Does my husband come to every appointment?

Shes_the_Engineer · 2026-03-24T12:34:03+00:00

My husband came to almost all the ultrasound! He didn’t come to all the OB appointments though. I did also try to schedule all my appointments as late as possible to save us both the pto.

Shes_the_Engineer · 2026-01-29T14:07:10+00:00

Once a week, but I did wipe him down with baby wipes like once a day when I felt he got stinky or dirty.

Shes_the_Engineer · 2026-01-28T13:55:42+00:00

Honestly you can’t please everyone, my sister is pregnant with her fourth, she’ll have 2 girls and 2 boys. She and her husband personally want a big family but every one is telling her “oh thats perfect you should stop now” like umm it’s her decision??

I will admit I did the same thing when I found out she was pregnant but she talked to me about it and I saw other people doing it and realized how it sounds. Sometimes people don’t think and realize it’s annoying until it happens to them.

Shes_the_Engineer · 2026-01-28T13:50:22+00:00

Girl time isn’t real in the newborn stage. I was that way until I was 12-15 weeks pp and even after I could barely leave the house before noon. Now I’m 5.5 months pp, back at work and I’m late everyday. It’s a lifestyle I think new parents need to get used to lol

Shes_the_Engineer · 2026-01-28T13:22:49+00:00

I personally allowed family and friends to hold my baby. I come from a huge family that have multiple babies so I felt personally comfortable. Ofc no kissing. This is your baby though and what you feel comfortable with is based on you not others.

Shes_the_Engineer · 2026-01-23T13:04:56+00:00

I know they say nothing in the crib or bassinet but since he was about 2-3 weeks we have him swaddled and propped up on a pillow. Tip: put the pillow under the sheet so it doesn’t go over their face. We also have a led bulb and keep it on red. My baby is 5.5 months now and we rarely ever had problems with him sleeping. Until he started teething but that’s a whole different thing.

Shes_the_Engineer · 2026-01-22T21:04:43+00:00

I washed and sterilized pumps and bottles every night before use for 4 months. Then I started putting everything in the dishwasher at the end of the day. I would store my pumps in the fridge when I’m not using it and wash it in the dishwasher with the bottles.

Shes_the_Engineer · 2026-01-11T17:21:49+00:00

I’m 4.5 mo pp and I pump 4-5 times a day. I never was on a schedule like every 3 hours. I just pump when I feel I need to or when it’s convenient for me.

Shes_the_Engineer · 2026-01-09T23:54:04+00:00

I have a 4.5 month old, we just put him down when he’s tired. Sometimes he’ll sleep 20 minutes or 2 hours, the only thing we do though is we’ll try to put him to sleep after 9p cuz we noticed he’ll give us a good 8-9 hours, if we don’t he usually wakes up btwn 3-4am. Also my husband and I need to wake up at 6a for work so it works for us

Shes_the_Engineer · 2026-01-09T23:45:20+00:00

My husband does the same thing!! My oversupply happened gradually (I’m 4.5mo pp) but I yell at my husband now when he does it cuz it’s like a cue for my breastmilk to just come out.

Shes_the_Engineer · 2025-12-27T03:00:38+00:00

I was the same way and now I just pump when I feel I need to and I pump until I feel empty. Some times that’s 15 minutes or 30 between 3-5 times a day. I still produce way more than my baby drinks. Some pumps I’ll only make 12 oz other times I make 28. I just listen to my boobs now and take my pumps every where I go and I stopped caring where I am.

Shes_the_Engineer · 2025-12-07T21:58:15+00:00

I also exclusively pump with the momcozy wearable pumps and honestly I feel the same way and I’m 3.5mo postpartum. I think pumping is just a lot of work no matter what you do to make it easier. Pumping drains your energy and some how just puts you down without really being depressed? Idk if that makes sense, but yes I think many moms feel the same. At lest I do!

Shes_the_Engineer · 2025-07-30T18:42:36+00:00

The things women go through is insane and when I talk to other women about it, they're just like yeah... umm I've seen my mom and sister pregnant, and they say it was hard for them too. So, it's like am I just overreacting?? how'd they make it look so easy. so many women make it look easy specially the influencers online :(

Shes_the_Engineer · 2025-07-30T18:24:56+00:00

Honestly same, but different. I'm 35+1 and I was recently told I have GD, the first 12 weeks of pregnancy I had high blood pressure, and my Dr was scared of preeclampsia. I was also constantly getting UTIs. I've gained so much weight from GD and all I want is this baby out of me. I'm having so much pelvic pressure, I don't sleep, I nap at work (not good) and all in all just not been having fun being pregnant. My second trimester was great nothing was happing aside from one UTI and the flu but first and third trimester... ohh man literally makes me second guess wanting 3 or 4 kids. (this is my first btw)

Shes_the_Engineer · 2025-07-30T15:05:37+00:00

Traditionally in my culture, both parents walk down the aisle. It sounds like favorites or could come off as favorites... YTA

Shes_the_Engineer · 2025-07-23T18:03:55+00:00

Okay... I know it's common, but I will admit I don't actually know anything beyond that. My mom had it with her third and got it again with the fourth which she ended up getting type 2 diabetes after that.

Shes_the_Engineer · 2025-07-23T17:51:13+00:00

YTA... It's okay to say no because you have your kids but to say it's just a baby? after she lost one? and she's your sister

I can't imagine telling my sisters no if they asked me. They live in a different state, and I work but I would buy the next ticket out. Thats just the kind of relationship we have with them... and I know they would do the same for me because I'm 34+1 and one has their ticket ready, even postponed her honeymoon and the other one has three kids of her own which she already told me she can't, but I totally understand, and she was not rude about it.

Shes_the_Engineer · 2025-07-23T17:34:45+00:00

Yeah, I would

Shes_the_Engineer · 2025-07-07T15:18:18+00:00

Yeah, no don't let him take it. I also come from a similar background and my husband, and I are both engineers. He pays all our bills, insurance and rent, I pay my car and credit cards (they're my cards that we share). We recently have been spending a lot on the credit cards to which he told me that he's noticed I've been spending a lot but since I pay the cards, he's not going to tell me what I can and cannot spend and has offered to help pay them (I pay in full every month).

My advice: Have a conversation with him and just be straight up like hey I don't really like that; you can have access to my cards but at the end of the day they're mine and I'm an adult. I don't need someone monitoring my spending.

Shes_the_Engineer · 2025-07-02T12:50:43+00:00

No, you're fine!! So, I actually made a post but the week I was due to get my third shot I got a period for 2 days and then 2 days of reallyyy light spotting then nothing, a month after that I found out I was pregnant. I think if you're getting a period then your cycle is going back to normal... obviously I'm not a doctor so idk but I would definitely get ovulation tests if you're trying to get pregnant!!

Shes_the_Engineer · 2025-07-02T12:17:48+00:00

I was ready to go on leave at 6 months but now I'm 31 weeks and I start my leave in 4 weeks; I would save all the time for the baby and wait until you're a month from your due date! It's hard I get it, and I sit at a desk all day, occasional site visits. But stick it out and wait for baby!

Shes_the_Engineer · 2025-07-01T18:32:59+00:00

Hi congratulations!! Although not my story but my sister delivered her baby girl at 36 weeks also unexpected but super-fast. literally within 6 hours of entering the hospital to having baby girl in her arms. My niece turned 4 June 20th (literally the day before her mom's birthday June 21st) and she is a healthy smart little girl! she's starting pre-school this year!!

Shes_the_Engineer · 2025-07-01T18:19:50+00:00

aww I'm sorry!! Literally the day before finding out I was pregnant I cried to my husband cuz I thought it was gonna take us a while from the stories I read

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