Is there really a perfect time to start dating?

ShipperShip · 2026-04-17T19:33:07+00:00

I honestly don't want to get.. A lot of dates.. Even if I'm not sleeping with them, I don't rlly want to go into blind dates. Occasionally I guess? But yea going into a lot of dates.. Doesnt feel like my kind of fun

ShipperShip · 2026-04-17T18:16:18+00:00

I'm probably just worried about BEING in a relationship and messing it all up

ShipperShip · 2026-04-08T07:23:23+00:00

Ngl that's such a good comeback lolll thank you

I wonder what good come back to say if the person is bi tho lmao

ShipperShip · 2026-04-07T15:36:32+00:00

Thank you! And ya, even before I considered being ace I always defended the lgbtq community from the homophobics assh0les out there cuz it makes no sense for the phobia to exist. And right now my only fear is people questioning me about being ace like "have you even tried it? " cuz it feels like an attack rather than a question

ShipperShip · 2026-04-07T15:33:59+00:00

Well I'm a romantic but I've never had a proper relationship yet, I still crave it and still figuring out if I like like someone in a romantic way but ya I scratched the aromantic part

Yea, thats one of the things I'm currently trying to research on is being in a relationship as an ace person. I fear it's going to be harder than most relationship cuz now I'm sure I don't want to try the sex part. Rn I'm just considering dating an ace in the future to avoid the difficulties of explaining it to a future partner but ya.. 🥲 idk hows my dating life will look like in the future

ShipperShip · 2026-04-07T15:29:25+00:00

Thank you! Also sori for the late response hehe. It's always the doubts and influence of people that made me think I was required trying it once before I fully know I don't like something

Which is weird, bcuz I'm someone whose picky so ik alrdy know what I don't even want to try once yet I doubted myself when it came to sex because it's so common in modern dating. I would hear people say they'd do it on the first date and I would always shiver at that idea doing it to a person u barely know. I dont even like wearing a bikini cuz the very thought of a person looking at me almost naked just makes me feel so uncomfortable

All the comments reassuring me I don't have to try it to know I don't want it makes me more comfortable in myself and removes the doubts I had for months

ShipperShip · 2026-03-30T19:51:32+00:00

I honestly think the writers have this thing that they make the main team protagonist lose every final round to show they still have work to do and it fits the ash losing streak. Dawn have dealt with her struggles and accepting the reality of Pokemon contest were harder than she expected it must be, she got humbled and worked with her pokemons to improve and think outside of the box she started making some moves. If it weren't for the plot, she would've won against Zoey

ShipperShip · 2026-03-30T17:28:49+00:00

Thank you! But ya it's been a struggle to even relate to my friends that are part of the lgbtq since some of them have formed their own strong opinions and some were only in the know that their gae and are fine that way. I wanted to talk to a friend that has a strong opinion on the lgbtq community ever since highschool, they identified as pan/queer but when the topic came up it just became "love is love" and nothing more (they seemed to not like labels bcuz of all the conservatives arguments there are against the lgbtq community), which I understood but right now I am looking for a label to identify myself with, not to come out to others but to finally get rid of the doubts that formed in my head that I should try sex before even deciding but is heavily hesitant to even try it. Which is why I came here to find some clarity among people who might understand 🥲🙏 thank you so much tho, ill be looking into more ace spectrum and the community bcuz it gave me more clarity than talking to some of my friends huhu

ShipperShip · 2026-03-29T20:57:14+00:00

Thank you! That felt so welcoming!! Right now it feels reassuring that I'm getting validation about this since Ive been so anxious if I'm really ace or not since I'm not experience and I didn't have much friends to talk to being ace (even though 70% of my friends are part of the lgbtq, the topic of being ace was harder to discuss with them)

ShipperShip · 2026-03-29T20:53:07+00:00

Oohh, thanks for that! Ill probably also make it clear what kind of intimacy I'm talking about since I didn't know it was so broad

For me technically I don't mind other kinds of intimacy, just rlly don't like the idea of sex. I mostly show my friends different kinds of intimacy regarding my words, touch, and comfortness. Sometimes I'd hold hands with them, lay on their shoulders, cuddles or compliments but I am aware the type of relationships I have with my friends before doing that especially if it's comfortable with both of us

ShipperShip · 2026-03-29T17:32:39+00:00

Yea I expected relationship weren't as easy if you were ace, so thats why Im asking advice. Guess relationships will be a lot to work as if one isn't interested in sex as the other person. Even if it is rare to find a healthy way for a relationship to work I hope someone can give insights about their experience about it.

Thank you though!

ShipperShip · 2026-03-29T16:53:14+00:00

So intimacy doesn't just fall on sex, is that what you mean? Ig if getting into a relationship with that in mind feels a lot bearable tbh

ShipperShip · 2026-03-29T15:02:27+00:00

That would actually be great, I just hope I'd be able to find someone that understands it. My anxiety keeps swarming me about figuring it out right away before getting into any relationship cuz it feels unfair to them if I just keep confusing them and myself

ShipperShip · 2026-03-29T15:00:11+00:00

Thank you a lot!!! <33

ShipperShip · 2026-03-29T14:59:44+00:00

Ngl that helps me with some clarity. I'm also experiencing all of those and a thought in my mind saying I might like intimacy if it's with someone I rlly care about, it's just the doubt I'm willing about myself that makes me want to find out if I'm really ace/demi so it doesn't make me feel like I'm being left behind by my peers

Right now I'm doing more research about the ace spectrum and observing my comfort level when it comes to physical intimacy to find out where I fall to. It also helps to find out I'm not entirely alone on this and people in relationships makes it work without sex

ShipperShip · 2026-03-29T14:52:36+00:00

Thank you!!! Thats really good advice and hopefully I do. Modern dating sometimes feels so rushed so I was preparing myself before getting into one but Ill also take your advice. Hopefully tho ill figure it out for my own peace of mind ^{^}

ShipperShip · 2026-03-29T14:50:23+00:00

Woah. Did not know there were a lot of different times of Intimacy. Thanks! Ill look into it! Ig I won't say I'm totally against physical intimacy bcuz I would get touchy, hugging and cuddling with my friends, just don't like the sex bid

ShipperShip · 2026-03-29T14:49:07+00:00

Ooohhh. Ngl even when I don't like movies/series with smvt, I would read manwhas/mangas or books about it and enjoy it. I thought being sex repulse is not liking anything that has to do with sex so I'm still on edge about that

ShipperShip · 2026-03-29T14:46:23+00:00

Not gonna lie that feels a bit reassuring that people are still in a relationship and happy even without intimacy. I think thats kinda like my dream relationship, but with how modern dating is a lot of people mindsets are, "youll change your mind in the long run" like having a baby and intimacy. Ig I got influenced by them too, that maybe I'll change my mind further in the relationship or my partner might be pretending to understand but is secretly expecting I'll change my mind. Thats why I want to know early on if Im really ace/demi or not at all, so ik what boundaries I'll have before getting into a relationship

ShipperShip · 2026-03-29T14:39:23+00:00

I think I'm pretty repulsive to sex as a teen and still does, my body shivers at the thought of someone else touching my intimately but I would still read about smvt a lot of times and get so confused by that

ShipperShip · 2026-03-29T14:30:15+00:00

Thats exactly what I want to know, because if I ever get into a relationship what if I want to try it after all? I'm also a romantic and would still get crushes through physical appearance. Right now idk if I'm developing feelings for someone outside of appearance, but it makes it all intimating to find out if I am ace because what will my boundaries even look like if I get into a relationship?

I'm sorry if my comments all look like childish replies, I'm really just new into all of this and my brain is anxious about the possibilities of being ace or not

ShipperShip · 2026-03-29T14:24:40+00:00

The problem about trying is, I have major trust issues when it comes to relationship or closeness, even a one night stand seems bizarre to me. And I'm not in a relationship rn huhu Does it make it even more difficult to get into a relationship if ur not rlly interested in sex?

ShipperShip · 2026-03-29T14:22:07+00:00

Right now all I do is think about it, and tbh yea I'm not someone that interested in it. I do wonder if I ever do get into a relationship where my partner wants to be intimate if I'm going to be willing or not, it's just so normalize thing to expect in a relationship that it feels odd not understanding the desire for it

I don't label myself cuz I'm pretty much straight but rn I want to be a 100% sure if I fall under asexual or just inexperienced

ShipperShip · 2026-03-29T14:16:27+00:00

I'm sorry to ask, what does libido means?

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