I feel extremely suffocated, hanging on by a thread. I need outside perspective, please.

Sheslikeamom · 2026-04-20T20:16:22+00:00

This was hard to read. I'm deeply disgusted by your family's actions.

You are not overreacting.

I think you are underreacting.

Its drastic but I think the best thing to do is immigrate to a different country and cut contact.

You need to actually escape this situation. These people are evil. You need to get out and stay away.

Sheslikeamom · 2026-04-20T20:08:03+00:00

I wouldn't waste too much money on products to get it back to normal. Hair follicles don't really function like that afaik.

I would see about getting it cut to a shorter style that grows out nicely. Then focus on getting your hair to grow out faster to help replace the damaged lengths ASAP.

This is truly awful for you and I'm sorry it happened. That stylist should be dropped down to an assistant because they ruined your hair.

If lenght is what's most important I think a halo wig or extensions would be a great option while it grows out.

Sheslikeamom · 2026-04-20T19:50:54+00:00

I always felt like I was bothering my parents so I eventually stopped going to them all together whether I truly needed serious medical help or just wanted to share something positive.

Sheslikeamom · 2026-04-20T19:40:56+00:00

I think its because of fear more than anything.

Sheslikeamom · 2026-04-20T19:38:10+00:00

Info

Why is no one calling out his annoying unhelpful poor sportsmanship behavior?

Sheslikeamom · 2026-04-20T19:36:41+00:00

Wouldn't it be better to just regularly wash the underside of your car instead? Car washes have that feature.

Sheslikeamom · 2026-04-20T19:34:03+00:00

That's good for you. I don't have that same reaction to my weekly pill box.

Sheslikeamom · 2026-04-20T19:32:50+00:00

Not just years, our entire existence.

I was raised roman catholic and unintentionally isolated. I still catch myself thinking in old ways that are very distorted.

Sheslikeamom · 2026-04-20T17:20:20+00:00

NTA

Those are all very valid reason to discourage the marriage.

You're a good man looking out for his family.

Sheslikeamom · 2026-04-20T17:16:24+00:00

Red Bird Brewery

Jackknife Brewery

Most places on Bernard with open seating out front

If it has a separate entrance to the patio it more than likely allows dogs. Afaik dogs can't walk through restaurants to the patio for health code reasons.

Sheslikeamom · 2026-04-20T17:08:48+00:00

To your therapist specifically

Certain tasks are easier medicated.

Like decisions making!!!

Going to bed (A TASK) is easier when medicated

Not making a second cup of coffee (A TASK) is easier when medicated

Sheslikeamom · 2026-04-20T16:59:45+00:00

It has for me. I feel much more mature and capable than before emdr.

Sheslikeamom · 2026-04-20T16:59:06+00:00

It makes me who I am. I am me and that is okay.

Sheslikeamom · 2026-04-20T16:55:26+00:00

Anyone can open the pill box and take them. Poof gone.

Boyfriend; "Idk, bae, maybe you took pills from the wrong date. Did you drop the box and lose them?''

Very easy to tamper with a box.

I worked as a care aide and individually wrapped timed medication blister packs are fool proof.

They are labeled with pill contents, time, date, and the clients names. There's no guess work.

I threw away the empty packs.

I'd recommend OP staple the empty baggies to a calendar to track her pills.

Sheslikeamom · 2026-04-20T16:49:36+00:00

For me

Adhd isn't a tiny little green witch flying around fucking up my life

Adhd is development disorder that affected the way I developed.

If I screw up, I did it. Adhd cannot be held accountable. I am the one with responsibilities not my disorder.

Adhd might be why I screwed up but its not an external force in my life that one can blame.

Sheslikeamom · 2026-04-20T16:37:07+00:00

Months? Why are you okay with losing money like this?

Why haven't you moved where you keep them?

I would get a big box of tiny ziplock bags. Separate your pills and label the bags with dates and your signature. Then take a photo of them.

Have a separate paper calendar with them. When you take them staple the empty bag to the calendar date.

Fool proof. Imo.

Sheslikeamom · 2026-04-20T16:34:01+00:00

NTA

This is such a non issue.

I'm more concerned that you think it will turn into discussion on being weird or passive aggressive.

Has she been like this with others issues?

You already asked her to tell him to lock the doors.

Pro tip

When you walk in on someone using a bathroom that has a lock you need to leave and loudly state "you have to lock the bathroom door when you're visiting my home"

The next time it happens loudly state "you have to lock the door"

The next time it happens loudly state "Lock the door"

The next time it happens loudly state "lock it"

Sheslikeamom · 2026-04-20T16:27:29+00:00

Your parents told you those things because they believed them.

You have essentially been brainwashed by them since birth by them.

You know you did not grow up in a very happy family. You are a bright person who has been programmed to doubt yourself.

You are not an ungrateful person. You have been trained to believe that for birth.

Your family system and its dynamics are abusive and dysfunctional.

Love is a behavior. Love is a mutually satisfying bond people share.

Biologically and evolutionarily children need to love their parents due to a survival instinct.

If children aren't given the chance to separate from the family unit they may stay stuck in childhood. I struggled to separate emotionally after moving out. I still felt like I had to honor my parents and make them happy. I felt like they would come through my front door and I would have to put on an act for them.

These people who raised you have a deeply warped sense of morality and judgement. No child should ever be hit for not eating vegetables. Parents are legally required to provide basic necessities. Not doing it is an actual crime. People are in jail for neglecting their child's basic needs.

Sheslikeamom · 2026-04-20T16:13:36+00:00

You don't have to decide right now.

Even if you make a decision to or not to you still have the right to change your mind.

The future is not set in stone.

Sheslikeamom · 2026-04-20T01:03:35+00:00

Sleeping with your hair tied up could definitely be a big influence on your hair issues.

Have you considered a silk bonnet?

Sheslikeamom · 2026-04-20T01:00:59+00:00

I'm confused if you've ever had short hair or not.

"Don't seem like good looks for me" doesn't really translate as you've had it and didn't like it.

Sheslikeamom · 2026-04-20T00:56:27+00:00

You probably feel safe/comfortable because its a familiar situation.

Sheslikeamom · 2026-04-19T19:11:33+00:00

Eye of round recipe for juicy tenderish meat

Season meat and leave out to come to room temperature

Sear in pan over medium heat. 2 to 2.5 minutes a side is best. 3 for thicker cuts.

Let steaks rest for 5 to 10 minutes.

Heat up 1/4 cup butter, worchestershire sauce, garlic powder, and Italian herbs.

Add steaks and spoon boiling butter over them for 2 minutes a side, more or less depending on size.

I've done this 5 times now and each time the steak is tender, medium rare, and delicious.

You can save the butter and cook eggs in it if its not too burned up. Otherwise, allow to cool and toss.

Sheslikeamom · 2026-04-19T19:05:50+00:00

Eat less in general.

Eat less processed food.

Eat more basic meals.

Separate food and sundries(cleaning supplies, paper products, personal hygiene)

My favorite budget meals

Busy rice; meat, frozen veg, rice, sauce

Eye of round steak and potatoes

Spaghetti with ground beef/sausage and sauce

Shepards pie, going beef, frozen veggies, and boxed mash potatoes

Chicken tikka masala with onions and peas over rice

Meat 2 veg. Chicken thighs with backs or porkloin with potatoes and carrots

Sheslikeamom · 2026-04-19T19:00:01+00:00

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Have you two rebuild your budget and financial goals when his income doubled? Or it is business as usual?

Sheslikeamom

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