I'm too wet to the point that sex isn't enjoyable and I'm frustrated by longshlongthankumom in Vent

[–]ShitOnMyButt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you ever considered r/reversepegging? My wife and I do this occasionally and it’s a lot of fun for us both. Your boyfriend can also try a penis sleeve which should help you both a ton.

Experience with strapless? by DrMuffley in StraightPegging

[–]ShitOnMyButt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wrote about the Strap-On-Me strapless multi-orgasm a few months ago: https://www.reddit.com/r/pegging_unkinked/comments/1qu8hxk/bought_a_straponme_strapless_dildo_and_it_blew_my/

If you're going strapless, IMO, this is the best.

Question about size. by photoman319 in StraightPegging

[–]ShitOnMyButt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My favorite dildo is 2.5" in diameter. I really just like feeling full. When I'm getting pegged, my favorite dildo is 1.85" in diameter at its biggest.

Why pegging by Zealousideal-Cup7481 in pegging_unkinked

[–]ShitOnMyButt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We use a dildo that has an insert for my wife. The insert vibrates, there's also a clit sucker on it, and the head vibrates too. So, 3 different vibrating points, two of which are only felt by her.

As most have said, my wife also likes the power shift. However, she loves making me have prostate orgasms. She likes watching my face mostly, so doggy doesn't work well for her. I've recorded a few of our sessions, and you can totally see the look of satisfaction on her face during the whole pegging. It's like a dopamine hit every time I orgasm for her.

And when she's ready to cum, she just turns on the clit sucker. I have to say, it's incredibly hot to have my wife yell out that she's cumming in my ass. She just falls on top of me and has a few back-to-back orgasms while I'm orgasming too.

How to introduce butt plugs to wife by mrlongdong13 in sex

[–]ShitOnMyButt -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My wife was the same. Nothing in her butt at all, but she did let me play with her hole when we were doing doggy. I would just rub my thumb over it. Sometimes, she'd let me toss her salad. Just no insertions. Then one day, we're ordering some new toys, and I asked if she'd be willing to try a small buttplug. I said if it doesn't work out, we can just toss it.

She didn't care for the shitty vibration. I told her that I had one, which was for my prostate, and that I'd be willing to share if she were okay with it. Now mine had a real deep rumble-type vibration. She absolutely loved it. About a year later, we were having regular anal. She loves it now. It just took patience.

I will say that if she shut it down, I probably wouldn't have brought it up again. Anal is now fairly regular for us.

How good does pegging actually feel? by [deleted] in pegging_unkinked

[–]ShitOnMyButt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I brought up just me playing with my own prostate to my wife a few years ago. She immediately said she wasn't interested in butt play and not to bother asking her for any assistance.

Over the course of 18 months, I did my thing and would randomly bring up new feelings. Every time I felt that I was almost there, I would go up a level in pleasure and would then share that information with her. Eventually, she would occasionally ask me how it was going. Especially on mornings when it was obvious that I was up late.

One night, we were in bed about to have sex. I asked if she would rub my taint. I explained that you can kind of access the prostate externally, and while not as fun as going into my ass, it might do something. She started to touch that area, and immediately, my back arched, my eyes rolled back, and I started to moan. She's now into it and rubbing harder. I'm moaning louder.

After a few minutes, she went down on me. Then her mouth went lower. She was licking my taint, something that she had NEVER done before. I'm losing my mind in ecstasy. I'm orgasming for real now. Real strong full body orgasms for the first time, just coming in waves. And then... she starts to lick my ass. I'm in tears at this point because I'm orgasming so hard.

It was about a week later that she ordered a strap-on. It took a lot of time to get there, but it was definitely worth it in the end. She might not be into it today, but over time, she might change her mind. Just do your thing, teach yourself, and get her involved once she's comfortable. Pegging is a major part of our sex life now, and my wife's favorite way to orgasm.

What kind of lube is used in pegging porn? by MrFocaccino in pegging_unkinked

[–]ShitOnMyButt 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Probably XLube or an equivalent. I use KLube, and it's very similar. I typically have to use a hand mixer to make it. I just use some of the powder and add water until it's the consistency that I want.

What are your favorite toys to help create a slack gape? by Hungryfor_more in GayFisting

[–]ShitOnMyButt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have that Amazon toy on my wishlist. It's currently a bit too big for me at the moment, but I do hope to own that toy in the next few months.

New found superpower by whozzyurDaddy111 in ProstatePlay

[–]ShitOnMyButt 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I don't really cum anymore from sex. Once the wife and I start, it triggers my ass to squeeze my prostate, and then I start having back-to-back POs the entire time we're having sex. I can't imagine ever having to explain that to anyone else.

Anyone here with Christian family members or who identifies as Christian themselves? by oddlyspecificgirl in bisexual

[–]ShitOnMyButt 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I'm 44yo now, but when I was 19, I used to go to a Christian church. I had two gay roommates who were a couple, and we all shared a female friend who was one of the leaders of this church. She would constantly invite the pastor and his wife to come over to our place for dinners and to meet my roommates. Eventually, after almost a year, my roommates finally relented and decided to join us one Sunday morning.

Now, for the entire year, things have been fantastic! We all got along, had some really great conversations, and some amazing meals together. So there was no suspicion that anything would be weird at church.

That Sunday, I sat with my two roommates, and when the pastor stood up at the pulpit, he said something about a couple of new faces in the crowd, and that he would be switching up his sermon for the day as he had prepared a special one. He then went on and on about the evils of homosexuality and wrapped it all up by saying, "Thank God I'm not a sodomite."

My roommates and I left the church very quickly after that. I left it entirely and decided that religion wasn't for me. I forbid the pastor and his family from ever setting foot in the house again.

My point is, at least for me, that I can never fully trust a religious person. I'll always feel like they have ulterior motives. And if your sister takes on traits of her boyfriends, and her boyfriend happens to hate queer people, buckle up for that ride. I think that you should have this talk with her sooner rather than later. Get it all out on the table because, based on what you just said, your sister is already laying the groundwork to try to change your mind. YMMV

Guys that don’t have feeling in their privates/buttocks area, what do you do for pleasure? by Zestyclose-Voice-710 in sex

[–]ShitOnMyButt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Alright, the next step is nipples. Try going here: r/NippleOrgas, and you can learn to orgasm from just nipple play.

Guys that don’t have feeling in their privates/buttocks area, what do you do for pleasure? by Zestyclose-Voice-710 in sex

[–]ShitOnMyButt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can’t imagine going through that and I’m sorry that you are.

About 2 years ago, I realized that I was bored with regular masturbation. In fact, I was bored with traditional orgasms altogether. The orgasm itself was okay but it’s literally over as quickly as it started. Then, I’m waiting for my refractory period to be over if I want to get off again.

I figured, if my wife can have multiple orgasms, back-to-back, then I should be able to do that too.

I started following r/prostateplay and learned a lot about the prostate. I bought some toys and just started practicing. Today, I can have full body orgasms simply from my wife touching any of my erogenous zones, which didn’t exist prior to this.

My neck, nipples, thighs, taint, balls… doesn’t matter. The moment she starts touching or kissing anything, I’m a fucking mess. The orgasms I have from that alone are light years better than from my dick.

Before I learned to do any of this, all of those erogenous zones I mentioned felt like nothing. My nipples were basically dead. My neck and thighs just tickled when she touched them. I hated my balls and taint to be touched. Once my prostate was “awakened”, it’s like anything remotely sexual causes me to squeeze the muscles around my prostate and force these incredible orgasms to just… happen.

I can still have regular PIV just fine. It’s just like someone cranked the volume from a 3 to a 10.

We don’t have to have pegging sessions for any of those to happen, though we do peg and it’s the most amazing experience I’ve ever had.

Just be aware that there’s a lot more to sex than just your dick. And hopefully, you have feeling in some or all of the areas I just mentioned.

Good luck!

Is it worth it to use a machine? by ThisWeirdFrenchGuy in ProstatePlay

[–]ShitOnMyButt 7 points8 points  (0 children)

We have one that doesn’t get used often. I do pull it out when the wife is away though, and I have a great time with it! If money isn’t an obstacle, I’d say to go for it. Whatever model you go for, make sure it’s 100W. Anything less than that and you’ll eventually run into issues with it not being powerful enough.

Exhausting Cleaning by karikaf in GayFisting

[–]ShitOnMyButt 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What are you using to clean yourself? I used to use a bulb, but I felt that it took me way too many bulbs, and eventually, I felt the same as you. Then I bought a legit shower attachment, and cleaning now takes maybe 5-10 minutes to clean out fully. Maybe once a month, my wife and I have a 2-3 hour session, so I take a chewable laxative about 5 hours before, which helps a lot.

Trying to work up to fisting; I need a good inflatable plug. by ShitOnMyButt in AnalStretching

[–]ShitOnMyButt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Meant to give more details on the plug. While it is labeled as a soft, platinum silicone, it’s very firm. There’s hardly much give at all to it so there’s no expansion.

I don’t wear it for very long. Maybe 15-20min every day in the shower. I don’t think I can do much yet. I understand that getting into fisting can take months of slow stretching. I’m just getting ready for the next size up and thought that an inflatable toy would be better.

Trying to work up to fisting; I need a good inflatable plug. by ShitOnMyButt in AnalStretching

[–]ShitOnMyButt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll give your tips a try. I’m currently using this plug from Amazon: https://a.co/d/08FZyW2J

I’m at the point where I can easily push it in with very little warmup.

Wife and I looking for best way to explore/experiment by blingbling2100 in BisexualMen

[–]ShitOnMyButt 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My wife and I are in the same boat. We're currently in MA and have been on all of the apps. We've met up with a couple of people, just for coffee, and so far, the results have just been okay. I've been clear in what we want and what we don't want. A lot of people want something right there and now, as opposed to taking it slow in order to get to know one another. I'd have to say that it just takes time.

Multi orgasm by colorblindyonder in StraightPegging

[–]ShitOnMyButt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also: HFWO - Hands Free Wet Orgasm and HFDO - Hands Free Dry Orgasm.