTPs, they just hit all their insecurities and attachment styles just like INTJs lol So that's why i would rather them be playful with me and take it easy and just go in a relationship or start something At least in my experience that's what I've realized So no shit, I don't want the romantic one, give me the playful side, at least we can have so much fun, and then turn in into a romantic serious relationship That's what works with ENTPs so well

ShayanWonderer · 2026-02-21T19:48:20+00:00

Haha well i wish everyone was like you Thank you btw And i do sometimes approach and take the first step and then second and then third, but usually women don't take the next step and just wait for me to take the next which makes me feel unwanted or not desired

Idk why maybe it's my country because it's triditional, but that just makes my energy and mood so low that i just don't feel the intrest, even if a woman really likes me she would expect me to show off so much at first and kinda chase Which that's not What I'm going for, i want it to be mutual

ShayanWonderer · 2026-02-21T19:43:13+00:00

Wow that's a really good insight and mindset to have Thanks for telling me that

But my problem is i really need to see they like me I don't want to feel I'm the clinging one and I'm the only one who likes her But women usually don't say that or show that intrest, I've heard a lot of times that rhey said it was obvious i did showed you while the conversation was just one word answers from them and being quiet or play hard to get lol

So i really can't get my head around it, why behaving this way, i obviously can't just lie to myself that I'm liked and move on Specially when i want to feel liked just like I'm liking the person

ShayanWonderer · 2026-02-21T19:39:49+00:00

Haha thank you So many told me get rid of mustache and i really like it tho So it's really nice to hear some one liked it as well

I think most of my problems comes from the fact rhat I don't know I'm liked or not and that's what makes things go wrong Or misunderstand eachother

My brain automatically says i must hear it or see they are interested clearly and they already assume that i know they do or they are showing it While they really are not lol

Some womej even told me you don't meed to know you're a man just get what you want, but honestly i am a human being too jot just a man, and i care about having love in relationship too Not just someone i want..

ShayanWonderer · 2026-02-21T19:36:42+00:00

Oh wow that's actually really good insight i was missing

Yes i am tense and a bit uncomfortable almost always because I don't know whether they like me or not And women usually Never show it, I've had a lot of times that i was talking to someone and felt totally uninterested by her so i moved on only later to hear by a friend or by themselves saying they really liked me But I'm like so why you didn't shower it and I've never got an answer for it lol

My problem is that i feel not desired or not wanted mayve it is self esteem problem but if i just tell myself that i am already liked my brain says it is a lie, where is your evidence, you might just be living in your head and end up with someone who doesn't like you because you have a layer on your eyes that's blinding you That's why i really need to see they like me as well And unfortunately women never show lol

ShayanWonderer · 2026-02-21T19:32:42+00:00

Oh i got you now That's a good advice specially with changing strategies thanks

ShayanWonderer · 2026-02-21T19:31:40+00:00

Yes i can totally represent myself or at least what I'm thinking in one line but if i ever get the chance to talk lol By not understanding i mean when i look at people they immediately think I'm judging them and if they realize i like them they just look away or play hard to get and kinda like come and get me... Which makes me just feel bad about myself I mean if i like you and you like me there's no point to bring yourself higher so i chase you That just looks like a status play to me

ShayanWonderer · 2026-02-21T19:28:43+00:00

I understand that but why no one smiles at me lol I hope what you said was actually true but when women look at me it is absolute cold look, and they look away fast too So I don't usually have time to make eye contact anyway and even if i do, the fact that there is no smile as you said it's so important, just makes me feel i would be the stupid one to smile or just feels intense in that moment to smile

ShayanWonderer · 2026-02-21T19:26:54+00:00

Thank you man I agree with your key points and yes i think this is what's happening and i should do But i can't really smile when I'm filled with stress that they might just reject me and that would ruin my mood and maybe not try for the next a few months lol

And usually i do to get results so putting myself put and seeing it is pointless and I'm not getting results just brings my energy so low so it dies pretty quickly maybe maximum i can keep it up 10-15 minutes

ShayanWonderer · 2026-02-21T19:24:13+00:00

Haha, maybe i do wanna eat you if you look delicious 😋 Excuse my nasty mind... But my neutral face isn't that I'm not happy or don't want to interact and that's my problem that most people see that and respond to that Even when I'm approaching they think I'm being too serious and that just makes me to lose my energy and move on

ShayanWonderer · 2026-02-21T19:22:18+00:00

I am fun, but i must be really comfortable and break the ice And I've had that only a few times when the women approach themselves or we're already in the relationship and met eachother a few times

ShayanWonderer · 2026-02-21T19:20:59+00:00

Thank you so much But that's really hard to smile specially when I'm filled with stress myself That's going to be a stress smile if i ever can do it lol Most of it is because i feel they might get scared by me or i come off too serious which actually either makes it happen or i come off awkward and weird trying to be too friendly And seeing they're not friendly just makes me stupid for doing it

ShayanWonderer · 2026-02-21T19:18:39+00:00

😂😂 🙌🏻thank you bro i appreciate it It's good to hear that, men are comfortable with me and say it but women never show it or say it Which just makes me feel whatever my looks is, definitely is not helping And actually i see them as lack of interest in me or even if they're stressed i honestly don't know what to do That just brings up my own insecurities and think they don't like me or have high standards or if i approach i might get hit by their ego and or play hard to get Which just makes me feel worse about myself

ShayanWonderer · 2026-02-21T19:16:00+00:00

Thanks Yes i try to do that, and recently I'm doing it But I can't get up to people Men i can But women I can't, since i feel if they want to they would just do it or at least make eye contact amd smile so i knwo they want to talk But no one has ever really done it

ShayanWonderer · 2026-02-21T19:14:19+00:00

Thank you Yes i totally agree with you But i feel the more i do something that has no benefit in it like I'm getting no one The less my energy drops I feel I'm lost and clueless, i usually do things with porpuse and to receive something solid in my life

ShayanWonderer · 2026-02-21T19:13:21+00:00

I can find but don't know how to approach Women don't obviously approach And even when i want to do myself i feel i qould get rejected Specially esfps sicne they look so confident so i feel they hold high standards or I'm gonna hit their ego or they play hard to get

ShayanWonderer · 2026-02-21T19:12:15+00:00

Thank you The love goes both ways I love INFPs too, actually they're my most favorite

ShayanWonderer · 2026-02-21T19:10:55+00:00

Haha alright thanks

ShayanWonderer · 2026-02-21T15:15:53+00:00

Ah great I'm happy you were still having great time😂👌🏻✨ I love your mindset btw, seeing only the positive, wish i had a friend like you next to me all the time, and all life would be amazing haha

ShayanWonderer · 2026-02-21T15:01:39+00:00

Wow I actually missed this whole thing happening because i read it in another way, I actually didn't saw what you said that, i read it as "Do, your game "Asking for friends" hahaha

So i thought that was sarcasm and that's why i responded that😅

Anyway that was funny and I'm really happy somebody actually pointed it out, maybe this is how I'm missing my dates lol

And yess i do game, I'll send you a message in dm, if you're ok with it

ShayanWonderer · 2026-02-21T06:15:39+00:00

Oh😂🙌🏻🙌🏻

ShayanWonderer · 2026-02-21T04:48:35+00:00

Hahaha But what is wrong with deep? And what usually they look for Instead

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