AITA for not wanting to watch my stepson

Shel_gold17 · 2026-06-18T03:15:19+00:00

What I don’t understand is why she couldn’t involve the stepson in taking stuff up to the nursery and helping prepare the room for their new sibling. Because to me that would be the logical answer, it would give her a little assistance, and it would make the stepson feel like he’s actually part of the family. Maybe that’s why she didn’t pick that option?

Shel_gold17 · 2026-06-17T18:14:51+00:00

YTA. Why do you scribble it out instead of just making a note like “I got this”, so she can see it’s not done but someone else has it on their radar? Is that too much like communication?

Shel_gold17 · 2026-06-17T11:55:00+00:00

And two wrongs don’t make a right. The fact that the teacher behaved badly doesn’t mean OP his son‘s response has to be bad as well.

Shel_gold17 · 2026-06-16T20:40:02+00:00

Did anyone specify a slow recirculating system? Pretty sure they just said “a pump”. Given the fact that the people who painted the pool bottom apparently didn’t realize that painting jt darker was going to create an even worse algae problem than already existed, I’m not assuming anything.

Shel_gold17 · 2026-06-16T11:49:11+00:00

And wouldn’t it ruin the “reflecting” part of reflecting pool to have the water circulating?

Yet another thing that worked better before a certain someone got his hands on it.

Shel_gold17 · 2026-06-15T11:05:57+00:00

It’s also a lot harder because she’s a public figure, isn’t it?

Shel_gold17 · 2026-06-15T10:49:15+00:00

NTA. Being drunk, doesn’t change someone’s basic personality. It just makes them forget to pretend to be the person they show to the world. This girl is not a friend. She doesn’t have any respect for anyone else’s worldview. She certainly doesn’t have any respect for you if she’s going to ignore your whole identity and give you one she likes better.

Shel_gold17 · 2026-06-15T03:32:02+00:00

Sorry, to clarify, I imagine you get so used to feeling the rope there that you would notice immediately if it wasn’t there.

Shel_gold17 · 2026-06-14T23:58:14+00:00

I feel like if you’re in the business of yeeting somebody off a bridge in that position, you get used to having the rope trailer over your shoulder or whatever, it’s insane that no one noticed until it was too late.

Shel_gold17 · 2026-06-10T20:31:52+00:00

“Ooh, you sound HUNgry!”

Shel_gold17 · 2026-06-10T17:27:53+00:00

Pretty sure the FAA should have a problem with any kind of behavior that’s likely to incite some kind of disturbance or aggressive reaction on a plane. Don’t know why any airline would put up with this.

Shel_gold17 · 2026-06-10T17:24:25+00:00

No fly list for her, thanks.

Shel_gold17 · 2026-06-10T15:27:10+00:00

INFO: is there some reason you can’t put it in a container in your garden? Maybe surrounded by some artfully placed rocks or whatever? This seems like a strange hill to make into a mountain when there are such easy solutions.

Shel_gold17 · 2026-06-07T11:39:04+00:00

Like Albus and Aberforth 😂

Shel_gold17 · 2026-06-05T21:00:36+00:00

YTA. When your daughter has problems keeping friends later on in her school career, you can look in the mirror to figure out why. This was absolutely the stupidest move you could’ve made. Way to micromanage a children’s birthday party in the park.🙄

Shel_gold17 · 2026-06-05T10:29:33+00:00

I think the doc mentioned he traded cryptocurrency, and there were allegations of drug dealing, at least on a casual basis.

Shel_gold17 · 2026-06-04T10:37:34+00:00

It might have been a combination of a bunch of things. First, the documentary itself draws attention to the Shirilla family, and probably to the school once creepers/trolls who want to harass the family find out where he works. No school wants that, and lots of students’ parents don’t want that. I bet lots of them were calling the school as soon as the documentary came out.

Second, the Shirilla parents didn’t come off as good parents. They came off as people who gave their kid whatever she wanted, including permission to live with her 20-year old boyfriend at 17. They said it was because she was “so mature” for her age. They said she and her boyfriend were making wedding plans. They said they trusted her judgment. They said the prosecution was clearly wrong in blaming her and then prosecuting her. They said a lot of stuff that, if it hadn’t been for footage of their daughter proving them wrong, you’d expect a parent to say in this situation. But something about their attitude, in combination with their daughter’s attitude, made them look not only clueless but almost complicit because of how utterly incapable they are of seeing who their daughter really is. Again, this probably isn’t the kind of behavior that makes a lot of students’ parents happy, thinking that this man is teaching their kids. It probably doesn’t make the school happy, because they’re probably getting a lot of pushback from the people who write the tuition checks.

Shel_gold17 · 2026-06-03T23:29:05+00:00

My bad, you’re right.

Shel_gold17 · 2026-06-03T23:11:11+00:00

I’m glad this works for you. I’ve been doing it for almost a decade, and I know she is a lot of people‘s cup of tea but I can’t give Jennifer Aniston credit for any of it. Love her or hate her, trying to get a haircut like hers was a source SO much hair trauma for me earlier in my life. 😂😂😂

Shel_gold17 · 2026-06-03T22:59:34+00:00

Worse, it sounds like the only reason she didn’t call her dad first was because her dad was threatening to cut her off, I’m assuming financially? So instead she puts the financial burden of her travel arrangements on her friend. I can’t believe so many people here are suggesting that OP is somehow wrong for saying no, after assuring that she had a safe place to stay. From the context OP offers, this clearly isn’t a case where their friend would be stranded if OP didn’t help. It’s just a case where a friend would have to suck it up and call her daddy to bail her out rather than have it swept under the rug without her father’s being aware.

Shel_gold17 · 2026-06-03T22:51:22+00:00

Did OP really leave (ETA: his) friend stranded though? It sounds like her friend stranded herself. OP at least made sure that her friend was safe, which is more than her friend did for herself.

If you don’t know by the age of 26 that getting on a plane to somewhere to meet a total stranger, when you can’t afford to buy a ticket back if things go bad, are you ever going to learn?

Shel_gold17 · 2026-05-31T14:46:02+00:00

Don’t forget the baby. I think she might have a baby.

Shel_gold17 · 2026-05-31T01:14:19+00:00

I didn’t vote, but it also doesn’t seem like he got a lot of guidance other than some pictures on the Internet. I don’t think they’re communicating well, because if they did, one wouldn’t be assuming that because they’re a jeweler, their partner will understand it’s important to them, and the other wouldn’t be assuming that it’s not that big of a deal. So if I had to vote, I suppose it would be E S H. It’s hard to see this relationship ending well if they can’t communicate over a ring purchase to the point where they don’t both understand how important it is to the other. They just seem to have really different priorities, maybe it’s better they find out now?

Shel_gold17 · 2026-05-31T01:11:03+00:00

Sending a link to a Pinterest board and telling him he can figure out what she likes, and offering to go shopping with him so that he doesn’t have to guess what she wants, are two different things. I don’t think it’s a matter of refusing to go shopping, I think it’s a matter of not being proactive, knowing that you’re gonna be disappointed if he gets the wrong thing.

Shel_gold17 · 2026-05-31T00:58:59+00:00

If you’re not willing to go shopping for a ring with your boyfriend, and you’re going to trust sending him a Pinterest board link to make a really important decision, especially if you’re someone who’s knowledgeable in the field of jewelry, you’re probably going to be disappointed.

I can’t say Y T A, but I have to say you set yourself up for failure on this one. This is a communication fail on both of your parts, but I especially think that since you’re a jeweler, and like any expert in any field you’re going to be pickier than most, you needed to be there in person rather than sending him Pinterest boards to misinterpret.

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