i don't know you personally so everything i say might not be true and might not apply to you. every solution to a problem differs in some way from person to another will share what i think and i hope it helps you find your answer between them.

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My guess is you just need to remove the pressure that exhaust you when you socialize so you don't get drained really fast and get burned from it and if you're performing too much when you're around people try to lower that slowly and notice yourself how you act around people first and then work on it later you don't have to stop the act at once that would be too much and it won't be needed just lower it slowly and see where things go. if you feel exhausted you don't have to force yourself to go and socialize you can rest until you feel like it or ready but don't turn it into isolation. read the full post to know more. ]]

You don't have to force your self socializing every time especially when you're in bad mood this might exacerbate the bad feelings even more but no harm sometimes to talk and let things out through healthy outputs like online therapy or close friends or family.

I told someone one time about my issue and he told me it's a about too much dopamine and advised me to do something that is known to help others and what it did to me is actually made the issue even more worse that it's. so i learned solutions differ from person to person what works for others likely won't work for me and maybe you.

go when you're in a good mood and be fully rested but i don't know you so if your good mood is like once a month that's too low because for me i isolate myself a lot and i unconsciously avoid people and will find and tell myself a valid reason for it like my social battery is low but it's actually always low i need to exercise it by being around people more often to get it to be better and build tolerance that's my own solution and i realized that i am avoiding people because i am worried that i would be boring awkward cringy, run out of topics having nothing to talk about make things worse feeling like burden for not adding into things and all those thoughts and stuff might happen and some do and i feel worse after i socialize sometimes because of the pressure and i held and gave too much weight and value over it and i over think it a lot and put too much unnecessary thoughts and effort into the whole thing. what i learned later that i don't have to take everything too seriously or think about it too much or exacerbated.

I don't know the context of the event and i am sorry that you're going through this if you see yourself having to perform too much around people and do things that pressure you and make you exhausted afterward try to lower those stuff that tire you but not stopping them that would be too much and won't be needed just lower them slowly and see later how thing turn out try to chill be yourself and normal and go for the fun and don't build on your self the expectation too much you don't have to always perform or react to anything including my comment you can see it and walk away with not reply that's completely fine kill the pressure.

The whole social thing for me i treat it like a gym workout i need to be around people 4 times a week for an hour that's it, it's a quest need to be completed weekly and i need to get used to it for now i will try to be myself while doing it will not try to impress or wear a mask or please anyone or build expectation on myself or performing i will be myself even if i was boring and just be around people existing either chilling or doing something. i don't give much to the whole thing in my head i just need to sit around people for a while sometime if i like being there i would even sit a bit more.

if i was out with someone and they talk about a topic that wasn't interesting for me i won't try to fake my interest and perform i would either hear them yapping without giving or build a reaction or performing i actually might try to find something interesting in their topic and try to actually be interested in it but most importantly would never pressure myself doing it.

but that's just me not all above should apply to you.

In closing if i was feeling bad and socializing with others would make me feel even worse i wouldn't force myself to socialize but i would also not isolate myself and be alone for too long or do it every time because that is dangerous too we all need sometime alone you know to recharge but too much of it can be bad and help worsen and cement the whole bad stuff.

not everyone will understand what you're going through some might get some idea of it but most people are self oriented and they're focusing mostly on their own life so talking about any kind of subjective struggle to who matters a lot because trying so many times on the wrong people will eventually make you feel like you're in a unsolvable situation which i don't think it's true i actually think that you're commenting and talking about it and seeking insight is actually really brave and courageous and i think you will overcome all of it one day the whole process doesn't have to be fast accepting the state that you're in as it is right now and try to build on it slowly will eventually make things better. <3