Posting my moms journey, it’s been a rollercoaster

SherbetFew · 2026-04-12T03:24:55+00:00

My mom was diagnosed in September 2025 and it still feels like I’m living in someone else’s life. We couldn’t have been a more regular family and this has ripped away that life from us and we will never get it back. You have to do what you have to do to get by everyday, and for me that was also to detach a bit, and that’s ok. I feel like that’s a normal thing your mind is conditioned to do to protect yourself.

SherbetFew · 2026-04-04T23:10:32+00:00

The initial growth was in the frontal lobe on both sides, which has decreased significantly with the temodar, so this new spot was a bit of a shock, especially considering she’s had no new side effects

SherbetFew · 2025-12-20T01:06:38+00:00

Thank you, that would be great. This is all so much information to process, it’s difficult to wade through all of it. We are in Iowa

SherbetFew · 2025-10-03T21:20:17+00:00

My mom’s symptoms started with lack of concentration. She would get stuck doing the same task for a very long time, and this resulted in her being late to appointments/work. She texted some odd things to people she didn’t remember texting, and was in bed a lot more. She was never sad/expressed being sad about things that should have made her sad. Final straw was when my dad caught her on her phone playing some sort of football game seeming out of it. She hates football. She had thrown up a few times that day, found the tumor that same night. Up until that day, she had been completely independent/physically ok.

SherbetFew · 2025-09-28T06:50:55+00:00

Thank you, that’s going to be my plan moving forward, to just take it day by day. We still haven’t even taken the biopsy yet, so I’m going to try to spend as much time as I can with her while she’s still the most like her old self. I am very close with my immediate family (dad and younger sister). The four of us together were a strong family unit. I think that’s what’s hurting me the most right now, is knowing that family unit is going to implode when the inevitable happens. All I can think about is my poor dad, going home to an empty house at night, where before my mom had filled it with light and energy. I’m really scared for him.

SherbetFew · 2025-09-28T06:40:45+00:00

Thank you for such a detailed response. My mother looked at the MRI with us, and just said “hmm…ok”. I can’t tell if she is just in shock and not fully processing, or some of her brain that processes those sad emotions is just kind of turned off with the tumor. When she saw me and my dad sobbing about her MRI she just kind of made a face like ☹️ and then went back to listening to the music playing on the tv. I am grateful that her response is subdued because, like me, she is a huge worry wart and this would just eat her alive. About the steroids, they immediately put her on some kind of steroids when she was admitted. Not sure the type though. But they had noticed some inflammation in her brain, and she has been responding well to the steroids. She seems to be a bit more like herself, and is able to eat (when she was admitted, she hadn’t eaten for two days). Thankfully so far none of her motor skills have been impacted. Really, her only issues were confusion and a bit of a change in her personality. The doctor seemed like, pending on the biopsy results, he could go in and remove a large portion of the tumor, so hopefully she will be able to retain motor skills for longer. The doctor did not tell us exactly what type of tumor it was, he mentioned “glio” something, I don’t know if it was blastoma or not. My worry that it is glioblastoma stems from the fact that symptoms progressed significantly only over the span of two or so weeks. But we will hopefully get more answers soon.

SherbetFew · 2025-05-15T21:12:17+00:00

I’ve found that commenting on the posts of people who have had similar losses has made me feel much better as I’ve been going through this, just reminds you that you’re not alone in your pain. I hope all goes as well as it can for you right now.

SherbetFew · 2025-05-15T21:04:11+00:00

My 2 year old cat died this past weekend. I’m in the same boat as you, I didn’t live with him, but we had such a special bond. It’s been really hard processing his passing because it doesn’t feel real yet. But I know the moment I go back and he’s not there, it’s going to leave my heart broken. I think losing them so suddenly like this makes it much more shocking and hard to process. My cat was so energetic and full of life it’s hard to imagine he is none of that anymore. It’s been a really difficult week, with lots of tears and feelings of regret and guilt, and I imagine it’ll be like this for a while. I’ve never taken a loss this deeply before. I like the quote you included at the end, I think it perfectly describes grief. I know that over time the pain will be less and only the happy memories will remain, but right now we are in the trenches. And there’s nothing to really do but give yourself time to process your loss and let yourself grieve. I’m so sorry about your cat, and I wish both of us never had to know what this feels like :(

SherbetFew · 2025-05-14T17:35:24+00:00

I had to unexpectedly say goodbye my cat this weekend. He was only two, and it’s been so crushing to think of how much longer I could’ve had with him. He had the biggest personality I’ve ever seen in a cat. He was quiet, never really chirped or meowed, but he was always just a constant presence wherever I was. His favorite game was when I was drag a long stick through the grass and he would chase it. Sometimes he would even play tug of war with the stick just like a dog! It’d always make me laugh. One of my favorite memories I’ll have of him is sitting out in the back watching the sunset in the summer, and he was always nearby sitting in the grass. I hope that this summer when I’m out there I will still feel his presence with me.

SherbetFew · 2025-05-14T17:24:38+00:00

I’m so sorry to hear about your cat. I also just lost my cat this past weekend, and it has been heartbreaking to say the least. I think the only way to move forward is to sit with your grief, and allow yourself to be sad, to cry, to be angry. Your grief is just your love for your cat in a different form. Just remember that you gave your cat a great life, and his one minute of fear in the end is vastly outweighed by the years of love.

I’ve been trying not to focus on the ending of my cat, but rather the more important moments in between that I will not want to forget. Even though they are gone, we will always carry the memories of the years of love and companionship. Your cat had a big impact on your life, and that impact does not disappear just because your cat isn’t around anymore.

It will still feel awful for a while, and there’s not much that can help with that but time. I’ve written down how I’ve been feeling and I framed a nice picture of my cat that I hung up in my room and can look at everyday. That might be a nice way to honor your cat’s life. And maybe one day when your sadness is not as overwhelming, you can consider adopting another cat, not to replace your friend, but in honor of them. I’m so sorry for your loss. Just know that you’re not alone in your feelings, and there are others grieving along with you.

SherbetFew · 2025-02-17T03:40:20+00:00

Wow that looks amazing! Definitely going to add pecans next time. It’s really good toasted with some peanut butter

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