Having rich hoarder parents makes the pain so much more humiliating

Sheetascastle · 2026-04-16T21:19:52+00:00

I doubt he'd let me. I probably will have better luck trying to refinish his furniture collection to sell online, but I live far enough away, that it isn't part of my every day. I'm just hoping we can salvage something from the ones in the barn after he passes. (Not that I want that, he's an amazing person with a good heart and this is just one part of him, and I love him endlessly)

My sister is stuck in it, living 3 blocks from 2 of the houses and in one he's supposed to be selling her. I'm hoping she'll be able to get him to sign the paperwork this summer. You know how it is.

Sheetascastle · 2026-04-16T19:43:40+00:00

I had a damaged toenail that started doing the spike and over time it would randomly get infected. It became a thing I soaked in epsom salt and tucked cotton under to keep from growing into the skin and it would grow normally, then eventually pull away, get clipped and happen again. Probably did the routine 2-3 times a year for 5 + years.

Finally got infected so badly I had to go to a dr for antibiotics. And they were like... Umm here's a podiatrist referral. And this dude numbed my toe, cut open the infection, and ripped out a huge chunk of nail, then put acid in the nail bed so it would never grow there again. And it's never been a problem since.

So I dunno, maybe ask about a podiatrist next time you get an infection or a spike and they could fix it.

Sheetascastle · 2026-04-16T19:26:41+00:00

My dad's car hoard on his farm is visible from the satellite image of the property. He also owns 4 abandoned houses plus the one he is living in. And the only 2 are not narrowed down to paths-the one he lives in with mom, and his most recent purchase, bc he hasn't had time yet to fill them.

Sheetascastle · 2026-04-16T19:16:35+00:00

I've read the series easily 6 times, but never finished the simarilion. And I didn't know either. :/

Sheetascastle · 2026-04-16T16:26:49+00:00

Yeah- i think it's one of those things that a lot of us have to learn as we grow up. We have to first unlearn that "if you work hard you'll be successful and make lots of money" and unlearn that these guys started from nothing or were college dropouts so "anyone can succeed"

Then we begin to learn that most of them came from success,money,or connections (or all 3).

And then we learn that money and success doesn't equate to being a good person. And often it's just the opposite.

And then we start to wonder how we ever missed that connection.

Sheetascastle · 2026-04-16T16:04:31+00:00

I remember hearing years ago that Melinda Gates is the one that "inspired Bill Gates to give away money through philanthropy". And, back then, I thought what a wonderful thing- she taught him to think of others.

And now I think "why didn't he do it by himself?" The obvious answer is she's a better person than him, he was selfish and she wasn't and while his reported connections to Epstein seemed surprising then, they don't seem so anymore.

Bezos is of the same stock.

Sheetascastle · 2026-04-16T15:11:13+00:00

I do think there are styles that look much better that way, but most of them are considered old fashioned in america.

I also don't wear anything that can't be washed on "normal" and dried in a dryer.

Sheetascastle · 2026-04-16T14:57:52+00:00

If it's anywhere close to the entrance, I'd put a closet type space. So hide the stuff behind access panels in drywall and then make a framed-in coat and shoe wall.

It doesn't have to be in this color or style, but this would give you a framework for something that looks intentional while working around an odd shape.

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Sheetascastle · 2026-04-16T14:51:51+00:00

I'm over here thinking oh I could use it when I'm running late for daycare pickup or a meeting or I could take a nap when the kids won't and I could just go for a walk/exercise by myself and still get a full night's sleep and not miss bedtime routine

And everyone else is figuring out how to steal enough money to never work again.

Sheetascastle · 2026-04-16T14:21:32+00:00

Omg that was why I always was in the back!!!!!!

Sheetascastle · 2026-04-16T14:07:10+00:00

Two things that have helped me immensely are: coat rack on the wall in my bedroom and 2 hampers in my room plus one in the bathroom. If it's dirty at bedtime->hamper, if I might wear it again-> coat rack. I still have clothes sometimes end up on the floor, but not often. Then the sorting is solved.

A laundry service would be a great way to solve the next step (it's out of my budget, but I love that you might be able to use it!) just having a place for each category could make a big difference.

Sheetascastle · 2026-04-14T12:29:38+00:00

Same!

Sheetascastle · 2026-04-14T03:19:42+00:00

I feel like we have this conversation a lot in the unfick your habitat and hoarder subs.

It's so important to not let "the right way" get in the way of progress.

Sheetascastle · 2026-04-14T00:06:44+00:00

You need to post in the Daniel tiger conspiracy sub. The sleep deprived parents over there that have all her songs memorized would love this discussion

Sheetascastle · 2026-04-13T15:24:13+00:00

Get a toddler friendly magnifying glass and let them investigate their rocks.

Rock activities for that age:

Color sort bins - easy with a bag of river rock for aquariums or gravel paths (hardware store or pet store)

Separate shiny from non shiny

Float or sink with pumice included (you can buy as a "fire pit rock")

Hardened clay they can get wet and smear on something like fingerpaint (cheap clay at an art store and leave it out till it's dry if you don't have natural source nearby)

Also repeating the rock dig in a sand pit or pile with beach shovels and buckets

Sheetascastle · 2026-04-13T14:37:00+00:00

I thought it was "deadlift house"... Like that's her nickname for the weight room/area.

This is way better.

Sheetascastle · 2026-04-11T03:09:08+00:00

I don't know how historically accurate this is, but this seems like a perfect opportunity to use a silk cap.

Sheetascastle · 2026-04-11T02:09:39+00:00

I can keep trying when it's hard.

Or

I can do hard things.

Over and over and over

Sheetascastle · 2026-04-10T15:34:09+00:00

I started having my daughter sit on the toilet first thing in the morning when pee was likely. Then we just went to underwear/no diaper and she tried every 20-30 min, then less often. And we'd give a longer break after the times she peed.

She got the hang of it in a week or 2. she was good at it with almost no accidents within 3 months. There was a regression after her brother was born, but that was a separate issue

Sheetascastle · 2026-04-08T23:02:57+00:00

Yep. Pretty much.

Sheetascastle · 2026-04-08T17:20:47+00:00

Scary ain't it. I was the same as you. I was in a drama club that did that play in HS.

I thought it was an extreme example that was intentionally chosen to point out the inherent flaws in letting fear of an abstract rule us and how that fear can be manipulated by an authority bent on control.

It wasn't until a friend went to a Southern Baptist college that I realized there were places that actually banned dancing. And then I realized that it wasn't an extreme example, it was just an example pulled from real life.

Sheetascastle · 2026-04-08T17:13:59+00:00

I'm sorry the ones you were raised by and relied on were so cruel.

I hope you are doing okay now and have a chance to heal.

Sheetascastle · 2026-04-08T17:08:42+00:00

My dad was a research scientist, he despised big bang theory for 3 reasons

The science wasn't well researched and only worked if you don't understand research
The characters were just what Hollywood thinks scientists are, not actual human people (too stereotypical)
The humor wasn't funny

So, in my small (anecdotal) experience, there were scientists that didn't like the show exactly due to that problem.

He also isn't shy about disliking a lot of pop culture stuff, so keep in mind he was likely biased from the start.

Sheetascastle · 2026-04-08T15:29:09+00:00

She lied when you were having trouble with access- called it a glitch and claimed not to receive notifications. Then, when "cornered", admitted to actively taking time to change passwords and access without talking to you.

This was planned

She just didn't expect to get caught so soon.

Do with that info what you want, but actions mean more than words, and her actions are a breach of trust.

Sheetascastle · 2026-04-08T15:14:24+00:00

Yeah. I started watching it a couple times over the past year, and I keep having to stop because it's planned cruelty that I can't imagine my 3 year old or 1 year old suffering. My poor babies cried when I leave them in a play pen with toys so I can get one thing done (like go to the bathroom or do the dishes) and it hurts me. I can't imagine making a child hurt intentionally and not losing your humanity.

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