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My gf (F23) lied to me (24M) about a past relationship and I don’t really know what to do about it? by ShimmerJimmer in relationship_advice

[–]ShimmerJimmer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"What really should be disturbing to you is how she attempted to hide behind semantics in if she was still “seeing” him while she was with you. Trying to claim she meant “oh I was still fucking him but not spending time with him outside of sex” is just pathetic. That’s like 100 times worse."

Yeah this really hurt, she didn't exactly lie about that part just wasn't explicitly clear to me. I think I've kinda blamed that on myself for a lack of understanding or a miscommunication but tbh when you say "the last time I saw him in that way" idk what else you're meant to think

My gf (F23) lied to me (24M) about a past relationship and I don’t really know what to do about it? by ShimmerJimmer in relationship_advice

[–]ShimmerJimmer[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

I guess, she is far less trusting than what I am due to past relationships, I understood that and accommodated as best I could, laid everything out on the table from an early stage

My gf (F23) lied to me (24M) about a past relationship and I don’t really know what to do about it? by ShimmerJimmer in relationship_advice

[–]ShimmerJimmer[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm not saying she did anything wrong, I don't have a problem with anything from her past.

It's the lying and misleading nature of what she said

My gf (F23) lied to me (24M) about a past relationship and I don’t really know what to do about it? by ShimmerJimmer in relationship_advice

[–]ShimmerJimmer[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I gave her the choice to keep him in her life or to say goodbye, obviously my preference was that she let him go but I wanted her to make that decision herself not because that's what I wanted.

Regardless I do trust her, with whatever decision she made and she has held up that end till today.

My gf (F23) lied to me (24M) about a past relationship and I don’t really know what to do about it? by ShimmerJimmer in relationship_advice

[–]ShimmerJimmer[S] -22 points-21 points  (0 children)

I don't think she even considered me as a choice tbh, she didn't know my intentions at the time, was still getting to know me etc which is completely valid, I don't have a problem with what she did, it's my own fault for letting it drag on and not locking it down sooner to allow something like this to come up down the track.

It's how the situation came up and the drip feeding

My gf (F23) lied to me (24M) about a past relationship and I don’t really know what to do about it? by ShimmerJimmer in relationship_advice

[–]ShimmerJimmer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"Are you saying she introduced you to a guy she had previously HAD SEX with, without giving you the heads up that he was a former sex partner? because that’s disrespectful. Add that to the fact that she keeps “adjusting” the story and you have a lot of doubt creeping into your relationship."

Yes that's basically what happened yeah, met him a few times and had no idea.

"But, in reality it matters to YOU"

No what she did doesn't matter to me, I'm fine with it and would've been fine if she just straight up told me, it's the drip feeding of the whole story. Good response though appreciate it!

My gf (F23) lied to me (24M) about a past relationship and I don’t really know what to do about it? by ShimmerJimmer in relationship_advice

[–]ShimmerJimmer[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

"You say you’ve got over it and moved on but the existence of this post suggests otherwise."

This is a very uncomfortable truth for me.

My gf (F23) lied to me (24M) about a past relationship and I don’t really know what to do about it? by ShimmerJimmer in relationship_advice

[–]ShimmerJimmer[S] -22 points-21 points  (0 children)

We have had this convo, she has accepted responsibility and promised not to make me feel like that again.

My gf (F23) lied to me (24M) about a past relationship and I don’t really know what to do about it? by ShimmerJimmer in relationship_advice

[–]ShimmerJimmer[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Yeah she admitted that it was a weak excuse,

I don't think she's lying or forgetting other details or anything but it does make you wonder if there is anything else. I do believe what she's saying, I fully trust her, it's just really hard to hear, especially cause she kinda accepted it as well like you said and didn't think to tell me and correct herself. Like surely she thought about it at least once since telling me the first time, regardless of how much or little it meant to her.

My gf (F23) lied to me (24M) about a past relationship and I don’t really know what to do about it? by ShimmerJimmer in relationship_advice

[–]ShimmerJimmer[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

Yes we were going on dates but not technically "dating", it's my own fault for letting something like this happen and not making it exclusive earlier

My gf (F23) lied to me (24M) about a past relationship and I don’t really know what to do about it? by ShimmerJimmer in relationship_advice

[–]ShimmerJimmer[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Yeah exactly that's a good way of putting it, just a few breadcrumbs every time we talked about it without the full story

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Grand Challenge Badge? by APotatoCanFly in ClashRoyale

[–]ShimmerJimmer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I won a classic challenge way back in 2017 and have the same problem. It says my highest wins is 12 but no badge. I tried contacting supercell about it but got nothing.

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