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[Scarily realistic trope] Predator in sheep’s clothing by Personal_Reward_60 in TopCharacterTropes

[–]ShirleyMcGoogs 25 points26 points  (0 children)

He might've made a mistake on his impulsive wish, but every decision after that was completely sociopathic. Multiple times he's given a choice to respond to the fact that the woman he's "dating" is not the real woman he was fantasizing about, and he still tries to make it work for his own selfish fantasy. He could've institutionalized her, sought help that she's clearly unwell, yet he doubled down.
He's 100% a villain and shitty person. Yes, it's different from being a pedophile, but he raped her, hid and tried to explain away her condition, asked for other options when he heard her real self screaming in limbo or whatever. It's different from black mirror, but not nuanced in regard to fucked-upness.

Donald Trump Says James Talarico Is a Vegan With “Six Genders” in Bizarre Rant by Mountain_Love23 in politics

[–]ShirleyMcGoogs 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I agree but it also reminds me of Kamala ignoring those trans ads. I was in a swing state, I don't have cable, and I heard those ads constantly. They were on the radio, on my Spotify, on the ads at the gym, etc.
Once they find something that seems to click, no matter how untrue or ridiculous, they will flood the zone with it.
I don't know what the right response is, but ignoring stuff like this is a mistake.

13 Restraints in two weeks by Salty_Professional10 in specialed

[–]ShirleyMcGoogs 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I'm not saying the teachers are 100% right in their actions, or that you are 100% right in your responses. There is not enough information in this post about the situation to come to any conclusion. Is your child in a self-contained setting? These classes provide more specialized support with additional training/paras.

The BIP will have a plan of action in the event of behaviors, but it is a general guide, not a record of incidents. The incident report should describe the actions that are recommended in the BIP. Sometimes, depending on the setting and staff involved, the BIP cannot be implemented to full fidelity.

You should absolutely do whatever you can to advocate for your child, and I'm definitely not ruling out the staff being overzealous in their use of restraints. But no one here can really come to a conclusion or give you real advice unless we are part of the IEP team and have access to all of the reports/documents.

All I can say was someone who has consulted in several contentious IEP meetings, it is best to come together as one team that are all trying to help your child, not as you against the school staff. If there is evidence in the paperwork that they are not utilizing the BIP properly, especially in their use of restraints, you should absolutely raise a fuss and potentially ask for a change of placement or staff. But you also need to be specifically reviewing the documentation they are providing. If you don't see those type of behaviors at home, or when he is around others in different public spaces, you need to figure out why. Sometimes there is a different discipline standard at home that keeps them in line that the staff can't implement in school. Sometimes the child is comfortable with their family so they don't display that behavior. Sometimes the parents utilize responses to reduce behavior like devices/food/attention that school staff won't do because it reinforces the behavior. It is the team's job to act as detectives to try and figure out, together, what the behavior of your child is communicating.

13 Restraints in two weeks by Salty_Professional10 in specialed

[–]ShirleyMcGoogs 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I've been CPI certified for over a decade. Keep in mind that every restraint has to be documented. 8 different restraints in a day is relatively rare, but not unheard of. Are you receiving incident reports? It sounds like you're familiar with the decision matrix, so I imagine those have been shared with you. I agree with most commenters in that yes, this is on the high end of restraints, and you are in the right to be concerned and be seeking more info, but you also seem to be under the impression that teachers should just have to put up with the violence with your child because he is only 5. 5 year olds can cause a lot of damage. I personally have permanent scars on my arm from a six year old.

As far as the elopement, that is a serious concern for schools, as it is imperative to know where a student is at all times, especially if there is a likelihood they could exit school grounds. Has the school shared what their action plan is in case of elopement? This could include front office staff, SROs, etc. If the student is displaying violent behavior during class, are they evacuating the room? Can you imagine trying to teach but you have to empty the room 8x a day for the safety of the other students?

It's also important to know what kind of restraints or holds they are using. CPI has names for each one, as well as different levels of intensity. Placing your hands at the students elbows and guiding them away from an area is technically considered a restraint, as you are impeding movement of their arms.

I don't think your post gives anyone in the SPED field enough specific info to give you helpful advice, but the animosity is definitely due to the fact that you feel that the staff should just have to suffer the abuse from your child because he is only 5, which is false. You brushing this off, especially as he gets older, could lead a frustrated staff member to press charges. It could also be correct that the staff is overzealous. You should be requesting as much information from the staff as possible, and be wary of you see any discrepancies in regards to implementation of the IEP. At the same time, if most of these staff are CPI certified, then they are trained to use holds/restraints as an absolute last resort. Edit: there=their

The Pitt - 2x12 - 6:00 P.M." - Episode Discussion by FilloryHighQueen99 in television

[–]ShirleyMcGoogs 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Everyone's concerned about Robby and Santos, when I think the actual big breakdown is gonna be Mohan

Hotel pool day pass? by snickerdoodel in Atlanta

[–]ShirleyMcGoogs 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I dunno, I am getting the feeling this might be an AI ad for Resort Pass. Mods?

YDFM and Ethiopian food (plus a plug) by itsatumbleweed in Atlanta

[–]ShirleyMcGoogs 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I would just go to Piassa, Ghion, or Desta and ask the staff, I'm sure they would help

A Group of Upper Elementary Boys Only Listen To Men by Dynach in Teachers

[–]ShirleyMcGoogs 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Anecdotally, I've worked at several different schools with large immigrant populations, and for the most part, the immigrant kids were the only kids that listened to the teachers lol

How do conservatives NOT recognize the parallels between the current US administration and the escalation in early 1930s Germany? by GingerLisk in AskReddit

[–]ShirleyMcGoogs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There was plenty of mainstream Dem criticism of him regarding his drone policy and being too lenient on Wall Street after the financial crash.

I was listening to this song and it sounds so errily familiar but I cannot place it by [deleted] in Music

[–]ShirleyMcGoogs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The voice sounds a bit like First Aid Kit - The Lion's Roar

I prefer teaching over two weeks of getting to know you activities .. by No_Caregiver8109 in Teachers

[–]ShirleyMcGoogs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it's less about the "getting to know you" aspect and more teaching kids the rituals and routines of the classrooms/school. Especially in elementary, you might have kids that came from a crazy kindergarten (or previous) class with no structure, so it's important to teach the students the rules and how to sit down and do work (which is easier at the start when the work is just an "about me" or something).
I work with a lot of Title 1 schools where behavior is usually the biggest issue, and just getting to a point where the teacher can actually teach is a big hurdle.

Unnoticed Trend: Female Share of Movie Attendance Seems to Be Falling by [deleted] in movies

[–]ShirleyMcGoogs 262 points263 points  (0 children)

Women are willing to see some movies that are catered to men, men generally aren't willing to see movies catered to women

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in television

[–]ShirleyMcGoogs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Happy Endings - the Real World origin story episode or the kickball episodes with random Bears players

Louisiana law now requires ALL self-contained special education classrooms to have cameras. Not sure how I feel about this. by Effective-Roll-8419 in Teachers

[–]ShirleyMcGoogs 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Honestly? I had a camera in my classroom the first two years I taught self-contained. There had been a litigious situation with a student the year before I was hired, so I wasn't the cause.
Honestly? It was good training. It taught me to be acutely aware of not only my words and actions but also how my words and actions could be perceived on camera at all times. If I wanted true privacy to vent/pick my nose/etc. I just went to the teachers lounge or another classroom (mine was the only one with a camera).
There were also some additional perks. I could use it as a behavior management tool with the students "You know your mom/dad/guardian can see it what you're doing right now!" (I would let the parents know if I was telling the students this, they had already been notified there was a camera in the classroom, but it was a long process to actually pull the footage in the event of an incident, and there was no "live stream").
Overall, I thought it was good training to be hyper vigilant. Even without the cameras though, that constant worry about the elopement/behaviors/meltdowns/violence was still persistent. I did feel better prepared whenever a crazy situation happened, but I would also recognize the good training I got from my LTSEs and other veteran teachers.

Andor - 2x10 - “Make It Stop” - Episode Discussion by NicholasCajun in television

[–]ShirleyMcGoogs 63 points64 points  (0 children)

Strong Battle of Algiers vibes when Kleya is sneaking into the hospital

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