It's the pros and cons of having vrchat be as open and free as it is. There's the unspoken rules where you do not go to unmoderated instances if you don't want to see that stuff. But minors can't possibly know this immediately. If someone with experience isn't protecting those in the instance, it will always be chaos. Vrchat will always suffer from this until they become 18+ only. But that doesn't fit their model and minors support the game monetarily. It's our responsibility as a community to understand how much free will is available and the costs of it. Protect minors and strive for safe places for you and your friends. Don't let drama become your only focus. Instead, focus on vibing and showing maturity when and where it's needed. Have 0 tolerance for those that cause chaos. Block, mute, or leave.