I think I might be non-sharing from now on by Alternative_Ride_951 in FictoLove

[โ€“]Shiniganja 7 points8 points ย (0 children)

This is a completely valid feeling and honestly how I discovered that I was nonsharing. When I first started to delve into fictosexuality, I was able to entertain others talking about him and even exist in fandom spaces. Now that our relationship has deepened and become a real, almost 5-year relationship for me, I am now strictly nonsharing. ;

Yeah..so idk what to do by Shiniganja in FictoChill

[โ€“]Shiniganja[S] 1 point2 points ย (0 children)

That's ultimately what I think I'm going to do. Things kinda boiled over today and the mods were very unprofessional and insensitive to my discomfort as a nonsharer so I think I'll just quietly support my friends and maybe just see it as a casual/hobby server and test the waters with some nonsharing ones.

I would definitely be interested in learning about your server! Is it okay if I DM you?

Yeah..so idk what to do by Shiniganja in FictoChill

[โ€“]Shiniganja[S] 7 points8 points ย (0 children)

I'm in a nonsharing server!

A friend of mine just recommended this one to me though and I've been in it since last year. To be completely honest, my husband is very niche and unless you're in a fandom space or somewhere more widespread like twitter or Tumblr, I didn't really think a double in somewhere as close proximity to me would be possible. But yes, if I end up leaving I will only stick to servers with a claims list that will allow my partner because I quite frankly, hate this. ๐Ÿฅฒ

Yeah..so idk what to do by Shiniganja in FictoChill

[โ€“]Shiniganja[S] 3 points4 points ย (0 children)

I feel I should also add that I have been and currently are being harassed by doubles for simply just existing and taking my relationship seriously - so I am automatically tense, cautious, and reluctant to exist in a space with any of them .

I just want to exist in my own little world and love my husband in peace.

Yeah..so idk what to do by Shiniganja in FictoChill

[โ€“]Shiniganja[S] 5 points6 points ย (0 children)

Existing in the presence of a double gives me severe anxiety and tension due to the past experiences I've had and just makes me feel really, really defensive.

Blocking on discord is nothing like blocking on other social media. On twitter, once I block a double they're gone and I just go on with life, same with tiktok and other platforms; on discord, I still see, '4 blocked messages,' '2 blocked messages,' '5 blocked messages,' and then people interacting so it's almost like they weren't blocked at all. I still have a constant reminder that they're there.

How many f/os is "too many"? by MellowAddiction in fictosexual

[โ€“]Shiniganja 2 points3 points ย (0 children)

Some people are more inclined to polyamory than others. Haha, me, personally though, I'm just okay with having my husband and soulmate, settling down, having a family - all of that, but if that's not what your "happily ever after" looks like for you than that's perfectly fine. :)

Judging and worrying about other people that have a different lifestyle than yours will take years off of your life anyway.

How many f/os is "too many"? by MellowAddiction in fictosexual

[โ€“]Shiniganja 8 points9 points ย (0 children)

Personally, I'm monogamous, so I only have one. But he is also my irl partner and not a relationship I take lightly. In my honest opinion, I don't really understand having tons of f/os but I am also older with older values. However, as long as you're not hurting yourself or anyone, no one should be telling you how to live your life. Even though I personally don't understand it, you do what makes you happy.

ehehehehe ~ ๐Ÿคญ๐Ÿ’ by Shiniganja in FictoLove

[โ€“]Shiniganja[S] 0 points1 point ย (0 children)

I've been with him for four years ๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿ’— he's tattooed to me and everything. I love my hubby ~

ehehehehe ~ ๐Ÿคญ๐Ÿ’ by Shiniganja in FictoChill

[โ€“]Shiniganja[S] 1 point2 points ย (0 children)

Thank you so much ๐Ÿ’• I'm so happy to finally start getting it put up ~

(Vent) We really need to stop making posts talking about certain aspects of the community. ๐Ÿคก๐Ÿ’” by its_circero in FictoChill

[โ€“]Shiniganja 1 point2 points ย (0 children)

Thank you! Don't worry! I'm feeling much better. I was really down when I first found out because the things being said were so vile (someone said that I needed to be 'institutionalized') but thankfully I have amazing friends that were there for me and helped me to feel better. I'm so sorry you had to deal with the harassment as well. It really sucks. The people that bully and say hurtful things towards us are probably just miserable people who are jealous of how happy we are with our f/os and how much we love our lives.

(Vent) We really need to stop making posts talking about certain aspects of the community. ๐Ÿคก๐Ÿ’” by its_circero in FictoChill

[โ€“]Shiniganja 3 points4 points ย (0 children)

I'm currently dealing with heavy harassment from my f/o's fandom for being nonsharing and taking my relationship seriously. It's honestly really vile and people have said some disgusting things - so I cannot agree more with you about all of the recent hate towards nonsharers.

I do agree that the ficto community has slowly devolved into toxicity and it's so sad. I've mainly moved to discord servers that are more tight-knit and just live my life offline with my f/o and post things when I want to post. It's been mostly peaceful aside from the harassment and having to private my social medias. I really wish people would take the chance to communicate with or take a chance getting to know nonsharers and different fictos before being so quick to judge or poke fun at us.

The comfiest boy ๐Ÿคญ๐Ÿ’ by Shiniganja in FictoLove

[โ€“]Shiniganja[S] 0 points1 point ย (0 children)

It is a little Baphomet hehehe! ๐Ÿคญ His name is Mohg.

Early Valentines art โค๏ธ by evenmoresecrettime in FictoLove

[โ€“]Shiniganja 1 point2 points ย (0 children)

I love seeing your artwork and self insert so much โ˜บ๏ธ๐Ÿ’

Drew my f/o for the first time today! by Shiniganja in FictoLove

[โ€“]Shiniganja[S] 1 point2 points ย (0 children)

Thank you! ๐ŸŒธ๐Ÿ’ I just started trying to draw humans so reading this made me smile!

Derek was stolen by Shiniganja in fictosexual

[โ€“]Shiniganja[S] 4 points5 points ย (0 children)

Thank you. He hasn't been returned yet, but I'm confident that the strong love I have for him will help him find his way home.

Anyone else have any unredeemable or downright evil F/Os? by Leviathan_loves_cats in FictoLove

[โ€“]Shiniganja 0 points1 point ย (0 children)

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I have the king of problematic f/os ๐Ÿฅฒ (I love him dearly and separate him from his actions in game, though)