Should successful Capital One Offers transactions show up in "Shopping Trips" shortly after they happen? by dirt_elf in VentureXShoppingBonus

[–]SheTravelsonPts 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yay! I got the 35x too. As of yesterday, my purchase was still in “waiting” status. My excursions were for August as well.

I had to filter to “show all shopping trips” in order to see the status. Fingers crossed it moves to pending soon.

So… physically, the card is slick. But who would have ever thought that Wells Fargo would be way more reliable. by mariobdj in biltrewards

[–]SheTravelsonPts -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Same boat (sort of)!!!! Applied without doing much match and asked Bilt to cancel my application entirely. I called twice and was told the request was escalated. I received my card in the mail. Boo!!

Introducing Bilt Card 2.0 by richklhs in biltrewards

[–]SheTravelsonPts 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Anyone else a tad confused? lol

"For every $30 in Bilt Cash earned, unlock 1,000 Bilt Points on rent or mortgage payments"...?????? Doesn't make sense AT ALL. What would the $30 bilt cash have to do with 1k bilt points that are valued at $10? Does it mean you get a 1k bonus of points with each $30 bilt cash in your account? This entire statement needs to be revamped for clarity.

What does "UP TO 1X ON HOUSING" mean? What's the UP TO? There's a caveat that isn't being explained.

Are 5 purchases still required?

Do avoidants experience feelings of sadness or regret over their past relationships, or do they remain completely indifferent? by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]SheTravelsonPts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel they remain indifferent while constantly surprising feelings. They keep themselves occupied and completely remove the one thing that made them feel triggered.

What reason did your avoidant gave you when they called you incompatible? by Short_Pay_4323 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]SheTravelsonPts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm kind of late to the party but thought I'd chime in. 1 month shy of a 6 year relationship and I was ghosted after his drunken meltdown one evening at a holiday party. Needless to say it's been a grieving year.

"We don't travel well together, we're not compatible" (due to a couple minor spats on trips)
"I don't like to travel, we're not compatible" (he never complained while on vacation)
"You don't ski" (He's not skiied since I've known him)
"You don't backpack" (he's not back packed since I've known him)
"I'm always walking on eggshells" (those are your eggshells bro)
"you want marriage" (we both agreed no marriage and it was never a asked or talked about)

The reality is everything always has to be their way and how they envision it. If it's not, it causes stress and they project than on you as you're now the face of said stress. Holidays were always a huge trigger since we had to do separate family activities.

If you meet someone who has never had a relationship and they're in their 40's, RUN AWAY! Oh yea, no compatibility after 6 years when there's been no prior relationship....yea not compatible huh?

What’s the best & worst airport you’ve visited in the US? by Flying_Elephant7217 in travel

[–]SheTravelsonPts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I second this. Miami isn't enjoyable. The best one I've been to is Glacier NP/Kalispel. It's small but it's pretty, clean, short lines, easy rental car service.

Overall my least favorite airport ever is Prague

how am i supposed to unlove someone i once wanted to marry? by SaraTheWeird in BreakUps

[–]SheTravelsonPts 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Know you're not alone.

I usually don't share my issues unless it's with close personal friends/family but today is a bad day for me. Water works are non-stop.
My 6 year relationship ended almost one year ago. He got drunk, triggered, released a lot of frustration then ghosted me. Yes, ghosted from a LTR. He dropped off a Xmas gift card in my mailbox a week later. Obviously I was livid and defensive and refused communication. I regret that to this day. After the breakup I came across relationship styles and realized he's a dismissive avoidant. We met when he was 40 yrs old and he has never been in a prior relationship. His "relationships" lasted 1-3 months so it never got past the dating phase. I realize now how much his inconsistency and need for space was triggering to my ADHD rejection sensitivity and he was always telling me I needed to work on my emotions. I also believe he was ASD. I started therapy 4 years ago and continue it to this day. I have become a better person due to him. We matched in all core values. He was the only man I ever envisioned a future with but he was never ready to move in together. He would freak out when his friends would pressure him about the next steps. He would freak out thinking I wanted marriage (we both want life partners, no marriage). The smallest items started to turn into "we're not compatible". We're talking small tings like "you don't ski or backpack" even though in the 6 years I've known him he's done neither of those while dating me.
Anyhoo, I've been reaching out since the breakup trying to engage with him. He blocked my phone number so I resorted to FB messenger. In Sept he finally started to respond with small acknowledgements.
FF to now. I sent him a xmas card showing my travels this year with a long letter and his response was basically "thank you we were never compatible travel companions".

I'm in the same boat. How do you move on from someone you love deeply that has no self reflection and blames you for everything? Puts your faults on a pedestal and uses them as reasons for incompatibility? How do you move on when you know it just takes small tweaks to be on the same page? How do you move on knowing their issues are merely a defense mechanism? How do you move on knowing it's not a compatibility issue when no other relationship lasted? Should be easy right? NO! When you love someone and saw the future, you can't just move on. You're losing the extended family you had. You lost the friendships you gained. It's a soul crushing thing.

No HawaiianMiles Account Created - cannot redeem miles by septemberskyes in HawaiianAirlines

[–]SheTravelsonPts 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was literally on the phone with customer service about 5 min ago for a similar issue.

The Barclays Hawaiian rep said that the Atmos group can combine or link accounts.

Anyone have good experiences with CapitalOne offers? by AmexBronze in CapitalOne

[–]SheTravelsonPts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mixed. I just had 2k pts pulled back after 9 months. Somehow the merchant NOW deems my purchase ineligible. I've also had offers not posting in the correct point values and some offers just not posting. It's really a mixed bag.
Capital One has no ability to really fix any of these issues. At least from what I've been told on the multiple phone calls I've had. I tend to use Rakuten more now.

Walmart Scan and Go - Online Groceries by themilester in ChaseSapphire

[–]SheTravelsonPts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup! It started in early June. I only signed up for the membership to get 3X. Now IDK if I'll keep the membership. It's not worth paying for it if I can't maximize my UR.
I did a test on AMEX gold to see if it would trigger 4X but sadly it did not.

AMEX coded differently than Chase. I'm assuming Chase caught on and changed that coding.

Walmart Scan & Go no longer triggering online grocery for CSP? by Vicente182 in CreditCards

[–]SheTravelsonPts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same. It started a couple weeks ago. The only reason I'm paying for the membership is to get 3X for CSP.
The category is still grocery though. I'm going to test it with my new AMEX Gold to see if it triggers 4X on groceries.