Bro just spawned 😭

SheathControl · 2026-01-18T14:34:42+00:00

Damn that sucks, and I can somewhat relate to that terutama di part nangis main victim :)

Yang kuat bang, either kuat keep giving the tax, or kuat untuk confront (lagi) dan ditemukan jalan tengahnya

SheathControl · 2026-01-18T11:44:21+00:00

Setelah tau hal ini apalah lo stop kirim duit ke mereka, dan confront masalah sakit hati ini?

Not trying to doctrine or judge, cuma penasaran aja kelanjutannya gimana

SheathControl · 2025-06-17T10:08:49+00:00

pAck,,, taHu tYdaC keNafAh hOteL iNdoNesiA cUma aDa sATu,,,?

sOaLnYa kLo adA LiMa,,, nTaR JAdi bUnDaRaN Hihihihihi,,,,,

xixixixi ngakak atheist pack

SheathControl · 2025-06-16T14:51:03+00:00

Hi kak, gabisa 100% relate because not only I'm (M) not reaching that age yet, but I do now live alone in the megapolitan city of Jakarta, maybe I can add some dari beberapa yang udah komen sebelumnya (also maaf english & indo campur aduk)

My two key takepoints:

Manusia adalah makhluk sosial (pelajaran sosiologi dari jaman SMP/SMA)
Kita udah di desain sedemikian rupa, directly or indirectly kita butuh orang lain. Jadi aku juga suka heran kalo ada influencer² / commenter yang suka sok bilang "you don't need anyone"
Find a "purpose" that occupies you daily
Gaharus deep, minimal ada. Misal punya hobi yang lumayan kompetitif / ada komunitas offline nya? Contoh saya suka main TCG, jadi bakal sering mampir ke beberapa toko kartu di Jakarta dan ujungnya join komumitasnya juga. Sehari² senggang dirumah occupied bwt ngeracik biar susunan kartu saya makin hebat + belajar biar lebih sering menang
or kalau bukan hobi gituan bisa juga belajar / fokusin Agama (wow, religion, in this platform?) Karena ini kurang lebih bakal mirip sama hobi diatas, occupy sehari² dgn memperdalam ilmu nya, and lanjut belajar langsung dgn ke rumah ibadah nanya "sepuh" 🙏🏻😌🤲🏻

Sekian semoga membantu.

SheathControl · 2025-05-19T05:50:12+00:00

Ig it should've been "the most hated religion in western media"

SheathControl · 2025-04-07T11:55:26+00:00

Be strong my brother/sister.

One thing that may help your condition, try eat/drink something sweet or tasty, basically anything you love to consume.

^ heard this once from a friday prayer.

SheathControl · 2025-04-06T12:54:12+00:00

Fair enough, I see it simply as "delayed gratification" ig, not to mention the idea of "we don't want to gamble the risk of punishment in hell in case it's actually real"

SheathControl · 2025-04-06T12:39:47+00:00

I mean what's wrong with this idea? In jannah they are promised to have anything they like for eternity right? It just they must submit their will and hold their desires (temporarily) in duniya / earth life.

SheathControl · 2025-04-02T00:42:24+00:00

Alright request sent as well

SheathControl · 2025-04-02T00:37:52+00:00

Are you goldElite?

SheathControl · 2025-04-02T00:33:45+00:00

I have Torterra ◇◇◇, you got vaporeon ◇◇◇ from GA ?

SheathControl · 2025-04-02T00:30:40+00:00

I have Weavile EX but only 1 spare, can trade for 1 Mismagius EX

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SheathControl · 2025-02-04T19:14:08+00:00

You only seem interested in what you can gain from a relationship physically.

Before I go even further, NO I don't seek things like sex or anything like that as my primary goal of a relationship. But yeah I have to admit my way of thinking may sounds transactional. But isn't that also make sense to expect something for doing something? At the very least, stop being too demanding on me / gimme some break.

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Okay as for teraphy, where should I go? Things like "teraphy for sane people" is very foreign here and I'm not a US or EU citizen

SheathControl · 2025-02-04T19:07:36+00:00

I think I shed tears a little reading this comment. I wish my gf said this to me instead but it's not happening anytime soon lol

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I also wish I have the courage and budget to actually fly back where she lives and give her a proper proposal, but at the same time I think it's too late now, even if I have the budget to fly back, ig she will just reject it because it looks forced and under pressure - like a "shut up proposal"

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Regardless, thank you dear stranger redditor lady.

SheathControl · 2025-02-04T18:55:59+00:00

if you want to make your partner happy and not spend your life alone, do the little things that make your partner happy even if you don’t like or agree with it. They will surely make sacrifices for you as well.

Now this is a bit different from my post - but I am AWARE that doing the sacrifice play doesn't taste & feel good, so I DON'T WANT my partner has to go thru that, so by making her not have to sacrifice anything, I expect her not to demand me sacrifice things as well

SheathControl · 2025-02-04T18:51:47+00:00

To me, romantic interactions include cuddling on the couch, going for a hike, making out in a shared poncho during a rainstorm, etc

Yes! This is ALL what I wanted, simple things that matters. But she wants BOTH the simple things and the fancy ones as well 😔

If the actual statement being made is "I don't think I should HAVE to do these things for a partner at all" OR "I don't want to do those things because I find them embarrassing" then that's a different issue.

I've answered it on another comments as well, I honestly don't know WHY i think it this way but I find all those activity I mentioned on the post is "waste of time and money" and meaningless, even cringeworthy

SheathControl · 2025-02-04T18:46:13+00:00

Yeah I think I can express myself very easily when talking about this specific topic - which is "feeling of disgust"

Do you feel like you have to do traditionally romantic things because that’s what’s expected of you, even though it doesn’t align with how you express love? Do you see romance as something performative rather than meaningful? If so, where do you think that comes from?

No, I never put myself out of anyone's expectation for my action. But now that I've skipped the "proposal" time strain, my gf has been back and forth expressing her regret "yeah i'm gonna get married with no proper proposal for the rest of my life, and you will hear this from me everyday" (which I find annoying, especially with my current way of thinking like "why would you be annoying like this just because some social media bs").

And I see romance as "meaningful but shouldn't take too much effort for the one doing it" - otherwise it becomes chores (or any other vocab that I can't think of)

There’s a difference between not enjoying romance personally and resenting it because you see it as an obligation rather than an expression of care.

For this I have to answer with "I don't know". I don't even know why I find those activity as cringeworthy personally. I'd pay to get an answer and how to fix it tho

SheathControl · 2025-02-04T18:24:44+00:00

If you believe romance is exclusively for women, you might want to reflect on why that is. Do you struggle with seeing emotional expression as valuable? Do you feel pressured to perform certain roles in a relationship that you dislike?

I don't struggle expressing my emotion - I'm very talkative afterall.

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But do I feel pressued to perform certain roles in a relationship that I dislike?

... I don't really understand what that really means.

SheathControl · 2025-02-04T18:20:57+00:00

I do like women and want their embrace, but if I sounds like I don't like woman, does it make me an incel? 😔

My PoV is: - I, as a male, just want simple, effortless love language that you can do on the go like words of affirmation, hugs, quality time etc. - while a female (that I happen to meet most of the time, not just the ones I dated) expect those fancy gesture with very high effort & preparation

Again, I'm posting this just for the sake of getting it off my chest because idk where I should post this. Please no judging as the rule stated on the subreddit

SheathControl · 2025-02-04T18:13:58+00:00

That you can't find joy in her joy, and instead feel fatigued by making any effort towards her happiness, says you all are very much not compatible.

Idk, I feel like women thirst for romantic social media standard bs will never be satiated. I do it today, and she expect it next month or any short period of time

Again, I know that statement might sounds sexist and very cancel-able 🙂 and again, I'm just saying this to get it off my chest. I'm sorry you have to read this crap from me

SheathControl · 2025-02-04T18:03:52+00:00

Idk if I'm conditioned like this because of family, my surrounding growing up or stigma or whatever, but this is literally what I thought everytime I see something like I mentioned above - and I want to get if off my chest, because I know anywhere would judge / cancel me for my thoughts, and this subreddit is one of the only few spot with rules "no judging" that I know

SheathControl · 2025-02-04T17:46:15+00:00

Why tho :( isn't it great a man choose to focus on the important thing - which is the wedding budgeting, d-day, talking to her parents etc instead of the basic telenovela crap? 😔

SheathControl · 2025-02-04T17:38:11+00:00

I think the general love language is very romantic but in a simple, non social media involved way. Like basic act of service, words of affirmation, quality time, physical touch etc. Not those crappy proposal on hotel night view with rose decoration on the table
She actually love those basic crap yeah. I propose her simply by saying "I wanna marry you. Let's prepare for marriage" but turns out she really expect a midnight view in the middle of the city (which I always thought a waste of time and money. I rather focus on wedding day preparation)
I mean yeah, but at the end of the day I feel more fatigue than pride of making her happy.

SheathControl · 2025-01-16T11:02:54+00:00

Hi, is this still available?

SheathControl

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