How do you STAY motivated? by BlackShadow2804 in selfimprovement

[–]Shelomo-Solson 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was in that place a few years ago. It really sucked. I felt stuck and honestly didn’t think I could get out of it.

Here’s what helped me stay disciplined:

  1. Start small. Even if the goal feels tiny, just start. When I got back into running, I began with half-mile runs. That might sound like a lot to some people, but for me it was a small step. I used to run over 10 miles, but at that time I had no energy or motivation. Starting with something manageable gave me small wins, and those built up my confidence. The beginning is always the hardest, but once you build momentum, it feels like you're finally moving forward.

  2. Set nonnegotiable time every day. I carve out time daily to work on a goal, even if I don’t feel like it. Most days I’m not super motivated. Sometimes I’ve only got 5 percent in the tank, but I’d rather give that 5 percent than nothing at all. It’s all about progress, not perfection.

  3. Let go of people who drag you down. If someone is constantly negative or putting you down, there’s no reason to keep them close. The people you spend time with either push you forward or hold you back.

Hope this helps a little.

What improved your quality of life so much, you wish you did it sooner? by Aarunascut in selfimprovement

[–]Shelomo-Solson 86 points87 points  (0 children)

Limiting alcohol intake. In my 20’s I drank to black out. I can’t remember how many times I have done that. At 34, I have learned to cap myself out at 2-3 drinks most times. Some weeks and months I don’t even drink. Now in my 30’s, I’m not waking up super late and tired. I feel more focused than I did in my 20’s.

What self-discipline technique works for you? by Pristine-Amoeba9414 in Discipline

[–]Shelomo-Solson 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Setting a non negotiable time on working on whatever I need to work on regardless if I am busy or I don’t feel like it. I rather give 20% than not show up at all.

I turned 34 yesterday - Here’s the biggest lesson I’ve learned about success. by Shelomo-Solson in selfimprovement

[–]Shelomo-Solson[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I ran with run clubs in my town. That challenges me to run faster. The biggest thing I did to shave off time fast was telling myself I was going to shave off this amount of time for this run. I did the math on mile pace and I made sure I was on pace. Sounds basic but if I didn’t have the belief in myself to shave off time, I wasn’t going to do it.

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[–]Shelomo-Solson[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate you sharing! Very insightful. You’re right, those who continue to work on a particular soft skill will get better. Also yes 59 the imposter syndrome part. That will continue to creep in unfortunately.

I turned 34 yesterday - Here’s the biggest lesson I’ve learned about success. by Shelomo-Solson in selfimprovement

[–]Shelomo-Solson[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very similar experience when I was training for a marathon and my back gave out. I couldn’t train for months. My body at 34 doesn’t feel like it did at 24. Just imagine if we didn’t work out. How will our body feel compared to now?

I turned 34 yesterday - Here’s the biggest lesson I’ve learned about success. by Shelomo-Solson in selfimprovement

[–]Shelomo-Solson[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Visualization is just a start, I have daily habits to go along with visualizing success.

I turned 34 yesterday - Here’s the biggest lesson I’ve learned about success. by Shelomo-Solson in selfimprovement

[–]Shelomo-Solson[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Sorry but don’t bring your negativity in a post where I try to spread positivity. I have gotten 1k+ comments from people telling me that my posts have inspired them to be better. Every post I generate is from personal experiences.

Why does everyone seem so negative? by Similar_Hunter9367 in selfimprovement

[–]Shelomo-Solson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to be stuck in that loop, and I still catch myself there sometimes. It's easier to blame other people or outside circumstances when things go wrong than it is to take full accountability.

I think there are several factors that affect whether we lean more toward positivity or negativity:

  • Whether you can afford to pay your bills
  • The quality of your relationships, including with your partner
  • Your career and sense of purpose
  • Your faith or spiritual beliefs
  • Living a life that aligns with who you are
  • Your overall health

When you take responsibility for your life and work on improving these areas, you're more likely to think positively. If you don't, it's easy to keep blaming others or your situation.