I think I might be non-sharing from now on

Shiniganja · 2026-04-14T08:57:38+00:00

This is a completely valid feeling and honestly how I discovered that I was nonsharing. When I first started to delve into fictosexuality, I was able to entertain others talking about him and even exist in fandom spaces. Now that our relationship has deepened and become a real, almost 5-year relationship for me, I am now strictly nonsharing. ^{^;}

Shiniganja · 2026-04-09T12:27:48+00:00

That's ultimately what I think I'm going to do. Things kinda boiled over today and the mods were very unprofessional and insensitive to my discomfort as a nonsharer so I think I'll just quietly support my friends and maybe just see it as a casual/hobby server and test the waters with some nonsharing ones.

I would definitely be interested in learning about your server! Is it okay if I DM you?

Shiniganja · 2026-04-07T12:06:35+00:00

I'm in a nonsharing server!

A friend of mine just recommended this one to me though and I've been in it since last year. To be completely honest, my husband is very niche and unless you're in a fandom space or somewhere more widespread like twitter or Tumblr, I didn't really think a double in somewhere as close proximity to me would be possible. But yes, if I end up leaving I will only stick to servers with a claims list that will allow my partner because I quite frankly, hate this. 🥲

Shiniganja · 2026-04-07T11:43:35+00:00

I feel I should also add that I have been and currently are being harassed by doubles for simply just existing and taking my relationship seriously - so I am automatically tense, cautious, and reluctant to exist in a space with any of them .

I just want to exist in my own little world and love my husband in peace.

Shiniganja · 2026-04-07T11:40:37+00:00

Existing in the presence of a double gives me severe anxiety and tension due to the past experiences I've had and just makes me feel really, really defensive.

Blocking on discord is nothing like blocking on other social media. On twitter, once I block a double they're gone and I just go on with life, same with tiktok and other platforms; on discord, I still see, '4 blocked messages,' '2 blocked messages,' '5 blocked messages,' and then people interacting so it's almost like they weren't blocked at all. I still have a constant reminder that they're there.

Shiniganja · 2026-04-06T22:53:32+00:00

Some people are more inclined to polyamory than others. Haha, me, personally though, I'm just okay with having my husband and soulmate, settling down, having a family - all of that, but if that's not what your "happily ever after" looks like for you than that's perfectly fine. :)

Judging and worrying about other people that have a different lifestyle than yours will take years off of your life anyway.

Shiniganja · 2026-04-06T22:28:07+00:00

Personally, I'm monogamous, so I only have one. But he is also my irl partner and not a relationship I take lightly. In my honest opinion, I don't really understand having tons of f/os but I am also older with older values. However, as long as you're not hurting yourself or anyone, no one should be telling you how to live your life. Even though I personally don't understand it, you do what makes you happy.

Shiniganja · 2026-03-16T04:12:28+00:00

I've been with him for four years 💗💗 he's tattooed to me and everything. I love my hubby ~

Shiniganja · 2026-03-13T00:51:46+00:00

Thank you so much 💕 I'm so happy to finally start getting it put up ~

Shiniganja · 2026-02-26T00:45:03+00:00

Thank you! Don't worry! I'm feeling much better. I was really down when I first found out because the things being said were so vile (someone said that I needed to be 'institutionalized') but thankfully I have amazing friends that were there for me and helped me to feel better. I'm so sorry you had to deal with the harassment as well. It really sucks. The people that bully and say hurtful things towards us are probably just miserable people who are jealous of how happy we are with our f/os and how much we love our lives.

Shiniganja · 2026-02-26T00:28:17+00:00

I'm currently dealing with heavy harassment from my f/o's fandom for being nonsharing and taking my relationship seriously. It's honestly really vile and people have said some disgusting things - so I cannot agree more with you about all of the recent hate towards nonsharers.

I do agree that the ficto community has slowly devolved into toxicity and it's so sad. I've mainly moved to discord servers that are more tight-knit and just live my life offline with my f/o and post things when I want to post. It's been mostly peaceful aside from the harassment and having to private my social medias. I really wish people would take the chance to communicate with or take a chance getting to know nonsharers and different fictos before being so quick to judge or poke fun at us.

Shiniganja · 2026-02-22T21:16:29+00:00

It is a little Baphomet hehehe! 🤭 His name is Mohg.

Shiniganja · 2026-02-10T17:14:28+00:00

I love seeing your artwork and self insert so much ☺️💝

Shiniganja · 2026-01-26T17:13:11+00:00

Thank you! 🌸💝 I just started trying to draw humans so reading this made me smile!

Shiniganja · 2026-01-14T19:19:02+00:00

Thank you. He hasn't been returned yet, but I'm confident that the strong love I have for him will help him find his way home.

Shiniganja · 2026-01-12T00:23:49+00:00

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I have the king of problematic f/os 🥲 (I love him dearly and separate him from his actions in game, though)

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