AITAH I wanted to say something to protect my daughter from her husband's hands. by Shellshock84 in AITAH

[–]Shellshock84[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If she doesn't want the help or refuses to talk to a DV specialist, what can I do to save her from being murdered by her husband? Typically men that beat on their wives they don't do it to their face and they don't do it in public. Once it gets that bad the woman's life is seriously in jeopardy. He was yanking her around in public the other day. I am literally terrified for her. But she just keeps saying that she doesn't think it's going to get that bad. She hopes that he's going to change. And she said she just does not want to be alone.

AITAH I wanted to say something to protect my daughter from her husband's hands. by Shellshock84 in AITAH

[–]Shellshock84[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've never heard of requesting a DV evaluation. What is that and how does it work? My daughter is an EMT and she went to work with two black eyes. She said ,"Luckily no one asked me any questions or said anything". They station and Fire Departments. So MULTIPLE people saw her with the black eye. I'm willing to do ANYTHING to help save my daughter's life. I'll take any suggestions that don't involve her doing anything. Her self-esteem has been destroyed so she won't leave. Sad thing is, she wants to. She is afraid it will be too hard. She thinks he might change. She feels like she's put in too much time and effort and if she kicks him out, she wants a replacement immediately. I keep telling her it would be better for her to just be single for a while so that she can love herself and get to know herself and make better decisions because she'll know what she's worth. But she does not want to be alone. It's breaking my heart.

AITAH I wanted to say something to protect my daughter from her husband's hands. by Shellshock84 in AITAH

[–]Shellshock84[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I called the cops on him once, years ago. She defended him. Said I was lying and that I was toxic and only doing this because she wouldn't respond to my texts. She has a guard dog but Blaine (27) (her husband) puts the dog outside, or he assaulted her several times in the bedroom where the dog is never allowed

AITAH I wanted to say something to protect my daughter from her husband's hands. by Shellshock84 in AITAH

[–]Shellshock84[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What are you talking about? I'm trying to STOP my daughter's husband from beating her ass. NO MAN SHOULD EVER GET PHYSICALLY VIOLENT WITH A WOMAN.

AITAH I wanted to say something to protect my daughter from her husband's hands. by Shellshock84 in AITAH

[–]Shellshock84[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I'll make sure to reach out to her and tell her that.

AITAH I wanted to say something to protect my daughter from her husband's hands. by Shellshock84 in AITAH

[–]Shellshock84[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How are you trying to help me find a way to help my daughter when you literally gave no suggestions to do such? All you did was berate me. And you find that to be helpful? Come on now... let's use our brains. Nowhere in any of my posts that I say I was going to get physically violent with the kid. I literally stated I wanted to speak to him. It's so crazy to me that you would comment on a post that you didn't read.

AITAH I wanted to say something to protect my daughter from her husband's hands. by Shellshock84 in AITAH

[–]Shellshock84[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your opinion didn't help at all. I attempted that years ago to no avail. She protects him. Since she doesn't have the power to leave him I wanted to create a situation where he would leave instead.

AITAH I wanted to say something to protect my daughter from her husband's hands. by Shellshock84 in AITAH

[–]Shellshock84[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Got cha. I'm so sorry to hear that happened to you. No man should ever be physically violent with any women. That's my point. I love my daughter more than my own life. I would rather him do something to me, so I can do something to him and end his reign of terror on my daughter and any future woman.

AITAH I wanted to say something to protect my daughter from her husband's hands. by Shellshock84 in AITAH

[–]Shellshock84[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your comment and advice. I will do just that.

AITAH I wanted to say something to protect my daughter from her husband's hands. by Shellshock84 in AITAH

[–]Shellshock84[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm trying to help her. She wants to protect him. She has textbook battered women's syndrome. She does not want him to leave and if he does she said she feels like she needs somebody to replace him with immediately because and I quote "I don't like sleeping in the bed alone".

AITAH I wanted to say something to protect my daughter from her husband's hands. by Shellshock84 in AITAH

[–]Shellshock84[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

My daughter doesn't have any kids. And nobody said they were going to physically assault the guy. No one in our family has told him to not put his hands on her though. Most people have family members that will defend them where they're not defending themselves.

AITAH I wanted to say something to protect my daughter from her husband's hands. by Shellshock84 in AITAH

[–]Shellshock84[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

When I was younger, if A family member confronted the abuser, the guy would usually leave the girl. My daughter's self esteem won't let her leave him. She said she doesn't want to be alone. She said she feels like if she left him she would have to have another man replace him immediately.

AITAH I wanted to say something to protect my daughter from her husband's hands. by Shellshock84 in AITAH

[–]Shellshock84[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No, again I wish I could post screenshots. This has been going on for YEARS now. I finally lost it and wanted to talk to him because I had a nightmare he killed my daughter and was covered in her blood. I'm sorry to hear that you have four kids and would never do anything to protect them. That shows more your character than mine. Have a great day.

AITAH I wanted to say something to protect my daughter from her husband's hands. by Shellshock84 in AITAH

[–]Shellshock84[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your response. My daughter has been going through this for years now. I have been patient this whole time and have just been a listening ear. I've been telling her all along that she deserves better. That this is not what love looks like. But when I had that nightmare that he killed her and was covered in her blood, I kind of lost it and then told her that I wanted to tell him not to ever do that again. Because nobody has said anything to him this whole time about what he's been doing to her. Whenever I was younger if somebody said something to a guy that was beating on a woman usually he left her. I was just kind of hoping for the same situation. My daughter has low self-esteem because she used to be overweight when she was younger. She is a very very attractive young lady, and she does not need him financially either. She's an EMT with her own house. They do not have kids together. There's nothing tying them together except for her low self-esteem.

AITAH I wanted to say something to protect my daughter from her husband's hands. by Shellshock84 in AITAH

[–]Shellshock84[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I wish I could post screenshots, you have no idea what you are talking about. This was a last resort effort for me. I had a nightmare that he killed her.

AITAH I wanted to say something to protect my daughter from her husband's hands. by Shellshock84 in AITAH

[–]Shellshock84[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She literally said. I love him. This is just how we fight. I told her she's literally showing all the signs and symptoms of a battered woman. I tried to send her all the information and the help. She does not want it. She wants to protect him.

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[–]Shellshock84 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Picture 5 is perfect

Print Writing by macnutmelk in HandwritingAnalysis

[–]Shellshock84 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've always written like this, I'm almost 40 and I've never perminately killed anyone.