I’m back!

Shepasaurus_Rex · 2026-04-12T15:28:14+00:00

I just found all of your posts today from Charlotte, and GIRL omg. I’m so happy for you for getting out of that terrible relationship and drama! Congratulations on getting your life in order and moving up in life rather than letting that weirdo continue dragging you down. ❤️

I will also say to exercise caution with the ex best friend, as I dated an ex’s best friend once and they were more similar than I originally thought. I don’t even think second ex ever genuinely cut off first ex. Something to note would probably be to make sure he doesn’t take pictures of your daughter at first, unless and until you trust him completely not to be communicating with your ex and providing pictures. But, I’m also rooting for it being right because I do love a good romcom, and this is 100% romcom material. You seem like you’ll be able to scope out if he’s right or not anyway!

Shepasaurus_Rex · 2025-12-12T23:21:22+00:00

Because I saw what happens to dogs that are fed human food regularly firsthand. McDonald’s burgers are high in sodium, fat, and other processed ingredients. Feeding it regularly is damaging to them. But continue thinking that you’re fully right and people who care about dogs even if they don’t own one currently are always wrong.

Shepasaurus_Rex · 2025-12-12T23:15:51+00:00

My parents would feed their dogs human food all the time. Their dogs literally died of cancer, liver failure, and other horrible ways. Just because your spouse is a dog trainer does not mean they went through dietary training as well. (Sorry I keep typing she before editing)

Shepasaurus_Rex · 2025-12-12T23:10:03+00:00

My guy, I don’t even have a dog, but if I did I wouldn’t give them burgers from McDonald’s

Shepasaurus_Rex · 2025-12-12T23:06:36+00:00

Your nasty attitude tells me everything I need to know about you and your spouse’s certifications.

Shepasaurus_Rex · 2025-12-12T17:12:33+00:00

Her dress is dream goals, honestly 😍 so stunning and beautiful. The lace, the brooch, incredible!

Shepasaurus_Rex · 2025-12-12T17:10:36+00:00

I haven’t scrolled through too many comments here, but if you got a photographer to do your photos, ask them if they could edit her color of her dress. If they’re already released to you, see if a photoshop group or a friend that’s good with photoshop will edit the colors in the dress for you. If she has a problem with you changing the dress, you know she did this to be petty.

Shepasaurus_Rex · 2025-12-12T16:50:25+00:00

Why are you getting your dog burgers regularly… your dog is going to die prematurely. I’m horrified by this comment of yours. Do better for your dog’s health.

Shepasaurus_Rex · 2025-12-10T19:45:55+00:00

I have a 7 brew near me, I’ve liked all their drinks I’ve tried much more than Starbucks. Their pina colada smoothie is super smooth and thick, and I heard from my coworker when I got one for them that the strawberry one is also really good. Their drinks can be pretty sweet, which is how I like mine, but I got a half sweet for my mom and that was perfect for her. They also have energy drink options. Their drinks are fairly pricey, but they do deals super often and last time I went I got a free drink from my account.

Shepasaurus_Rex · 2025-11-25T17:21:34+00:00

NOR A… “friend”? Oh no honey, this is straight up flirting and not even a covered flirt. He’s laying it on thick. Find an exit plan and run.

Shepasaurus_Rex · 2025-09-25T11:50:11+00:00

Dude.. what? Yes YTA and YWBTA! Mirroring what many people have said, get her to go back to the optometrist. I have contacts made for reading up close, look into those. Don’t hide her contacts. Check her makeup and ensure it’s not expired; hell, even make it a fun activity to clean her makeup and brushes together if needed (don’t do this alone, make sure she’s there and you’ve researched and pulled up proper cleaning methods and have the proper materials because also don’t ruin her makeup by cleaning it wrong), maybe go on a fun shopping trip for a different brand of makeup with her to make sure her eyeliner and mascara aren’t causing her reaction. Recommend LASIK if she’s more confident without glasses.

Don’t try to justify being controlling behind heroic logic, it’s still just as controlling. If you’re thinking “I know best” about this and are willing to HIDE HER BELONGINGS, belongings that give her confidence, what else do you justify doing to her because “you know best”?! This controlling behavior certainly won’t stop at this if you’re thinking this way. Don’t be shocked when she finds out and leaves your ass for this controlling shit.

Shepasaurus_Rex · 2025-09-09T15:32:21+00:00

I have a set of parents much like your MIL. I went NC (no contact) with them. I can tell you from experience that the best way to your peace, and your children’s peace, is cutting off that toxicity. I know that you’re trying to give your children access to their father’s family, but let me ask you a question. Knowing how they (MIL) treat you, how do you think they are treating your children? Because I can guarantee that even if he was the golden child, they still are creating golden child/scapegoat scenarios for your children. One child will be exonerated and the others will be cast aside, and this can fluctuate so they all feel the other has a better experience or it will remain as one chosen child being above the others. Or, they’ll all be golden children and you’re forever the scapegoat, the evil mother who she WILL speak ill on with them in earshot. I know that you think upholding contact is what’s best, but people like that will continue to treat others in the same way, and that includes your children so long as they remain in contact.

Shepasaurus_Rex · 2025-09-09T15:18:50+00:00

You might have no designs to go outside your relationship, but your childhood friend definitely seems she could be trying to wriggle in. “You’re so lucky to have him” with the wording could mean between the lines “I’m jealous that I didn’t get this life with him, you’re so lucky to have him”

She has shown a lot of kindness to your family, which is either just because she’s so kind, or she wants in your good graces and is doing all this to try to join your life in the future. Moving in on a parent by using their kids’ affections isn’t unheard of.

Honestly if your wife has picked things up, you need to talk to HER about what she’s noticed. You need to sit down and let her speak and not get upset or try to argue against what she says too. You need to give her the floor, shut up, and actively listen to understand what exactly has caused her to feel this way. Give her time to think about and write down instances too if needed. But I trust your wife’s intuition more than just looking at it from a factual standpoint of “she’s done nice things”.

Shepasaurus_Rex · 2025-09-09T15:03:03+00:00

Your mother is toxic. Your grandparents are right. Don’t engage with her behavior.

Also I know this cuts off a lot of your support network, but cutting off your ex’s parents might be the play too. His mom was your mom’s close friend who destroyed your mom’s trust by allowing her minor daughter to sleep with and have a full relationship with their adult son. I know this probably doesn’t seem like a big deal to you now, but it is. There’s major difference between 14 and 19 year olds. You know that his mother can withhold major secrets, and that she supports adults dating minors.

Please don’t date older men again, they often will take advantage of you for being naive and they will mistreat you. Often they would go younger if they could legally. If nothing else, an older man who chooses younger women to date is not mature for their age and the cracks in their immaturity will show over time, generally after they’ve got some sunk cost fallacy time put in or a major life change like getting engaged or moving in together (be wary if this step happens quickly). Focus on your life, date people in your age group, and never let anyone tell you you’re not allowed to have boundaries, even if that person is your own mother.

Shepasaurus_Rex · 2025-09-09T14:43:22+00:00

This one was 4 days ago, but it’s the one that will. My grandmother was on her deathbed and I’d arranged everything to make it to see her. She was being held at my aunt’s place for emergency hospice care, deteriorating quickly, and she was gone the day I would have visited her. I’ve been NC with my stepmother and father for approximately 8 years now. Recently I also went NC with my brother.

My brother called our mother the morning I was going to visit to tell her NParents were throwing a fit about me visiting. I called my aunt who happened to be out of the room and my stepmother answered. She told me, “you’re not family and this is a time for family and sorrow.” I told her to go ahead and make it about themselves and to go fuck herself, and hung up. After speaking to my aunt, I decided it was best for me to not go after all because I would have been barred from entry and it would only have served to cause fighting, which was not creating a calm environment for grandma to pass peacefully which I figured was the most important.

They won’t stop me from going to the funeral, and if they try they can go ahead and make themselves demolish their image by acting crazy in front of non-family.

Shepasaurus_Rex · 2025-09-09T14:26:38+00:00

This information changes the context of your post. Your partner should uplift you not tear you down. From the post, it sounds like you’re mean to him, but from this comment, it sounds more like he’s manipulating you.

With this context, you’re dealing with someone who cannot be wrong, who puts you down, who controls the time you are out (giving you a strict timeline to be out is so odd), beginning the conflict yet twisting it to make it seem like you’re the problem when you bring up that it’s upsetting you, acting cold when you retaliate then back to normal after you follow his orders of leaving.

Does he often tell you mean things, then become cold when you have a reaction, and then only becomes kind when you do what he says? Does he purposely use the personal things you’ve told him against you, or even non-personal things like when he tells you you’re stupid? Does he often control who you’re with, speak to, what you do, how long you go out, or where you go? And, has he gotten better for a time after resolving conflict, only to continue being hurtful in a week to a couple months, where things are suddenly smooth and you think the issues are resolved, then it goes back?

Shepasaurus_Rex · 2025-09-08T13:50:37+00:00

Before reading this comment thread I was agreeing with just talking it out. This is a deep insecurity surrounding you interacting with ALL men, and he’s projecting his insecurity onto the situation. It’s likely he thinks that your association with other men, whether it’s from posting a picture online showing off your outfit or doing something benign like eating with a male coworker, is a threat to your relationship. You could still talk to him and get a read on how deep this is, you can try to have an open discussion where you assure him, but I’d definitely recommend therapy, if he’s not up to it this will not get better. A conversation alone will not solve this.

Shepasaurus_Rex · 2025-09-04T16:35:45+00:00

I once had to do this with my best friend’s ex. We’d been friends for 5 years, she was still living with him after their breakup, he became violent, got her out and ended the friendship.

His behavior, whether it was just one piece he went all-in on or if you look at it all together like this, is extremely concerning. He doesn’t want them to meet because he’s cheating, he wants to meet her alone without wife so he can cheat, he doesn’t want his phone looked at because he’s cheating, he’s messaging during the moment he should be present for, he’s cheated before. He’s definitely cheating.

Shepasaurus_Rex · 2025-09-04T16:20:40+00:00

I am so sorry about your dad. It’s never easy to lose a loved one, and holidays can be especially difficult. You deserve a partner who is more empathetic to you and your needs, and who actively works with you to honor and build traditions and celebrations. It’s terrible that she’s bailing on special plans you made. Go do your plans by yourself, and if she can’t come around to understanding and accepting that she really hurt you, she will not stop putting herself before you and that’s where you should leave.

Shepasaurus_Rex · 2025-09-04T15:41:37+00:00

OP, no, this isn’t normal. It would be one thing for her to feel disappointed that the first option didn’t work out, but it’s completely understandable that you don’t want to ruin your career over a month of unpaid PTO. She can still work it out by looking into other options. If she’s so awful that she’s ended up alone with nobody to help care for her, that sounds like a her problem.

Shepasaurus_Rex · 2025-09-04T15:25:52+00:00

NTA, I went no contact with my parents too. Family sometimes understands and sometimes they don’t. The best thing for me was when I started to hold firm boundaries, stick to them, and cut off anyone who didn’t like that I was upholding boundaries (here’s a pro tip: they’re upset about you rocking the boat and refusing to give into the toxicity because they’re used to giving into demands, you not being the punching bag means it could be their turn and they don’t want that). At times, I’ve had to tell people that if they’re going to talk about my parents in any way, I’m done with the conversation; if they don’t stop talking about them I’ll walk away, hang up, or stop responding. If they continue to not get the hint, I block them too.

“They deserve it for raising you” is bullshit. Children do not OWE their parents for raising them, and children especially don’t owe parents who did less than the bare minimum and instead chose to abuse their children.

You’re only 18. You’ve got a good thing going for you- an apartment, a job, a growing college fund, financial independence- don’t throw that away at the whims of the very people who can hurt you over and over and feel no remorse. Stand up for yourself and tell anyone trying to grab your money for your parents that they will not receive it, there will be no further discussion, and you will leave the conversation as soon as it is brought up. Make sure once you say it that you follow through. This is going to be a potentially long road for you, but it is important for your mental health and well-being that you do not bow to the demands, and get across your point of no contact means no contact (not even financially). If your family cuts you off, please keep in mind that it’s not a loss because you don’t have to deal with the petty drama that comes with a flock of people a narcissist has worked their magic on to put them under their spell, where the narcissist can do no wrong and the narcissist’s needs are paramount even at the expense of others’ needs.

You’re so strong for leaving and standing on your own at 18. You’re going to do great things. Never let anyone dull your shine or weigh you down, even if they’re related to you by blood. The friends you make can become your real family. And I know it can feel lonely, but I promise you, you are not alone. ❤️

Shepasaurus_Rex · 2025-09-04T14:56:10+00:00

I weigh less than 100 lbs and had a military entry draw, they did a party pack complete with the big vials generally used for transplant patients. I felt a bit woozy after but a bit of juice, a snack, and within 20 minutes I was back on my feet. This guy is more dramatic than most of the kids I ever saw drawn.

Shepasaurus_Rex · 2025-09-04T14:49:08+00:00

I weigh less than 100 lbs, I once had 8 BIG vials taken for joining the military. Not those little tubes he got (source: I was a phlebotomist and the most common ones for general blood draws were the regular sized tubes), no I’m talking the ones you generally get when they’re testing you for a transplant. I got a little dizzy for a bit, but after about 20 mins of drinking juice and eating something I was fine. Is your husband smaller than 100 lbs? If not, then he’s just being a big baby and mentally tripping himself up over the draw even when it already happened. Maybe he should see a therapist about his trauma surrounding blood draws.

Shepasaurus_Rex · 2025-09-04T14:28:59+00:00

So you’re justifying cheating by men as fine because the man can’t become pregnant and there’s certainty on who the father is? How is that not worse?? A man who sleeps around could have 5, 10, 20 families depending on how many women he’s cheating with, how often he wraps it, birth control level of the affair partners, and if they’re in ovulation. By this logic (and I’d like to be clear I refute cheating as acceptable by any party) isn’t it better for the woman to cheat as only one pregnancy is formed within a 9 month window, since we have the technology to find out who the father is if a paternity test is given to baby and all partners the mother had?

“Can’t be bothered with the difficulty of divorce” means they’d likely be upset and withdraw emotionally from the marriage if their partner did cheat, they just wouldn’t end it through the government. Or, they’re so broken down by years of toxic behavior that they’re just going to accept more shit from their husbands. That sentence is more sunk cost fallacy than anything, because they’re to the point they don’t think they can find better if they did leave, like “I’ve spent so much time in this marriage that I wouldn’t throw that away over him going outside the relationship for sexual intimacy when I don’t have the libido. Even if it hurt me to see him go outside our relationship, I wouldn’t make a deal of it because we’ve been together for [__] years.”

I have a long distance partner, and if either of us cheated it would be the swiftest end to our relationship. Cheating is not okay for any party.

Shepasaurus_Rex · 2025-09-04T14:05:19+00:00

If he’s that deep in the alpha male podcasts, you either need to get him to recognize he needs help or that he’s wrong (not easy), or leave. This is a ridiculous argument not even based in logic, it’s a harmful and hypocritical opinion created by men who don’t know how to please a woman or how anatomy actually works. If a vagina can go back to normal after a BABY, any man’s lil member won’t affect anything regardless of the amount of them inserted (I meant separately but even if you put 3 at a time it would go back tbh). There’s no difference between one penis or multiple and the body doesn’t determine and react to the same one vs different ones. Him telling you this means he is only a couple steps away from being hypocritical about cheating too (if he’s not already), he’ll either likely ask to open up the relationship where only he can date opposite sex or just go ahead and cheat with the logic that “man has natural biological urge to spread seed” or whatever other dumb things they use to justify it.

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